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Old 07-17-2018, 08:59 PM
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Wow! What an interesting take! Congrats on the sobriety!

I am dry and low this summer. No alcohol and no vape pen. I don't have an unhealthy desire for either, but I am enjoying not being intoxicated as much as I still love being intoxicated.

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Old 07-17-2018, 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Rapi View Post
Wow! What an interesting take! Congrats on the sobriety!

I am dry and low this summer. No alcohol and no vape pen. I don't have an unhealthy desire for either, but I am enjoying not being intoxicated as much as I still love being intoxicated.

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I think there's less of a Rush but more Value . Hey , always a trade off . It does tend to make things more about other people than yourself .
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Old 07-18-2018, 06:43 AM
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Thought I saw this thread . Today is 1 year for me . I'm 49 and have had a life of heavy drinking and it cost me . I had tried and failed to quit and I really didn't want to . Last year I was diagnosed with an incurable lung condition that could take 5 or 20 yrs to kill me . I got mad and depressed and was worried a bender might last too long and really didn't want to drink any longer . It was about 6 wks when a friend ask where's all the beer bottles that I realized I had gone that long . About 3 months I felt good and about 7 months it seemed like my brain got 10 years younger - it is an interesting feeling when your mind starts to function better . Best I can put it is on a scale of 1 to 10 where I used to think of a problem to 5 it was now 7 with no more effort . Got a little less mad at people . I never told myself this is my last drink cause thinking like that freaks me out . I stopped drinking rather than quit . I think the lung problem was bigger then the drinking problem which then didn't seem like such a problem - drinking became more like BS I didn't want to deal with . Bigger problems in your life make the old big problems seem smaller . I like being sober . Mostly I like feeling the same all the time and waking up with the same head as I went to sleep with . With it will come some regret and guilt but Fuck it , your drivin' the boat - keep it moving . maybe the wrong thing to say to an alcoholic but you have to be Selfish about sobriety , it's yours and those that want to take it want to hurt you .

My 2 cents , Good Luck

Very well said and congrats on the sobriety. My brain feels younger already.
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Old 07-18-2018, 09:51 AM
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I hate the peer pressure, why do people take it as such a challenge to make you drink when you dont want to.

Thats what gets me to drink every time.

Buy you drinks and guilt trip you to not "waste it" even though you insisted otherwise...or guilt trip you for not "celebrating" with them despite them not having a good reason.... i think it is because misery loves company and it makes them feel bad if everyone is not doing it.

but man they make it so hard! so called "friends" lol
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Originally Posted by andrewjaxFL View Post
I hate the peer pressure, why do people take it as such a challenge to make you drink when you dont want to.

Thats what gets me to drink every time.

Buy you drinks and guilt trip you to not "waste it" even though you insisted otherwise...or guilt trip you for not "celebrating" with them despite them not having a good reason.... i think it is because misery loves company and it makes them feel bad if everyone is not doing it.

but man they make it so hard! so called "friends" lol
This is no LOL matter. If you have "friends" who pressure you or guilt you with alcohol, they're not true friends.

If you can't go out with them and not drink, that's on you, and only you. Tell them to support you, tell them to shut up, tell them you'll be the DD or just don't go out with them. In all of those scenarios, you are making the choice.
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Old 07-18-2018, 10:04 AM
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As posted above, I quit drinking (12 pack per day) on June 13th, prior to surgery for broken leg. Made it until last weekend (July 14-15). Had 8 on Sat and 6 on Sunday. Was just so hot, and had a lot to do outside.

Figured my "break" was good time to get blood tested, so had that done on July 12th. This after not drinking 30 days, but sat around for a month watching TV (broken leg) and eating like a pig (pizza, burgers). Been extremely tired, despite not doing much. Although, walking on crutches is work.

Happy to say my liver enzymes are "normal" for first time in 30 years! Cholesterol 165, triglycerides 130, blood sugar high at 130, but A1C normal. Testosterone 555, PSA 0.9. A picture of health!!! Even so, I am still 5"10" and 260 pounds.

Will likely drink more once I get active! I do take Milk Thistle capsules everyday, along with multi-vitamin, niacin, fish oil, vitamin d, folic acid,, and one aspirin.

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I actually had 3 on the boat on Sunday. I spaced them out and drank N/A beer in between. No further craving that day or since. I’m not sure about the NA thing though. Is it keeping the habit going?
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Andrew, yours is one of the most disturbing posts I have read on THT in a long time. I would tell you why, but Crazy Beard already did it and he did it better than I could have. Please read his post again.

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Originally Posted by andrewjaxFL View Post
I hate the peer pressure, why do people take it as such a challenge to make you drink when you dont want to.

Thats what gets me to drink every time.

Buy you drinks and guilt trip you to not "waste it" even though you insisted otherwise...or guilt trip you for not "celebrating" with them despite them not having a good reason.... i think it is because misery loves company and it makes them feel bad if everyone is not doing it.

but man they make it so hard! so called "friends" lol
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:53 PM
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All I have to add is those are no friends you need. State in no uncertain terms that you’re not drinking, it’s a health issue, it’s life or death, whatever. If they can’t deal then you have to move on. Unfortunately it happens, it sucks, but your true friends will understand and appreciate your decision, and support you in it no matter their choice to drink or not.
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Originally Posted by humpinit View Post
I actually had 3 on the boat on Sunday. I spaced them out and drank N/A beer in between. No further craving that day or since. I’m not sure about the NA thing though. Is it keeping the habit going?
only you can answer that. For some it works well, for others it's tiptoeing the line.

