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Old 09-09-2018, 03:32 PM
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Don’t let that aneurysm harm two people. Slow down and realize there is only so much you can do. Reach out for help where needed, let daughter gain some independence and do her own research on reputable mechanics, and remember what is replaceable and what is not.
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Old 09-09-2018, 04:10 PM
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Man, Ive read your posts for years on here.

You're a smart dude. Dont let your stress eat you up. Take a breath.

If you stress yourself out you aren't going to be a good helper for your fiance and daughter.

Ask someone for some help. Nothing wrong with getting some help. Shit, put the word out on here.

We are all in this together. Blessings sent my friend.
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Old 09-09-2018, 04:39 PM
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Billy, text me next time. Remember I am on the Neck most of the time. Had to save my own boat from sinking this morning too cause I was actually in Fredburg until today. Hope things go better for you and the fiance. Don't hesitate to text me if you need a hand down here.
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Old 09-09-2018, 04:42 PM
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Good luck to ya man. I've been where you are. One day and one thing at a time. Please let the THT crowd know what we can do to help. Prayers to you and your family.
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Old 09-09-2018, 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted by rocksandblues View Post
Just venting sitting in ICU
SO been here for 10 days with Weeks and weeks to go
fiance is have a rough day. Really not herself and combative
I am driving 200 miles a day between house hospital and work which in opposite directions

so there is a hurricane coming. Kinda been lost her at hospital finally thought to check on Boat. Pulled up cam and my heart sank. Crazy tide was inches away from bottom of Boat. I had left it (didnít plan on hospital) mid way but weíll oit of way of high tides. So I was calling everyone I know at river and got a hold of neighbor who was able to raise out of trouble - for now

do I skip time at hospital to pull Boat on land

daughter called for Harrisonburg college- Honda transmission crapped out. Now I have to find a Reputable shop out there!

and also in backgroup is financial and insurance crap from fiancť.

Whooo
pic of fiance?
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Old 09-09-2018, 04:56 PM
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pic of fiance?
thats an all time low, even for you.
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Old 09-09-2018, 05:07 PM
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Lots of great guys on here

i am venting. It helps and Iím sorry you knuckleheads have to hear it. Maybe entertaining

I know I am in for a long grind. And I would sink my boat 10x if I could get my lisa back today.

She WILL make a full recovery. She has to.

Thanks for the bmails. I need to load some movies on an iPad so I leave you all in peace to debate the important bbq and nfl issues !
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Old 09-09-2018, 05:44 PM
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Merica needs better health insurance. we give billions to ferrin countries why our own suffer
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Originally Posted by rocksandblues View Post
Lots of great guys on here

i am venting. It helps and Iím sorry you knuckleheads have to hear it. Maybe entertaining

I know I am in for a long grind. And I would sink my boat 10x if I could get my lisa back today.

She WILL make a full recovery. She has to.

Thanks for the bmails. I need to load some movies on an iPad so I leave you all in peace to debate the important bbq and nfl issues !
not sure how much time you have had to hang out in the hospital in the past, but a couple of tips. Thankfully my wifeís situation is nothing like what you are dealing with, but we are no stranger to multi night stays at the hospital.

1) that ice they give patients to crunch on makes a mean liquor drink, and will chill down a beer in about 10 minutes if you put it in one of those big styrofoam cups with some water.

2) occasionally show up at shift change time with a couple dozen hot Krispy Kremeís and drop them at the nurses station. Donít say a word, but have a box in your room too. They will put 2 and 2 together.

3) a strong buzz will insure you sleep through the roughly 2am checkin and around out a lot of the random background noise.
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post


not sure how much time you have had to hang out in the hospital in the past, but a couple of tips. Thankfully my wifeís situation is nothing like what you are dealing with, but we are no stranger to multi night stays at the hospital.

1) that ice they give patients to crunch on makes a mean liquor drink, and will chill down a beer in about 10 minutes if you put it in one of those big styrofoam cups with some water.

2) occasionally show up at shift change time with a couple dozen hot Krispy Kremeís and drop them at the nurses station. Donít say a word, but have a box in your room too. They will put 2 and 2 together.

3) a strong buzz will insure you sleep through the roughly 2am checkin and around out a lot of the random background noise.
the subtlety of number 2 is outstanding.

Everybody loves donuts. Most people don't buy donuts regularly, but if they magically appear everybody eats them. Twelve happy nurses for $5, you really can't beat that.
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Originally Posted by Double tyme View Post

the subtlety of number 2 is outstanding.

