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Old 07-11-2018, 05:47 AM
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Lost 10 pounds in one week and have so much more energy and clarity.
Went to my first party for my friends daugheters birthday and stayed sober the entire time and realized how idiotic my friends looked and sounded. That has been me for 25 years. It may be me again.
I would drink at least two beers a day and on at least one or two of those days in a week, I would drink til passing out.

And the only reason I decided to quit was how sick I got a couple of Sundays back. It was a normal weekend. It started on Thursday night with a couple of margaritas celebrating me getting my belt promotion in BJJ. Then Friday was 6 to 8 beers one or two were 10%. No issues so far, Saturday was a normal day working around the house drinking maybe a 12 pack by night time. Sunday started smoking a bunch of fish with a buddy and we started drinking at 11AM. We only drank 2 12 packs by 6PM and I decided to go to another friends house to drop off fish. Decided to drink her last beer, then killed two bottles of wine.
I don’t remember much of how I got home. I heard later that my son woke me up in the front yard at 11PM.
At some time during the night I puked all over the room and bathroom. I missed work for the first time in a very long time. I was so sick that I couldn’t eat for three days. I hurt so bad to swallow that I could barely get water down.

I lied and told everyone that I had food poisoning but I am sure it was alcohol poisoning.

No I’m trying to make excuses for having a few this upcoming weekend fishing trip.

Not sure if I can just have a few. Not sure if I want to.

Anyone relate to this?
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Old 07-11-2018, 05:52 AM
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I'll drink to that!

Congrats, though..I've slowed down a good bit, lately.
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Old 07-11-2018, 05:59 AM
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The first step is always the hardest.
Been where you are.
I always thought I was in control of my drinking until I wasn't.
Decided to leave that stuff behind. 31 years and counting.
Good luck!!!!
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:04 AM
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nothing wrong having a few here and there, but if you do it everyday and drink till passing out, you have a problem.

What works for me is I only drink on weekends, and max for me is 6 beers, Thats enough for me catch a nice buzz, but not enough to have any issues the next day.

Also, no daytime drinking for me. I get my chores done during the day and spend quality time with the family. My cold brews are kind of a reward for a successful work week or getting chores done during the weekend.

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Old 07-11-2018, 06:05 AM
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Good for you! Keep at it

I hate getting drunk, so I only have a couple drinks.

Right now i want to lose 5lbs ahead of a beach trip with friends. Have not had even one drink for a week.
It is AMAZING how much sugar=lbs alcohol has in it. Been easy to lose and feel so much more energetic and sharp.

Sugar ( a la drinking or anything) really is a poison
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:07 AM
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You'll be none the worse off by not drinking but if you're making excuses for drinking this weekend probably not much will change. Good luck with whatever you do.
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:10 AM
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Sorry but there is everything wrong with having a few here or there. You (the op) are a functioning alcoholic an need to realize and accept that. AA might be in line for a call . All the best
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:14 AM
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A few years ago I was concerned about my consumption. To prove a point to myself, I stopped drinking for a month. I kept it on the DL. I made "mocktails" of club soda and a lime and "drank" with everyone else like I always had. I felt better, and yes, saw how dumb drunk people can appear to a sober person. I didn't lose a damn pound, unfortunately. (I was probably substituting snacks for alcohol)

Partying and regular routines were easy. Eating/dining was not. Show me a mocktail sitting next to a hot pizza, and I'll show you a sad dude who's dreaming of beer. Same thing with a nice steak or Italian dinner without wine... That sucked.

On Day 31, I had a beer, and I could feel it! I was amazed how fast I lost my tolerance. It was actually kind of scary. I should do a repeat, but for longer next time...
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:18 AM
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That weight will keep coming off too, and you'll stay feeling energized. Stay strong man! Oh, and if you don't like vegetables there are these juices now that you can drink... ah nevermind, you'll see. hahahaha
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:28 AM
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If your kid is waking you up in the yard, you have a problem regardless of the time. Quit for 30 days and see how much better you feel
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:32 AM
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^^^^^ Yep, 30 day minimum seems to really reset the brain. Good for you on your decision to quit and best of luck to you.
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:41 AM
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from a medical stand point,

1) good for you! that is a tough accomplishment on your own.
2) most likely you are not ready to have an occasional drink and most likely will revert back to the old ways after just 1-2 drinks
3) to much alcohol is hell on the the heart just as much as the liver
4) this is your body telling you it cant take it anymore. listen to your body
5) after several months, it is possible to attempt 1-2 social drinks but you need to be very cautious and strict on yourself or you will relapse. once an addiction problem is in place, it is always there, just a matter of how controlled it is.
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:45 AM
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"Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son". - Dean Wormer
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:51 AM
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For those who say no problem, one or two here and there will never hurt you......have no understanding of what goes through a drinkers mind when that first drink hits your throat....

