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Old 07-07-2019, 06:32 PM
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I could not imagine a world where I had to ask to go fishing.
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Old 07-07-2019, 06:43 PM
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Lost a friend over this. He was at my house one evening and I suggested that we go somewhere - don't even remember where. He said he had to call his wife to get permission first. I though he was joking and was just calling to let her know where he was. Permission was denied and she told him to come home...NOW! He left with his tail between his legs. He was a good friend too.

I'll cooperate with my wife when making my plans but I'm not asking permission for anything. I'm the boss of me. If you are a grown up and you have to ask permission - man up!
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Old 07-08-2019, 04:10 AM
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I will never have to ask to go fishing , me and my wife’s relationship started out our first date we went fishing for redfish and snuck wade fishing around Tampa Bay . She loves to go inshore , offshore doesn’t matter. 23 years later same deal. When we really start to see that we had a good thing going, we told each other that we would never boss or push each other around.God truly bless me with her.
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Old 07-08-2019, 05:52 AM
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Oh boy do I have input on this lol. When the fiance' and I first started dating I said these very simple words (almost verbatim):

"I'm a very simple guy. I am not a partier, drinker, womanizer, or anything along those lines. I work hard and I live for a few things. My family which includes you. My friends, who I mostly fish with. Fishing and hunting. Remove any of those 3 things and you won't want to be around me."

She got her first real taste of this over the last few weeks. We had problems with weather and getting crew. I ended up so miserable she told me point blank "Please go fishing because you are absolutely miserable to be around." LOL The last two years had been rough between starting our business, buying my first home, and just generally a lot of responsibilities. I had reached my breaking point. She even told one of her friends who invited us for a birthday brunch two weekends from now that I couldn't go because I may fish. We have a great understanding. I make sure I plan the weekends I want to fish and she tells me the weekends where she has plans for us. Weekday trips, when necessary, are completely open.

On the asking buddies to fish: No stranger to this response. The thing that really pisses me off is when you get the buddies who are always asking "When we going fishing man?!?" To which my response always is "I will let you know the next time we go" and we do. Several times. It's always a "Ahh man I can't..." followed by: "I have to mow the lawn." "Can't get out of work." "Wife has me going to a party this weekend." Then as time goes by, after many a "no", I stop asking. Then they ask the same question again...my answer is usually point blank. "You are always busy so I stopped asking."

People just can't seem to grasp that it's not a whenever you want to go sort of thing. Running these trips in the NE is like making stars align between weather, crew, and decent fishing.
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Old 07-08-2019, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted by HookMeUpII View Post
People just can't seem to grasp that it's not a whenever you want to go sort of thing. Running these trips in the NE is like making stars align between weather, crew, and decent fishing.
What they don’t get is you only get a relatively few of these special days in a LIFETIME. You can have “dinner” with your wife 100s of times a year, not weather dependent, not season dependent and as you said not “when the fishing is good dependent. Sadly a pussy whipped fukcer will let his bitchy wife tell him that “she wants to go to dinner” and he will be unable to go so she can pick at some grub at a place they’ve eaten 50 times before and will eat at 50 times again.

This also gets me when occasionally the stars align, as in great old friends who you might not have seen in decades and might not see again for years BUT it happens, you’re at a Christmas Party, some reunion whatever and are having a fukcing BLAST. You might not get this same group together for a year, years or maybe never again and tonight it’s ON and everything is perfect. I’ve seen an other wise great dude who unfortunately is also a pussy whipped chooche, counting the number of times he gets laid at home per year on 1 hand, bow out of one of these special nights early because his bitch wife, who he should have been tagging daily or at least weekly for decades whispers in his pussy whipped ear that she is feeling “frisky” and they split so he can maybe getting lucky with a woman he’s been romantically involved with since the 1980s or before.

I just shake my head and thank my lucky stars.....







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Old 07-08-2019, 08:56 AM
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Originally Posted by PINER_WAHOO View Post
...means u ain't goin' fishin'.
Works exactly this way for golf too.
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Old 07-08-2019, 09:59 AM
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LOL a lot of macho guys who don't ever have to tell their wives nuttin'.

I never say "I have to ask my wife", but I DO say I gotta check my calendar (I work on weekends, when most people want to fish).

I still DO ask my wife because it's pretty much a common courtesy especially with two young kids.