Everybody loves donuts. Most people don't buy donuts regularly, but if they magically appear everybody eats them. Twelve happy nurses for $5, you really can't beat that.
yup. If you ever find yourself at MUSC, it is tested and proven there several times over. Same can be said at Spartanburg Regional in the L&D ward.
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Old 09-09-2018, 07:21 PM
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Never forget, there are Always MANY folks who's lives are much, much worse than yours!

You still have a week to get things settled with the boat, but when it comes right down to it, it really is just a boat right?

Prayers sent for what your going through with the ICU, trust me, I can relate.
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One of the houses I have under construction is in Middlesex. I am over that way a few times a week. If your boat is close and you have a trailer I will be glad to pull it and store at my shop ( in West Point) . Serious offer
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That's a stand up guy for ya OP. Don't ever be afraid to say YES!!!!
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Originally Posted by Rapi View Post
God gives you tough challenges because He sees your great inner strength.

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Yeah, i know the Bible and believe ^^^^ that but i want to say, God i don't want to be any stronger!


I believe in prayer and it is working so thx!!!! everyone
and the offers are serious amazing and generous. I have been bringing the nurses Frostys. There is a Wendys inside MCV
i can sleep anywhere BUT she is up every 30 mins upset and uncomfortable. Then she cries, then she is frustrated because words don't come.
She has pulled out her A line twice and her pic line yesterday. If she pulls out her brain drain it is super big deal so she is restrained again and she doesn't understand

In real life she is the sweetest most generous person- but she was so mean to a nurse yesterday the head nurse had to come in and give her a 30 min extra break so the nurse wouldn't cry.
I was so sorry and apologetic- they keep saying they are used to it with brain injuries, but my gal is super feisty yesterday

Back at work 90 mile north of her. got maybe 2 hours sleep. A friend is going with me today or tomo to pull boat and storm proof the River place

This friend lost a son to cancer last year so its nice to talk about things. getting away for 1/2 a day will be good.

PS- the freak tides and flooding here already are scary

Again, i like THT and the guys i meet and the guys i "meet" just online. It is an interesting social anonymous world here- but most are really stand up guys.
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Old 09-10-2018, 05:08 AM
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One day at a time, Do what you have to do to get things done.

Right after birth my daughter was sick and spent months at a time in Children's Hospitals.
I spent everyone of those nights ( few years worth) with her at the hospital and this went on until age 15 in 2011,then she started to turn the corner. Still issues to this day but better.
That was a long fight and thought we were turning the corner to somewhat normalcy in our lives.

End of 2011 my wife was diagnosed with a brain tumor, valentines day 2012 they took it out resulting in changes, she has become an epileptic since as well, she has lost some memory etc...
Not the same person I married but still is my wife.

I can relate man, best advice fight the fight, One day at a time. Life around you goes on, you have to get things done.
Don't let it get away from you.

Close friends always asked how I deal with 20 years of it...
What are my options, walk away from my girls.. never happen....

Few good Rum Cokes always help.

Moral of this story again one day a time.
Can't do anything about yesterday as yesterday is gone.., Don't worry about tomorrow until tomorrow comes, Get through today.

Need something let me know.

Fight the fight.
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Old 09-10-2018, 05:25 AM
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Take a day off for yourself. Pull out the boat, don't drive 90 miles and have a few cold ones. One day away from the ICU really isn't going to matter. The RN's and techs will be there all day and night. Your girl might just need a little alone time also. Or the Nurses may give her an extra dose and let her sleep and rest. In reality what are you doing other then being there? You can miss a day, she's getting 2-1 24 - 7 care. Your work will start when she needs help in a less staffed floor or rehab. It's a long road, with big hill yet to climb, don't burn out early. Many times family members spent too much time visiting when what the patient needs is rest.
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Originally Posted by rbhankins001 View Post
Op post on here what you need done and where.

You will be pleasantly surprised.

Take care of yourself bro it can be overwhelming. You will get through it and so will she.
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What area is your boat located?
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Billy, text me next time. Remember I am on the Neck most of the time. Had to save my own boat from sinking this morning too cause I was actually in Fredburg until today. Hope things go better for you and the fiance. Don't hesitate to text me if you need a hand down here.
True. I didn't know the location of his boat but willing to drive to pull the boat out if needed. Looks like KJS has that covered.
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