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What makes a man leave his family and go BAD???

Old 06-19-2018, 10:46 PM
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Guys I'm in shock.... kinda sorta, I guess!? ;?

Got neighbors a couple doors down, they've been married for at least 25yrs. Their oldest son graduated a large SEC university a couple years ago, middle daughter graduated highschool with ours 2 years ago and their youngest daughter is still in highschool with our youngest son. (The wife is an elementary teacher in same school) Anyway, my wife told me the other day, in shock, how he packed up and left them, moved to some apartments in town and they both are dead set on divorce. The daughters are disgusted with dad and refusing to talk to him, they live with the mother, the sons out on his own & I honestly don't know much of his doings since he left for college years ago. Neighbors been the kind to bounce between insurance jobs every 3-5yrs. (We've been neighbors for 14yrs) They live a nice life, above what either could afford on their own, but her parents have some money and help with the big tickets. She likes to "run with the in crowd" and we've been to several events and fundraisers over the years that I honestly was shocked to see them at because I knew neither made the kinda chee$e to be there for any particular reason other than to watch the events unfold. Yeah she's probably a little "high maintenance" and would be the kind to spend every buck you brought home, I can see that. She's honestly a fit, attractive woman who keeps with the "latest in fashion" as they relate to we 40-50yr old demographics. I've never known him to be to much in the way of a golfer, hunter/angler, car guy etc... he's always been rather quiet and had that look on his face that he'd rather be at home or at least not wherever in public he was at at that time. He's always asked me about my latest hunting/fishing trip whenever he was around me but that's what I'm known for and I think he was just trying to make conversation but he NEVER offered what he had been doing or was planning soon.

I say all that to say what "the rumor is" now, he's supposedly in a relationship with a MAN! Now I'm not going to get into the rights/wrongs/political arguments of homosexuality BUT I'm just not understanding how a 50yr old man leaves his college sweetheart, grown kids, "social circle of friends" and strikes out for an alternative lifestyle such as that? As I said, he's in the insurance biz which is ALL about marketing and relationships.... we are in west TN in the buckle of the Bible Belt, his career and acceptance by our demographics and our community is OVER NOW!!! I just don't understand how anyone can make such a choice? (The rumor seems to becoming "likely truth", just tonight it was confirmed to my wife by his wifes best friend.)

I told my wife tonight over dinner, "Hun you just don't get up one morning and decide you want to be a switch hitter!" I don't understand why he has lead his family along and is now willing to put his kids through this? Like I said, I'm shocked but then again, I always felt the guy had that odd look in his eyes like he didn't belong or had something to say but didn't. But THIS??? Sadly this actually aint the first time this has happened with folks I know. A few years ago a husband of another friend of my wife & I's hit the road and actually moved in with a man in a nearby city. BUT that guy was a flamer from the get-go and EVERYONE was like, "Well THATS no surprise!" What was actually surprising in that relationship was that SHE KEPT HIM! They are STILL married and she lets his "switch hitting" go on. They've even been on "Tres-dates"... But that relationship and the people involved make such NO surprise nBut this with our neighbor, talk about straight out of a chick flick or a estrogen novel... ;?

I've ALWAYS said, "Truth is MUCH stranger than fiction!" I just don't understand why someone would put their kids through such???... ;?
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Bruce Jenner......'Nuf said......
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For every one that goes to the dark side, I’ll bet there are many that just suppress it and live the life they made. I don’t understand it but it may be better for all involved before there is an explosion.
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I want someone to drive a stake through my heart when I stop being a lesbian!!!
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No one knows what goes on inside the home - anybody's home. could be anything. Many people conscientiously or not just stay together for the kids. Then they leave or are old enough it ends. The Man love could even be a phony story - rumor -or used by the guy to somehow make the wife feel better. (It's not you dear, it's my biology....) We never truly know even our closest friends and neighbors and what is going on in their lives and heads.

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that made my head hurt-------------------------------
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Maybe he felt he was leaving his alternate lifestyle for his true one.

I wonder if he has been checking out the OP all these years ?
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Originally Posted by Eastport205 View Post
Maybe he felt he was leaving his alternate lifestyle for his true one.

I wonder if he has been checking out the OP all these years ?
I hope OP has had his shots....
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Originally Posted by chrispnet View Post
I hope OP has had his shots....
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Maybe he has it figured out and we are the ones wrong
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Clearly, we need pics of him.
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Originally Posted by mattttt25 View Post
Clearly, we need pics of him.
Would rather have pics of the fit attractive PITA wife
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Happened to a friend of mine. Her father was well respected in the community and church: solid, conservative upper middle class family. One day he up and decided he was gay.. Left his wife and kids and got involved in all sorts of alternative lifestyle activities and last I heard, now lives with his partner here in Atlanta somewhere.
It was a big blow to my friend and her family, heck to everybody that knew him.
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Wife has a good friend who one day left her family. I guess she was lying to herself for years. She is pretty cool and I like her girlfriend. Her and her x husband are still friends. It happens when society encourages people to repress who they really are and follow the script.
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Any alternative lifestyle programming happened a LONG time ago.....
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Poor Vans a Lesbian trapped in a mans body.and Yall have no compassion
Hatch Folks are SLFISH.
HE IS ONE.
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Lots of older gay people are in heterosexual missrible marriages. They live a lie to satisfy some societal norm or not disappoint some parent.

Then they finally snap and live their true life. It's sad it takes years and possibly hurt kids in the process. Hopefully as society becomes more accepting these situations will become more rare.

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That's all well and good Danny, but why did this guy make the decision to go bad do you think? Last week he was probably all normal and stuff and then woke up and chose to like men. I remember when I chose to like women many years ago and I don't think I could change my mind now no matter how much the refer madness got hold of me. Especially now I have a kid. I'm straight for the long-haul I think.
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you know the rules.....post pics of the wife and her current HIV test and pics of the middle daughter.....and well pics of the oldest son for those that might be going through a "crisis"

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