I'm happy all of you don't have to ask your significant others. Although I'm pretty sure some of you are just lying. Judging from all the fishermen I know in my life, I'd say about half of you are exaggerating.
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Old 07-08-2019, 09:59 AM
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Originally Posted by HookMeUpII View Post

People just can't seem to grasp that it's not a whenever you want to go sort of thing. Running these trips in the NE is like making stars align between weather, crew, and decent fishing.
Truer words were never spoken! Everyone wants to go until its time to go!
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Old 07-08-2019, 10:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Mpellet View Post
What they don’t get is you only get a relatively few of these special days in a LIFETIME. You can have “dinner” with your wife 100s of times a year, not weather dependent, not season dependent and as you said not “when the fishing is good dependent. Sadly a pussy whipped fukcer will let his bitchy wife tell him that “she wants to go to dinner” and he will be unable to go so she can pick at some grub at a place they’ve eaten 50 times before and will eat at 50 times again.


Yup. And to top it off, the only other option they have is to take a charter at $600 a head. We don't even ASK for money to just cover the fuel. Most of the time, they offer after the trip, just because I have a bunch of great friends (which is the truth). So it's literally as good as it gets...go fishing for practically peanuts and see things that 98% of the population NEVER gets to see.
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LOL a lot of macho guys who don't ever have to tell their wives nuttin'.

I never say "I have to ask my wife", but I DO say I gotta check my calendar (I work on weekends, when most people want to fish).

I still DO ask my wife because it's pretty much a common courtesy especially with two young kids.

I'm happy all of you don't have to ask your significant others. Although I'm pretty sure some of you are just lying. Judging from all the fishermen I know in my life, I'd say about half of you are exaggerating.
Depends on the relationship you have with your wife and how you have established it. If you read my post, I set the groundwork early only. I'm not a partier, drinker, womanizer. I am a hard worker and care for her. However, fishing/hunting is what heals my soul and everyone needs that. Asking is fine but at the same time if you have a wife that says "no" 9 times out of 10...you have a pretty crappy partner. Kids is understandable. You can't be skipping out and leaving the wife with the kids all the time. At the same time, to be a good father/husband, you need to have your own identity and have time to heal your soul. Fishing and hunting does that for me. It's also a give and take. If you go fishing one weekend, spend some time with the wife and kids the next.

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Old 07-09-2019, 02:04 PM
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I let them all know the beginning, don't ever bother getting in the way me going fishing, but you're welcome to come.
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Old 07-09-2019, 02:38 PM
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been with my wife for almost 40 year's told her in the beginning that I'd give up partying with the boys bars & rock & roll shows. but I'm going hunting & fishing no matter what & don't marry me if ya can't deal with it.
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Old 07-10-2019, 09:44 AM
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been with my wife for almost 40 year's told her in the beginning that I'd give up partying with the boys bars & rock & roll shows. but I'm going hunting & fishing no matter what & don't marry me if ya can't deal with it.
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I said almost exactly what you did 43 years ago and never has she complained!
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Old 07-10-2019, 11:26 AM
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WAIT.. Before I respond to this thread I better ask my wife.
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Old 07-10-2019, 11:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Shewillbemine View Post
LOL a lot of macho guys who don't ever have to tell their wives nuttin'.

I never say "I have to ask my wife", but I DO say I gotta check my calendar (I work on weekends, when most people want to fish).

I still DO ask my wife because it's pretty much a common courtesy especially with two young kids.

I'm happy all of you don't have to ask your significant others. Although I'm pretty sure some of you are just lying. Judging from all the fishermen I know in my life, I'd say about half of you are exaggerating.
Did you check with your wife before you posted this?
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Old 07-10-2019, 11:49 AM
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Seriously guys... pic of wives or it didn't happen
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Originally Posted by Fishingwell View Post
Seriously guys... pic of wives or it didn't happen
Nice work my man.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:19 PM
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seriously guys... Pic of wives or it didn't happen
!! X2!!
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Old 07-11-2019, 05:23 AM
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Originally Posted by PINER_WAHOO View Post
...means u ain't goin' fishin'.
Its a cop out, or could also be a nice way of sayin your boats too damn small and I'm too damn old to get my ass beat all day to catch some fish I can buy cheaper at the store.

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My wife, who still works night shift at a local hospital (I'm retired), will come home and ask, "Why aren't you fishing today?"
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This.
Most of the time I'm the one who starts whining to go home first. "Honey, It's almost sunset and we're still 30 miles off shore!"......
Why am I laughing at your screen name and rereading this post. .. ..rofl. Sorry nan
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