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Old 05-27-2018, 11:17 PM
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So my son, best friend, and I were coming into the bay from the sound and over to port is a flipped Hobie Cat. I could immediately tell it was 2 women and they were struggling so we head over and offer our assistance. The boss of the two assured me they did not need our help, but the other woman was very tired and floundering in the water. She had a life-jacket so all was good there. She said they had been turned over for a while and could we please help them. The boss had an idea of how to right the boat but was facing the wrong way. The boss was on the boat and was instructing the other to lift up on the mast so she could use her weight to flip it up, but they were facing down wind. There was no way I was leaving so I basically told the boss to quit barking orders at the struggling lady and "chill out". I tossed the lady a line and we rotated the boat 180 and I told her to join her partner on the side of the boat. She barely had the strength to get out of the water. I told them I was going to ease up to the mast and my son was going to reach down with our dock hook and lift the mast up and out of the water and to be ready for it to flip when the wind caught the sail. She yelled back "don't hit my boat". It righted just as planned and we were on our way. We were thanked by the tired one but the other said nothing. I should have loaded the tired one and left the other B****!!!!

I will not repeat what my friend (Army Airborne) said LOL!!!

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Old 05-27-2018, 11:35 PM
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I have gotten to the point where I won't open doors, extend courtesy in stores or traffic situations towards woman, etc, because I really begrudge them acting like it is my duty if life to cater to their every need without so much as a thank you.
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Old 05-27-2018, 11:56 PM
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I have gotten to the point where I won't open doors, extend courtesy in stores or traffic situations towards woman, etc, because I really begrudge them acting like it is my duty if life to cater to their every need without so much as a thank you.
I still do all those things and more. I am in the south and the vast majority of women here still appreciate it and will acknowledge it. I will say when I travel I find most women to be like what you are accustomed to. My sister lives in Boston and I know they are soooo much better than us down here but damn they are rude!

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I know this is not PC, but I would bet the two in the water were lesbians..........
Thanks for clearing that up! Your thoughts on this were not at all evident in your original post.
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Thanks for clearing that up! Your thoughts on this were not at all evident in your original post.
You are welcome! I will also edit so it will be PC so you will not be offended. Does the "OP" meet your approval now?

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Old 05-28-2018, 03:06 AM
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If you're doing good deeds to be appreciated then they're not good deeds.
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If you're doing good deeds to be appreciated then they're not good deeds.
I wasn't doing it to be appreciated. I was doing it because they were in distress in my opinion. I just found it odd the one seemed offended by the help. I would have been very appreciative if I were in their shoes.
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I bet the "boss" wishes she had a dik.

PS: I hold doors open for everyone and even say please and thank you.

By the way, thank you all you vets for your service. God bless America.
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I bet the "boss" wishes she had a dik.

PS: I hold doors open for everyone and even say please and thank you.

By the way, thank you all you vets for your service. God bless America.
Fast eddie will be along shortly to straighten you out. You aren't supposed to stereotype like that!

And I also want to thank all service men/women past and present. Will be buying my good friend a few late beers on Wednesday!
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I try to do a good deed everyday I don't care for any appreciation, because it makes me feel good.
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sometimes life can be a real $#it show. the boss will always act like that just to prove she is more macho. it always ends up with the other one in more danger than you could imaging. it's kind of like i'm going to try to be a man hold my beer.
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I didn't know my sister in law took up boating. She is one of those feminist
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Old 05-28-2018, 04:34 AM
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Most of my good deeds go punished.


Neighbor wanted a small boat. He asks me for help. I tend to come across deals in the course of my business. I print out a few of these deals and leave them in his mailbox. He ends up buying one for a good deal. The only problem is now I unofficially own the boat anytime there is a problem. I have done more work to the boat then my own boat this season. It is my fault when the boat doesn’t start.

He got a 17ft Aquasport mid 1990s with boat, motor and trailer for $1k.

I will never recommend a boat again.
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As a consultant most of my work is helping people. Kind of a failsafe. I have always enjoyed the work and also enjoy solving people's problems. A few people recognize that I really helped them and seem thankful, but as a general rule I think that it is just not in people's dna.

In​​​ middle of a project I never should have signed on for but got sucked in because the lady really needed help with it. Last week she called and bawled me out for an hour and a half over all bogus details that I had explained to her previously. Just going to satisfy contractual obligations and tell her not to call me again.
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hahaha. I got to the dock the other day and there was this guy and his son who were attempting to launch what appeared to be a new jet ski for the little spoiled one.
I noticed that dad barely got the trailer tires wet when junior jumped up on the machine and macho dad was attempting to push the machine and son off the trailer, which mind you, was barely in enough water . I suggested that he lower the trailer a little more and it would help him float it off the trailer. So he backed it up just a tad more....I guess he didnt want to get his ankles wet (LOL). So he finally get sonny boy and the machine off the trailer, but they have no dock lines so junior is about to float away. I offered my two older dock lines I keep on board for emergencies, and I got a look from him like "we dont need your advice or gear...we got it". The reluctantly took them but before they could secure the jet ski, sonny boy had already started the machine and was throttling straight into the dock with his new toy.
I got out of there before they did something REAL stupid, but I tell you -some folks are better off without help - Let Darwin do his thing
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
I have gotten to the point where I won't open doors, extend courtesy in stores or traffic situations towards woman, etc, because I really begrudge them acting like it is my duty if life to cater to their every need without so much as a thank you.
I do... all the time, because that's what gentlemen do.
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I mostly bseem like a grouchy bastard due to the fact that courtesies I extend go either unreciprocated or get an outright rude response. I still say please and thank you, still hold doors, and I still help people in bad situations when I can. That's how I was raised.

I gotta say though, if you're doing things to get appreciated, and only to get appreciated you're not doing things for the right reasons. I would have helped them in spite of the attitude too. You never know when you might need help and who might be around.

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Old 05-28-2018, 06:31 AM
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If you're doing good deeds to be appreciated then they're not good deeds.
Really? That's your takeaway from what was posted? Sometimes I wonder if people really are that sluggish on the uptake or just have a pressing need to take an adversarial position.
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I am polite, open doors, pick up items dropped, say please and thank you. But I never forget toast you're welcome whether they say thank you or not.
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As a consultant most of my work is helping people. Kind of a failsafe. I have always enjoyed the work and also enjoy solving people's problems. A few people recognize that I really helped them and seem thankful, but as a general rule I think that it is just not in people's dna.

In​​​ middle of a project I never should have signed on for but got sucked in because the lady really needed help with it. Last week she called and bawled me out for an hour and a half over all bogus details that I had explained to her previously. Just going to satisfy contractual obligations and tell her not to call me again.
No offense but you're not actually doing a "good deed. You are providing a service and getting paid to do it, correct?
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