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Old 09-03-2018, 01:36 PM
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So awful.

If she's gonna be out the job (there will be others) make sure if she has any comp time, vacation time etc she gets all she is rightfully owed from the employer.

Best wishes. Wish I could help you somehow.
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Old 09-03-2018, 01:37 PM
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Great looking couple and a very lovely lady. My heart goes out to you.

So sorry this happened, but I will pray for a speedy recovery!
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Old 09-03-2018, 01:42 PM
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Dang man that sucks. Prayers sent your way
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Old 09-03-2018, 01:46 PM
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Originally Posted by rocksandblues View Post
yes mercedes will let her out of lease with proper paperwork

Her protege has already been offered her job although she has 6 weeks short term disability leave No way she will be back so she will lose her job at some point.
I am going through her desk now looking for her personal bills, cc, check books, bank statements
her 24 year old daughter is next of kin and is tasked with all the “consent “ issues.
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Be thankful that you're all on the same side and that the daughter can help. If she has short term disability through work, it seems like she could also have long term disability?

The bills will have to get paid, and I assume you're one of those guys that stays on top of everything and usually they all get paid on the nose. Don't forget that half the country pays their bills 30-60-90 days late. It won't be the end of the world if a credit card gets missed. If the daughter calls them and has documentation for the situation, most may defer payments etc, but it is probably easier to find everything and make the minimum payments until you sort out a longer term plan.

If mercedes will let her out of the lease easily enough, that sounds like a good path to go down. Make sure there's no catch, or that there isn't a better plan there. (like transferring/selling the lease to someone else)

And just think how pissed the finance will be when she finds out you got rid of her benz. Keep your spirits up man, spent a few months in hospitals with my folks over the last 5 years.
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Old 09-03-2018, 01:59 PM
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You might want your lawyer to look into SSI disability. From what I hear the approval process takes a while with very few approvals with the fist attempt. I'd take a guess and ask the hospital care worker about this also. They might have a vested interest in some of that money.
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Hopefully she has a good secondary ins. ? Assuming she has good primary ins. the secondary 20% can be considerable. Look into getting her on medicaid through her HR person at work.
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Continuous prayers to you both. Next, some states have common law marriages after living together for two years. I don't know if that would make it more complicated than it already is. Best to both of you.
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Great advice offered by many already.

Take everything ONE DAY AT A TIME!

When you feel you can't go anymore. Just stop and breathe. Worry only about your fiancé and what is best for her. Be there for her first and foremost. Everything else will be OK.

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Old 09-03-2018, 02:49 PM
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Nice photograph. At least now when I visit the tavern I’ll know what you look like so I can say hi. Also She is very beautiful. Again, here for ya brother.
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And since I haven't seen it in this thread (unless I missed):

you absolutely CAN beat the odds!

Miracles DO happen!
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Old 09-03-2018, 03:53 PM
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Prayers sent get counsel .. God bless.
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Old 09-03-2018, 05:00 PM
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Still praying for her, you and her girls. As you stated in the prayer request sticky, God has been in control all the way from the beginning till now. He will continue creating miracles in her.

James 5:16 The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Keep your head up and stand strong. He has been and will continue answering your prayers. Keep us posted as she continues on the path of being made whole.
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Old 09-03-2018, 05:13 PM
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Is common law still a thing
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Saying prayers for both of you.
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Old 09-03-2018, 06:10 PM
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Thoughts and prayers with you the road ahead is going to be long & difficult I am going on year eleven of looking after my wife who is wheel chair bound from a stroke the first year was filled with hope that all would be good and slowly it has sunk in it is not going to get better hang in their you are going to have some tough decisions to make if you truly love her and want to see this through
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Old 09-03-2018, 06:17 PM
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Good luck to you and her. Sounds like she has a lot to recover and come back to.

I would call all of the companies and ask what they need to keep the account current. They may say as long as they receive a payment they are good; it doesn't matter who from. Others may want a court-appointed guardian in place to release information and access.
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Very sad to read this. Very glad you are on the same page with her daughter/children. That in itself is special, and not common these days.

Take one day af a time, and don’t worry about decisions that need to be made in due time too quickly. Medical stuff is basically the only thing pressing. Have a good cry. Go grab a decent dinner with your/her kids, and let the nurses and Dr.’s do their jobs. Advocate for your loved one as necessary, but it is critically important for your wellbeing that you take time to catch your breath yourself.

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Old 09-03-2018, 07:11 PM
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Sorry to hear about your horrible news. I didn't see it if mentioned, but when you talk to her HR, have them double check to see if she hasn't already made you a beneficiary in any of her insurance coverages. Also look into what FMLA might be able to help with scuring her position with the company. If I remember right, it can secure employment anywhere they have an opening, not her last position. Hoping for better news to come.

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JUST sent you a PM and praying hard for all of you!

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Old 09-04-2018, 04:45 AM
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Sick days, short term disability and long term disability are benefits of many, but not all jobs.
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