For the OP...good on you. Only you will know how out of control your drinking was. All of us are wired differently......and the effect of alcohol is different for each of us.
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YOU should stop permanently. Sounds like you are on the road to medical problems from which there may be no return. You owe it to your kids.
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Old 07-11-2018, 07:01 AM
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I may join the club....not there yet mentally
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Waking up in the yard is pretty bad, but you already know that. I have been drinking pretty hard since college. I am 40. I watched alcohol ruin my parents marriage when I was in high school. Years later my dad remarried and they were both alcoholics. I watched my step mom die in hospice at 60 years old from cirrhosis. It was ugly. I thought that would straighten my dad out. It made him drink more until his problem got so bad he took his own life. Did that make me quit? No. It made me drink more. This happened back in october of 2017. I knew I had to stop but whenever I would not drink for a day the withdrawal was rough. Couldn't sleep, cold sweats at night, etc. I could feel it wearing on my health but would keep going back to the bottle.

I have a good life. I have an amazing five year old son, an ex wife I am close with (no baby mama drama at all), nice things, financially stable, a great group of friends, etc. Despite all that and me telling myself I will never put my son through what my dad did to me (he was a good man and always there for me, no abuse at all, it was just watching his demise that was so painful), yet I kept drinking. Two weeks ago I woke up at 3am with agonizing pain in my side. I could barely move and I was about to call an ambulance bc there was no way I could drive myself to the ER. Eventually the pain subsided and I was able to sleep. It scared the shit out of me. I thought I was going to die.

I took myself to the doc in the morning. They did blood and urine tests. I told the doctor how much I drink and to look at the liver results. When the tests came back the next day they called me and had me come in for a visit. The doc sat me down and said the pain was more than likely a kidney stone I passed and my kidney function was fine. I knew there was more to it than that. Thats when he looked at me and smacked his hand on the table and said "if you keep drinking like this your liver will be as hard as this table." I responded "yes, I know it will kill me." He replied "Wrong. It is killing you."

The week prior I went to venice to go fishing and I only drank one day out of five and the withdrawals weren't too bad so I knew I could do it. The doc said there is no shame in getting help, and son, you need it. He didn't sugar coat it. He wasn't mean either. He was telling me what I already knew. I am a stubborn fucker and I told myself this is it. I'm done. I went home and poured out the booze and I haven't had a drop of alcohol in two weeks.

I am not sharing this as a "look at me" or looking for praise. I made it up in my mind that day that I was done with booze. This time I told my close friends. They all knew I had a problem with it, but it was never "a problem" in that I was not a violent drunk and never got in trouble from drinking. I did some dumb shit through the years but it never bit me, legally atleast. The reason I told my friends was for myself to hold me accountable to them and me, but what was surprising was how supportive they were in my decision. It shouldn't have come as surprise, but it did.

The human mind is a powerful thing. Once you make up your mind to quit, it is not that hard. You have to adjust your habits which is hard. I'm only two weeks into this and I feel so much better. To those that don't have a drinking problem, this sounds very obvious and I realize that.

Good luck to anyone who is having a hard time with alcohol or any substance abuse. Alcohol is a motherfucker but it can be tamed.
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I may join the club....not there yet mentally
Read my post below yours. I was in the exact same boat. The fear of not being able to drink literally scared me. Not having a headache in the morning and being able to remember the night before is a strange new feeling but its a good one.
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A bit over 9 years without it here. I am not made for drinking, although I thought I was really good at it for a long time. The first drink is the one that ruins me..good luck to you OP.
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Old 07-11-2018, 07:12 AM
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Happy for your new realization......now the hard part!

I high recommend AA meetings. (you likely don't know anyone who goes and there's a reason for that.....it's ANONYMOUS!)

The reason, the chemical depedency is only part of the struggle. Your social environment and the people in it are built around drinking. You'll soon find who your true "friends" are and it will surprise you how many do not want to associate with you so they don't have to confront their own excess drinking (or will pressure you to join in a drink with them). If you want to stop...STOP 100% and stay away from it for awhile. After a few months/years you may be able to be around alcohol again without issue but that's several steps down the road.

Note: I'm speaking from experience and have learned to cut-loose to the point I've been confronted at a winery for being "too drunk". My friends made the situation worse cause they knew I was the only sober driver in the group and though it was hilarious I was the one being confronted by the staff. (BTW: took years for me to get to the comfort level of being around drunks again!)
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