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Old 08-26-2018, 03:47 PM
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Been a very long time since I have been involved with youth team sports, but little J wanted to play football this year.

So, today was the first game - an exhibition game and already parents are complaining about who is starting, playing time, the coach, and the league. Jesus people, it’s week one!

however, one case is peculiar. The coach told one kid he has to sit three games for missing three practices while on a family vacation. The mother and father were beyond upset and want other parents to talk to the coach.

Now, keep in mind this is a development/instructional league. This is not some elite all star or travel team, these kids are new to the game and learning. The season is 9 games total, no playoffs, just 8 games that count and one exhibition. So this kid is missing a third of the season.

Also, we parents did not know when the season started when we signed up in May. We were told the schedule “would follow”. They literally emailed us and texted on a Friday afternoon that the first practice would be on Monday. So, not as if we could plan vacations around the schedule.

So what say tht, is making the kid sit three games excessive or not?
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What happened to a few extra up-downs or run an extra lap? Coach is way over the top.
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Old 08-26-2018, 04:28 PM
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I also agree that it's inappropriate and over the top. But there is another consideration about school football in general. Most if not all the jocks I went to school with complain about the aches and pains they feel actually started by some of the serious hits they absorbed when playing football. It is something to consider..
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Sounds excessive at that level. Would be more appropriate for Junior Varsity or High School Varsity. But then again I'm not the coach.
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Yep it’s excessive. But the parents should understand that if their kid was worth a shit he wouldn’t be sitting, that’s just a fact of organized sports.
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If a friggin' game. Does little J know how to kneel?
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Old 08-26-2018, 04:56 PM
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How old are these kids? It sounds ridiculous. When mine played soccer, I always insisted that they show for practice and show for games when the weather was bad even if they knew half the other kids wouldn't - it was a commitment. I always felt the value of it was not being good at a sport, it was about understanding teamwork. But under the circumstances you describe, punishing a small child because of a decision his parents really didn't even have much of a chance to make is not appropriate.
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kids sports are douche magnets. So hard to keep it real. I say this as parent and a coach.
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Who told you the kid was sitting purely for the vacation?
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Also, we parents did not know when the season started when we signed up in May. We were told the schedule “would follow”. They literally emailed us and texted on a Friday afternoon that the first practice would be on Monday. So, not as if we could plan vacations around the schedule.

So what say tht, is making the kid sit three games excessive or not?
Excessive. If the coach had given dates when he signed up, or shortly after and then he missed practice, then I would say to bench him. But with that short of a notice sounds pretty harsh to me.
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Old 08-26-2018, 05:07 PM
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Who told you the kid was sitting purely for the vacation?
I was 5 feet away when the coach told the kid and parents. Also the parents approached me later explaining what happened, as they did other parents.

These kids are 12-13
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I coached youth football for many years as an assistant coach. The head coach sets the (attendance) rules for his team which IMO can be a bad idea. We often had kids miss the start of practice due to scheduled family trips and they never were forced to miss 3 games. It did put the kid back a week because there are rules on having x days of practice without pads, etc.

I would raise the issue to the association the runs the program to see if this is common and acceptable. Either way the coach is a DB.
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Old 08-26-2018, 05:10 PM
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I feel like there is more to this. Coach want to win more than anything. If the kid was truleu an asset the coach would let him play.


if you want a case study. Look at Ohio state. Punishments are more lenient when your good.
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Coaches at that level are usually just volunteers and or they have a kid on the team. All kind of idiots that think they know the game and how to motivate kids.
Unless the parents made no commication to the coach that they would miss practice due to vacation, then the coach may be justified.
There are also rules about spending a certain amount of time in helmets and pads before hitting so not sure of the specific circumstances.
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They can speak with the board president if they feel like they have been treated unfairly.
I personally think there is more to this story.
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They can speak with the board president if they feel like they have been treated unfairly.
I personally think there is more to this story.
maybe there is more, I’m not sure, but I don’t see how.
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So the other kids have toiled away with practice and parents dragging them back and forth learning the value of hard work. Then Billy bob is allowed to miss practice go galavanting around seaworld eating funnel cakes and then returns expecting just to plop in the the rotation. what does that say to the kids who have been grinding it out.
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How many total practices have there been? What are the league rules? Are there mandatory conditioning hours that were missed? 3 seems excessive but missing practice hurts the team and sets a precedent. 1 seems a bit more appropriate.
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So the other kids have toiled away with practice and parents dragging them back and forth learning the value of hard work. Then Billy bob is allowed to miss practice go galavanting around seaworld eating funnel cakes and then returns expecting just to plop in the the rotation. what does that say to the kids who have been grinding it out.
What does it say when the team/league gives you less than 3 days notice when the season starts? I can see your point if they told us in May when the first practice was, but they gave us no advance notice.
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How many total practices have there been? What are the league rules? Are there mandatory conditioning hours that were missed? 3 seems excessive but missing practice hurts the team and sets a precedent. 1 seems a bit more appropriate.
12. The first two are no pads/conditioning, which the player was there for. He missed the first three “in pads” practices.
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