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Old 03-22-2019, 07:07 PM
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My wife is great. Smart, pretty, great mom, etc... BUT, the concept of home security is lost on her. Never ever closes the garage door. Never ever locks doors before leaving the house. I travel a good bit and I honestly worry for the safely of my family and my fishing stuff - all of which is in my wide-open garage.

When I bring this up I get responses like “I’ll remember to lock the doors when you remember to do the laundry.” That’s not realistic. What are my options?
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Old 03-22-2019, 07:10 PM
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Make everything smart and close the garage and lock the doors from your phone while away
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Old 03-22-2019, 07:12 PM
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Show her this.....

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Old 03-22-2019, 07:24 PM
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I have the LiftMaster myQ app on my phone, alerts me when door is opened during certain time periods and when it’s been opened for more than 5 minutes. I can then close it remotely.
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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
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What are your options? Do the damn laundry!
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Old 03-22-2019, 07:27 PM
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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
I have considered.
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Old 03-22-2019, 07:29 PM
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Get rid of the wife and lock up your fishing gear, CMON MAN!

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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
Make sure she doesn't shoot or stab.

I was thinking a break-in where only her stuff gets stolen. Or her stuff and some of your fishing gear but you "replace" your gear and let her know she cost you $6000
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Old 03-22-2019, 11:48 PM
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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
I was really about to post this myself, but unfortunately as others have said you never know when your friend gets stabbed in the eye with a vegetable peeler or beat with a vacuum

if I had kids I would be pretty pissed at the wife for that smart ass "laundry" comment, because more so that some fishing shit it is HER safety (and any kids) that are most at risk and secondary the man of the house if he is home and has let her carelessness slip by him as well (I doubt he does from the sounds of it)

you probably need to get some area crime reports together, get her in a self defense class (that she will probably act shitty at and blow off) and perhaps show her some of the recent home invasion threads on this very forum and other forums like it

I would look for a self defense class taught by a older former cop that does not take a lot of shit and that has seen bad stuff or by a female that gets pissed off when women take their and their families safety as a joke especially if that female officer can relate stories where careless women had the shit kicked out of them or worse as people stole their prized hand me downs and sold it for crack

I would cut out the "my fishing shit" angle because it is clearly not working and to your wife she is probably one of those "what insurance is for" until she learns what deductible means and rate increase or CANCELED AFTER CLAIM

a bit less out there than the above stage the break in perhaps have a neighbor you really trust if you have one be at the ready on txt to go into the garage and take some of HER shit the next time the garage door is left open or perhaps go through her car and leave shit scattered all over...do it when you are home and you know she has rolled in and left the garage door up and txt them to come on over and take shit

other than that the automated systems mentioned for garages and door locks is your best bet

the fact that you travel a lot and she still does it and apparently if I am reading leaves the house and leaves it unlocked is pretty damning

the other bet is to train your kids NOW (you said family) one so they do not pick up moms don't give a shit attitude and also so they can do it themselves and also nag the shit out of her to also do it

most hard headed women loath being shown up by their kids about shit that is important
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Steal her car in the middle of the night and hide it for a couple days That will teach her
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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
until she smacks that person with a cast iron pan or stabs them with a kitchen knife.

Perhaps looking at crime maps with local incidents listed may be of help?
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Wow. Absolutely no offense to your wife but I have to wonder what is going through her mind about simply locking the doors and closing the garage when she leaves home. It's not only her life at risk, it's your children's wellbeing too.

I traveled for a living too Graddy. Every evening I talked to my wife and ran down the list (garaged closed, door locked, etc.).

I like the idea of the app for the garage door. I'm wondering about those push button locks for the entry doors (combination of numbers would be needed to open the door from the outside). Do they lock automatically when the door is closed? If so, that might be another solution although she'd have to close the door behind her.

I think you need to have a serious sit down with her and perhaps have a LEO there to tell her the facts about home break ins and the potential danger she might be creating. Good luck.
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Close the garage door when you leave and disconnect the power supply. Get the always locked door knobs for the house, the kind you have to use your key for every time you enter. Install an alarm system with cameras you can monitor from you’re smart phone or tablet. Lights around the exterior with motion sensors for nighttime. Do you have any friends with the local law enforcement ? Have one of them go by with a sketch of some criminal they’re looking for who they believe might be in the neighborhood. Good luck
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Originally Posted by Graddy-fied View Post
When I bring this up I get responses like “I’ll remember to lock the doors when you remember to do the laundry.” That’s not realistic. What are my options?
WOW! Talk about passive aggressive.....So leaving the house unlocked is intentional??? There is more to this than she is saying. Behavior like that is saying more than words.
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Old 03-23-2019, 04:15 AM
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Old 03-23-2019, 04:27 AM
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Sadly, it will take something bad to happen for her to change her ways. You should stage someone breaking in the house to scare the shit out of her while she is home alone. Text or call her and ask her if she has locked up.... Have someone walk in with a mask. That will learn her...
This is an aweful idea, you can loose control of this situation and so many bad things can happen.
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Old 03-23-2019, 04:55 AM
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Simple- Put her jewelry box in the garage!
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