Notices
Like Tree116Likes

Is my neighbor being a dick?

Old 08-20-2018, 05:43 PM
  #41  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: North NJ
Posts: 662
Default

If you stop blowing it back in will it all wash away, then problem solved?
TurboJoe is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:43 PM
  #42  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2018
Posts: 287
Default

I think your neighbor should address the issue.

I think you went to far with the blower.

The neighbor has as much right to protest children playing in the street as you do to protest the gravel. If your child is old enough to be in the street he is old enough sweep and scoop up the gravel prior to playing there. That would also teach personal responsibilty.

The town or county should get the problem corrected if notified.

It is probably better for all if you take it upon yourself and put some type diverter in to stop the gravel and apologize to the neighbor for trying to take away his Richard cranium crown.

Fwiw I have had to deal with kids using the street for a play ground. I didn't care for it, balls, bikes and toys often in the way. I think you should build a place for the child to play on your property or take him to a park and keep the street to be used as a public thoroughfare. I never complained because I wanted peace. In my case it was dangerous and no one was ever supervising.
Finsinchessy is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:44 PM
  #43  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 3,134
Default

Why would you blow the gravel back just to have it wash down again?

Let it rain. Collect gravel from street. Dispose of gravel. Rinse and repeat until either A. no more gravel washes into the street or B. no gravel remains. Your neighbor obviously does not care about the gravel so it is free rein once in the street.
Locke N Load is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:45 PM
  #44  
Retired
 
Join Date: Jul 2018
Posts: 106
Default

You said he is a nice guy, so I'd try to keep it that way. Having spats with neighbors rarely works out well for either party. I'd BS with him again, reminding him that you'll happily take the lead in fixing the issue. If that doesn't work, you'll have to continue blowing it off the street. If you keep blowing it back on his property it will continue to end up on the street. Blow it elsewhere if you can.
THT Mod 16 is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:48 PM
  #45  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Charleston, SC
Posts: 563
Default

Originally Posted by Swedeviking1 View Post
Ok hear me out.
My neighbor is a nice guy. He just installed a gravel parking spot for his kid who moved into his finished basement. Kid is ok.
Every time it rains the gravel washes into the street.
We live at the end of a dead end street so itís just us. At the bottom of a small hill.
My 7 y/o loves riding his scooter and bike out on the road and it is a super safe place for him to do so.
With this new parking spot the gravel is like I said all over the road after a rain. I take my backpack blower and blow it back in. Iím starting to get pissed. I have asked nicely 2 times for them to somehow fix the issue. I even offered to help. Still nothing. So today I blew the gravel up their paved driveway and left it in front of their door.
Now. Your probably wondering why Iím so pissed. 2 weeks ago my kid slid on the gravel. Fell and punctured his knee to the tune of 10 stitches.

In the opinion of tht. Am I justified in being pissed.

Im ready for a war. Or if he wants to behave I will be a good neighbor. Itís just bullshit in my eyes.

Swede,
I gotta say. These threads about is [insert name] being a [insert pejorative] for doing blah blah blah? are sometimes interesting reads. I even kinda wanted to chime in with good suggestions when I read the title.
BUT, after reading the "offense". Um. Man. Come on.
Some of your neighbor's gravel is in the street and he is a slacker for not cleaning it out of the public street after every rain makes him a Richard head?

I don't think so,,,I.M.O.
bikem likes this.
olyveoil is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:48 PM
  #46  
Senior Member
 
Jack F's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 11,361
Default

Originally Posted by THT Mod 16 View Post
You said he is a nice guy, so I'd try to keep it that way. Having spats with neighbors rarely works out well for either party. I'd BS with him again, reminding him that you'll happily take the lead in fixing the issue. If that doesn't work, you'll have to continue blowing it off the street. If you keep blowing it back on his property it will continue to end up on the street. Blow it elsewhere if you can.
Good idea, eventually he'll have just a dirt parking spot
Jack F is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:49 PM
  #47  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 161
Default

Teach your kid to get up a good head of steam and powerslide through the gravel or just get him a dirt bike to do doughnuts, he'll be slinging gravel with the best of them in no time.
Lprizman and Gnrphil like this.
MarSci is online now  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:50 PM
  #48  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: South Central Ohio
Posts: 549
Default

You sound like a pain in the ass neighbor.

Dude had a gravel spot poured for a car. A little gravel washes out in the street.

Its gonna happen. Do you expect the guy to be out there after every rain to scrape up a little lost gravel? Shit happens, a little gravel is going to wash away until it all locks in place.

Not his fault your kid got hurt, that just comes with the territory of riding a scooter.

