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Old 03-18-2019, 04:39 PM
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I'm not married. I have had a couple of bad cohabition experiences so I decided I'm better off without it. But here lately I wonder if I'm missing out on something. I'm 38. I see a lot of posts on here from married guys talking about things that get on your nerves about your wives, more serious issues, etc. Some of it I'm reading between the lines. I have a question for you married guys and guys who live with women. If your wife doesn't track your online keystrokes etc, can you tell me honestly do you regret it or are you glad you're cohabiting/married? What are the pluses and minuses in your opinion? Is a guy who grows old alone missing out or better off?

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Old 03-18-2019, 04:42 PM
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Hmmm. 55 maried 30 years and not sure! 50/50 I'd say.
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married 44 years-- she likes to fish - and a really good cook--
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They keep us from chasing cars!
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If you have to ask the question.....
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Old 03-18-2019, 04:49 PM
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Absolute YES - for many of them, but ABSOLUTELY NO for some of them!!! Reference the hot/crazy matrix for some guidance.

You cannot let things slide early on... you either discuss it and address it or learn to live with it "forever" also knowing that you're enabling future behavior. Many of those things that are being discussed in the other thread are not "deal breakers", just amusing/confusing differences on the way most women think. We will NEVER understand some of that stuff, so don't even try.
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Met my now wife at 37. At that point in my life I was ok with the notion that I might never marry. You are probably set in your ways as I was. Don’t settle. If the right gal comes along, go for it. Remember natrural selection though. There are a lot of crazy ones left in the single herd.
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Married to my first and only “best friend”. 27 years this October. We have one bank account and her job is to pay bills at home and look after accounts payable at work. We have almost the exact same taste in furniture, trucks, colors, styles and everything else. It’s odd but I don’t sleep if she is not beside me. That’s the best I can describe it.
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Old 03-18-2019, 04:54 PM
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If there was not the want for what those gals have, not many would be living with them.
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Old 03-18-2019, 04:57 PM
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Can’t live with em...can’t live without em!

A quick story....A couple years ago a good buddy was having some issues with his lady. He was venting, so I listened.
At one point he said “I just can’t figure her out”! I let him finish and simply responded, I have your solution....his ears perked to my response”
“Stop trying to figure her out”.

Point is, women are simply wired different. In my 58 years, I’ve never met one that wasn’t!
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Old 03-18-2019, 04:58 PM
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It all depends on the person, for some marriage works, others not so. I enjoy being married, have been for 27 years and been with her for 32. I like that she has been there through many shared experiences that remind me when it gets tough just how good life is. When I start to get off track on an idea or action she has been there to add some sanity that makes me think it all the way through. I may still make that mistake but at least there was chance to have corrected it, men can be bone headed at times. As we have grown older together, I am 50, she is 49, it makes life sweeter for each other.

Now there are times she makes me mad or pissed off, which I am sure I do for her also. I have to think of her before I do some financial decision because it will affect her to. I can not just get up and go without first checking our calendar to make sure “we” don’t already have something planned. There are many negatives if you look at them as a negative and that might scare both a man and a woman off from marriage. But for me I really enjoy being around my wife.

I know alot of guys at work who have gone the other way and will not marry. There are pro’s and con’s either decision. But whatever way you choose just be positive and happy with it and life will be satisfying.

Well thats my two cents........
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I'm on my second wife, if something happens to her there won't be a 3rd. I tell my son to not get married. Marriage does 2 things to a man these days. Controls your bank account and your sex life, if you want to help her with her car payment by all means do. but you don't have to. If the sex dries up (and it will) move to the next lady. If you want kids, find a girl that has kids. love them like your own. When shes tired of you and moves to the next guy. you don't have to pay child support.The kids will remember you, especially if have done right by them. That being said I like the company of a women and the warmth and comfort she provides. I'm just not ready to lost half of everything when one of us decides we've had enough. It's to easy to get divorced theses days. I think you can do it online..lol

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I must be a glutton for punishment. I Iike having a female companion to keep me in line and also having the company.
Since I was 18, I have either been living with a girl or been married except for a few short lapses. On wife number two BTW.
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I got married early, big mistake.
then I showed some wild oats for a couple decades, shacking up a few times along the way. I had a lot of good times and some UGLY breakups. One woman who had only lived with me a couple of months, took everything she could carry when I kicked her out. I had a kid and couldn’t let him see the crazy that Aunt jennifer really was.

anyway, I was pretty much settled into the idea of banging my way through a long bachelor existence with occasional relationships. Then I met my wife. I was just playing around at first but she is a good woman and a nice person. It is well worth it to have a partner in life. You just can’t force it. As my dad said ‘when it happens you will know’.
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My wife is the best person that I know, and my best friend. I'd rather have her with me fishing, dining, and traveling, than not having her there.

You just have to find the right one!
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absolutely worth it if you find someone you want to be around. it's not always perfect though.
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Old 03-18-2019, 05:18 PM
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Originally Posted by bikem View Post
Hmmm. 55 maried 30 years and not sure! 50/50 I'd say.
^^ Exactly this. Except been married 33 years.

Each year seems to add a couple percentage points to the "no" side these days.
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Old 03-18-2019, 05:27 PM
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Cohabitation? Not really committed, walk out any time.

Married? Takes teamwork, big head commitment, takes hard work, little head commitment, can really be fun. Going on 32 years. These days, most people think they can walk out anytime. They don't take their vows very seriously. If you are on your third divorce, you are probably the problem.

No need to get married until you find the right one.
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I'm not married. I have had a couple of bad cohabition experiences so I decided I'm better off without it. But here lately I wonder if I'm missing out on something. I'm 38. I see a lot of posts on here from married guys talking about things that get on your nerves about your wives, more serious issues, etc. Some of it I'm reading between the lines. I have a question for you married guys and guys who live with women. If your wife doesn't track your online keystrokes etc, can you tell me honestly do you regret it or are you glad you're cohabiting/married? What are the pluses and minuses in your opinion? Is a guy who grows old alone missing out or better off?
I think every married person, male/female will tell you there are good and bad side effects to cohabitation. Pros: It's cheaper, there is someone to make you chicken soup if you're sick, or to rub some Vicks on you, maybe cook dinner or clean up depending on your arrangement. Cons: she'll be in your way, you'll be in her way, she'll want to cuddle when you want to go out. It's a trade off, sex is right there, but then it's not always as exciting because it is right there, all the time.

Now we have kids so it's a no brainer, the kids can be tough, but man are they worth every second we put into them. If we never had kids would I/we do it again, maybe, maybe not. We had it made when single, neither of us stepped outside the relationship, but it was more romantic. However there is something to be said for a shared responsibility.

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Married 19 years. When you find the right one, it is not so bad.
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