I find that when I'm not wanting to not drink, I want something to replace it. I'd say more of a taste or psychological habit is causing this. Water just isn't that interesting. So I will have a club soda or one of the lightly flavored sparkling water or a decaf coffee or something.

Last night for example we had 2 glasses of wine each and a decaf after that instead of opening another bottle of wine, which would have been very easy to do because we both love it.
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I agree about the friends thing. Thats not cool of them to encourage you to drink, assuming they know you are not drinking. All my close friends (a few who are also drinking buddies, but we do lots of things sober as well) have been very supportive. I have been without alcohol now for three weeks and the cravings have subsided a good bit.

Last weekend we went to the hunt club to work. When I got home I really wanted a mixed drink bc it was a long hot day and we worked hard. That was the first time I missed it in a few weeks but it wasn't that big of a deal to go get a glass of water with some lemon in it. I drank a lot of vodka/fruit juice drinks so the lemon sort of mimics that flavor I guess. Its not the same thing but it is what it is and I feel so much better since I have dried myself out.
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I was typing my reply when crazy beard posted his reply, hence the same content more or less.

Good advice, CB
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If y’all are thirsty on a hot day, cold water will do more to relieve your thirst than beer will. Alcohol will just dry you out.
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Old 07-18-2018, 06:40 PM
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Hi my name is Bob and im an alcoholic
3 days sober
Most days i drink 4-6 beers and twice that on the weekends. Im taking a break mostly because of the weight ive been gaining and the heat right now. I've had breaks before for several weeks or months but seem to get back in the grove. Started in my early 20s living in a college town and everything seemed to revolve around drinking. It was mostly weekend drinking and maybe 2 beers a night here and there. Self medicating because of back pain from work and it just turns into a routine. Get home after work and crack a cold one. Dont care to get drunk but maybe a few times a year. Problem is every time i stop drinking i start eating more and drinking sodas and tea and crap.Moderation is key
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Originally Posted by andrewjaxFL View Post
I hate the peer pressure, why do people take it as such a challenge to make you drink when you dont want to.

Thats what gets me to drink every time.

Buy you drinks and guilt trip you to not "waste it" even though you insisted otherwise...or guilt trip you for not "celebrating" with them despite them not having a good reason.... i think it is because misery loves company and it makes them feel bad if everyone is not doing it.

but man they make it so hard! so called "friends" lol
Find better "friends"
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I always commend those that quit that want to. I'm a daily drinker, but can have 4-5 lite beers during the week while grilling out with no problem. Weekends a bit more on the boat. Basically, it's what your body can tolerate and what you can feel good at.

For those that like the clarity of the brain; ironically, that's often why people have a few. It's to 'take the edge off'. Anxiety/ pressures/ stress from the work day, life, etc. I commend those that choose to quit and want to, but for me life will always be better with a couple cold ones.
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Fortunately I don't have the genes for alcoholism; my dad did but he totally quit in his early 30's and I lost a brother to it. What I don't get is the number of people who still use tobacco; do they have a death wish?
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Originally Posted by crazybeard View Post
This is no LOL matter. If you have "friends" who pressure you or guilt you with alcohol, they're not true friends.

If you can't go out with them and not drink, that's on you, and only you. Tell them to support you, tell them to shut up, tell them you'll be the DD or just don't go out with them. In all of those scenarios, you are making the choice.
Seriously, how old are you? Not to be a dick, but who the F cares what others think of you.

I feel like I outgrew heavy drinking as life's responsibilities increased; children, career and health. Grew up in Irish Catholic family and every get together seemed to resolve around drinking, since high school anytime we did anything was with that in mind and/or a packed cooler, etc. My one brother was big drinker mostly to self medicate for depression issues and the other is probably not far behind. One stopped about 8 years ago but he is a dry drunk and still pretty miserable.

I think if you're over 30 and have a career and kids, it's time to put the brakes on some and look forward to hangover free mornings on the water, etc.
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I did a 30 day detox a few years ago to see if I could do it. I did and it felt good. BTW I still went to the bars with my buddies but did as suggested and hit the "mocktails".. Good luck too you..

Also - having a kid at 45 will kill your desire to wake up hungover...daddy daddy daddy...
My first boy at 44 had a similar effect! I had given up smokes and dope to snare my wife and booze was the last thing left. Didn't stop cold but no big nights and plenty of days off. Went to a three day work conference recently, went fairly hard for two nights at the free bar (no blackouts or anything but a bit wobbly) and was shocked at how sleazy I was each day. If you can manage the transition to casual and occasional drinking good for you but I am sure I would't have without the kids. Go for it!
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I was as hard core as hard core gets. believe me.
its been many, many years now without any mind or behavior altering substances. I missed it for a long time but finally have no desire for any of it.
Anyone can get there, you have to want to.
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