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Old 12-05-2018, 08:03 AM
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I am looking for suggestion on keeping track of my 80 YO active, healthy Mother. I don't necessarily want to keep track of her but want her to wear something that can send out an alert in case of an accident.
Some of the challenges I face :
She is 2000 mile away
Lives in a rural area on 12 acres
Weak, satellite based internet
She has verizon which is spotty. ATT is useless. She is not good about keeping her cellphone with her.

I am thinking about SPOT but know nothing about them.

Would THT have any suggestions?

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Get her a eunoch servant.
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I take it you putting in a granny suite and having her move in is not an option?
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I'm 85, and I'd damned well object to being tracked by my kids.
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My 82 year-old mom (lives 200 miles away) emails me and my siblings every day before noon to check in. If she forgets or we don't hear from her one of us will call to make sure she's OK. She also has a caregiver that stops in and helps her a few days a week, and can be there in a few minutes for emergencies.

Might not be what you're looking for but this method works for us...for now. Will likely have to go to one of those alert systems in the next few years. Good luck.



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Dog tracking collar or maybe life alert
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Get her a eunoch servant.
Are you volunteering?

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There are devices made specifically for situations like this, e.g. Life Alert and such. But she will have to carry that device with her -- if she's not good with the cell phone, she might not be good with the device either. Maybe a smartwatch of some sort?
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That’s a hard thing. My MIL was very active as well. She would not use anything like life alert bc she felt she could pretty much take care of herself. One day my SIL called us all freaked out bc she could not find her mom. My MIL worked as a volunteer for a food distribution canter for the needy. The last person to see her said she was bringing someone home that she had known for years that was a recipient of the food center. All of the siblings began calling her, no answer. I said let’s go check at Walmart and there she was. There was 3 vehicles all coming to a head when she walked out and saw us all. Made for a good laugh after all of that but from then on we had Find my IPhone installed on her phone so I could always find her. Good luck.
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Some of our senior members are bound to want pictures before volunteering to help.
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AT&T has a thing called Secure Family that tracks phone. I'm sure Verizon has something similar. The reality is if she doesn't carry the device, whatever it is you can't track her. You could track her car with a device on it.
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Cellular signal is not nearly as big of an issue as you might think for most of these devices. Essentially they need just enough signal to send text messages. My grandmother has a pendant button. If she has an emergency, and is in an area with good signal it has 2 way communication. If bad signal, it is one way. Here is through the alarm company.
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Originally Posted by Beuford T. Justice View Post
I'm 85, and I'd damned well object to being tracked by my kids.
Until you fall and break your hip, and can't get anyone to help you............

I've seen this a bunch of times. By age 90 one in four women, and one in eight males will have suffered a hip fracture.

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Old 12-06-2018, 01:15 AM
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Put one of those chips they implant in animals under her skin.
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Old 12-06-2018, 01:35 AM
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80 is the new 60 , everybody knows that .

Any of my kids try to track me there going to find out how rough I can be
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I understand wanting to look out for her but...


If she's healthy, active, and I'm assuming still mentally competent, maybe she's not carrying her cell phone because she doesn't want to be tracked. Maybe, after 80 years of life experience, she figures she can take care of herself. She made it through 60 years of her life without even having the option of carrying a cell phone and somehow survived it.



So, tell her you're worried about her and would like her to carry her cell phone and accept that she's old enough to decide for herself.
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My father went through this with my grandmother who was 96 on her own a few years ago. She was very mobile up until about 92, still driving. I talked to my dad and uncles one day about her being on her own and maybe a life alert or caretaker or something would make sense. My uncle looked at me and said you have the conversation and see if you do better. So I did. She laughed and said I was left alone while my mother worked when I was 6, got through the depression, WWII, raised 4 boys, buried my husband of 70 years, if I fall down the stairs and pass, so be it. It’s been a great life.

There were great neighbors around and most of us were only a couple hours a way, so while it was uncomfortable for us it was her wish. My uncles and father just would keep saying she earned the right to make that decision. Your situation sounds a little different, but food for thought.

Btw she died a few years ago at 98, unfortunately not in her home where she wanted to die.
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Taught my mom to text She keeps in contact with my brother and I Checks in every morning and I call her every evening. If she is going shopping or anything else she lets us know. It's a worrie having old r parents on their own.
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Originally Posted by chrispnet View Post
Get her a eunoch servant.
Had to look that one up. What is your price, are you a carpenter, plumber, horticulturist, bricklayer, accountant, HVAC expert, mechanic?

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I take it you putting in a granny suite and having her move in is not an option?
Nothing doing. She is too independent. She also has a house close by but doesn't stay around very long. She has a lot of business on the west coast to deal with.

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I'm 85, and I'd damned well object to being tracked by my kids.
You may be related to her.

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Dog tracking collar or maybe life alert
Maybe the second part


Thanks for all replies. We may give the Life Alert a try. She really is active and independent and probably needs to be left alone to do her thing.
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