You started a war. If I was your neighbor, we'd have a serious issue. I think you need to go apologize and agree on what you both are going to do to fix the problem.
Lprizman and RyanL11 like this.
lugoismad is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:51 PM
  #49  
Senior MemberCaptains Club MemberPLEDGER
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Northern Ohio
Posts: 15,328
Default

Originally Posted by padidvr View Post
This super safe place on the road where the rain is washing the gravel, do you own it as in private road or is it a city public road?
He answered that it's town owned.

I must be to easy going, the kids next door are in my yard and leave balls, toys, etc. on my driveway and in my yard. I have come home to find our blacktop completely covered with chalk drawings of animals or whatever the kids wanted to draw. The only thing that I get a little pissed is the baseballs I have run over with my mower. This being said I would just put a piece of wood or whatever you need to do to keep the gravel from washing out on to the street. I wouldn't even ask about it, I would just do it.

Last edited by RussH; 08-20-2018 at 06:02 PM.
RussH is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:53 PM
  #50  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 711
Default

Lugoismad - I agree completely.
Lprizman likes this.
Bayou Dularge is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 05:57 PM
  #51  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: On the beach
Posts: 3,048
Default

There is one thing I am sure Right now. I’m glad I don’t live next-door some of you!
bikem and Lprizman like this.
Still Stoked is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:03 PM
  #52  
Senior MemberCaptains Club MemberPLEDGER
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: SC
Posts: 10,944
Default

Originally Posted by lugoismad View Post
You sound like a pain in the ass neighbor.

Dude had a gravel spot poured for a car. A little gravel washes out in the street.

Its gonna happen. Do you expect the guy to be out there after every rain to scrape up a little lost gravel? Shit happens, a little gravel is going to wash away until it all locks in place.

Not his fault your kid got hurt, that just comes with the territory of riding a scooter.

You started a war. If I was your neighbor, we'd have a serious issue. I think you need to go apologize and agree on what you both are going to do to fix the problem.
neighbor half ass put in gravel. Had he properly selected stone size and fully compacted it this would not be an issue.

I agree generally with not starting a fuss with the neighbors. That goes only as far as they are willing to act responsibly. Blowing it off as no big deal after it had been brought to light is not cool.
autobaun70 is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:05 PM
  #53  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: South Central Ohio
Posts: 549
Default

Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post


neighbor half ass put in gravel. Had he properly selected stone size and fully compacted it this would not be an issue.

I agree generally with not starting a fuss with the neighbors. That goes only as far as they are willing to act responsibly. Blowing it off as no big deal after it had been brought to light is not cool.
And blowing it all over his front porch is a huge not cool.
If I woke up to someone on my property and using a blower to blow gravel all over my front porch, you'd be seeing the wrong end of my shotgun.
lugoismad is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:07 PM
  #54  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: South Central Ohio
Posts: 549
Default

Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post


neighbor half ass put in gravel. Had he properly selected stone size and fully compacted it this would not be an issue.

I agree generally with not starting a fuss with the neighbors. That goes only as far as they are willing to act responsibly. Blowing it off as no big deal after it had been brought to light is not cool.
And compacted? Who in the hell compacts a gravel parking spot? My parents owned a landscaping company for over 20 years and I can't think of a single time we did any compacting of gravel except for when pavers were being laid.
lugoismad is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:10 PM
  #55  
Admirals ClubCaptains Club Member Admiral's Club Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 2,055
Default

It is not your neighbors problem. It is your problem. If you want it fixed you should offer to fix it (so you can solve your problem).
GR1FFIN is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:14 PM
  #56  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: On the beach
Posts: 3,048
Default

This is becoming epic!

THE next “ wedding barn” thread!
Lprizman likes this.
Still Stoked is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:15 PM
  #57  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Seacoast NH
Posts: 6,281
Default

How many read this thread to see if your neighbor was talking shit about you?
Lprizman likes this.
Boat Hound is online now  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:16 PM
  #58  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Michigan
Posts: 3,968
Default

Not really clear the slope and how much gravel ends up in road. Can you post a pic?
Lprizman likes this.
ericinmich is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:16 PM
  #59  
Senior MemberCaptains Club MemberPLEDGER
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: SC
Posts: 10,944
Default

Originally Posted by lugoismad View Post
And compacted? Who in the hell compacts a gravel parking spot? My parents owned a landscaping company for over 20 years and I can't think of a single time we did any compacting of gravel except for when pavers were being laid.
anybody that competently lays it on a slope where it is prone to washing. Especially if washing impast other people.

Were this a construction site of similar, the county or DOT would be passing out fines.
autobaun70 is offline  
Old 08-20-2018, 06:17 PM
  #60  
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Northern Burbs of the Motor City
Posts: 6,542
Default

Once those weeds start growing most of the gravel issues will be a thing of the past. Now for the weed part and the gravel eyesore, that would suck looking at each and everyday.
RyanL11 likes this.
magua is offline  

Thread Tools
Search this Thread