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Old 05-28-2018, 06:35 AM
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I continue to help also - that's what we are supposed to do. When it bites you in the ass once in a while, just remember,
"no good deed goes unpunished".
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Old 05-28-2018, 06:39 AM
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chivalry is dead, so is for the most part common courtesy,
the average person these days is too busy in there own world to even say "thank you'.much less admit they are in the shit when help is on hand "as in your post".
Op , dont be too disappointed there are still many people that appreciate your help when it is offered ,and will be glad someone is there to lend them a helping hand , the same people are the ones that will go out of there way to assist a stranger ...
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Old 05-28-2018, 06:43 AM
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I always try to be helpful and nice to everybody that looks receptive.Not nosing into everybody's business is also a good plan.The situation dictates the response.
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Old 05-28-2018, 06:46 AM
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same situation, too far offshore, hobie upside down (2 dumb guys) we in a hobie also, my crew swan over and helped then flip back up, sailed to the baech behind them, then on the beach, their guy just got out and walked past us up the beach. not a thank you.
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Old 05-28-2018, 06:49 AM
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have pulled other people out of the channel, even getting "the ships horn" from a passing freighter ship- they hollerred thank ypu when we let them loose near the shore.
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Old 05-28-2018, 06:53 AM
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Originally Posted by jkmjr View Post
So my son, best friend, and I were coming into the bay from the sound and over to port is a flipped Hobie Cat. I could immediately tell it was 2 women and they were struggling so we head over and offer our assistance. The boss of the two assured me they did not need our help, but the other woman was very tired and floundering in the water. She had a life-jacket so all was good there. She said they had been turned over for a while and could we please help them. The boss had an idea of how to right the boat but was facing the wrong way. The boss was on the boat and was instructing the other to lift up on the mast so she could use her weight to flip it up, but they were facing down wind. There was no way I was leaving so I basically told the boss to quit barking orders at the struggling lady and "chill out". I tossed the lady a line and we rotated the boat 180 and I told her to join her partner on the side of the boat. She barely had the strength to get out of the water. I told them I was going to ease up to the mast and my son was going to reach down with our dock hook and lift the mast up and out of the water and to be ready for it to flip when the wind caught the sail. She yelled back "don't hit my boat". It righted just as planned and we were on our way. We were thanked by the tired one but the other said nothing. I should have loaded the tired one and left the other B****!!!!

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Old 05-28-2018, 07:08 AM
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Originally Posted by bingo91799 View Post
I try to do a good deed everyday I don't care for any appreciation, because it makes me feel good.
So does masturbating but it produces nothing but a mess... I know what my time and effort is worth, I expect to be compensated.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:24 AM
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While a thank you would have been nice you do not leave someone in trouble on the water.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:25 AM
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Ever do a good deed for no appreciation?
Sure, all the time here on THT. As referred to in the "close thread" thread, a lot of us spend time and knowledge here helping folks with no thanks or follow-up from the OP. It's that All-American sense of entitlement at work.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
I have gotten to the point where I won't open doors, extend courtesy in stores or traffic situations towards woman, etc, because I really begrudge them acting like it is my duty if life to cater to their every need without so much as a thank you.
Last time I was visiting "up north" I held the door going into a store for a couple older ladies. They thanked me and exclaimed "you're not from around here". Some may not appreciate the behavior........but I'm not doing it for them anyway.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:37 AM
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
I have gotten to the point where I won't open doors, extend courtesy in stores or traffic situations towards woman, etc, because I really begrudge them acting like it is my duty if life to cater to their every need without so much as a thank you.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:41 AM
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I see a lot of people lose things out of their car windows, mostly cigarette butts, chip bags or drink cups. I kindly pick the items up and catch up to the unlucky driver. When I hand the item back to them, they never seem appreciative, most times if not all, quite the opposite.
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Old 05-28-2018, 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted by SeaBoss21 View Post
I am polite, open doors, pick up items dropped, say please and thank you. But I never forget toast you're welcome whether they say thank you or not.
The problem with our society is that everyone is so busy that often the toast is forgotten. I too am guilty of leaving my toast at home and it makes me cranky. Toast is yummy.
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Old 05-28-2018, 08:06 AM
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Down south it's what we do.



Have a nice day.Simple as that .We don't get in a hurry .and take time for the common courtesies of life.
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Old 05-28-2018, 08:13 AM
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Next time you could secretly remove a rigging line and stow it. If they both yell, bow to you, and chant honors about your ancestors, be a good guy and return the line. If not, let them sail in circles......
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Originally Posted by Eastport205 View Post
I do... all the time, because that's what gentlemen do.
In the common place I refuse to be a door mat for any woman/ stranger, it just doesn't sit well with me anymore. So sadly my ways have changed. But put a suit on me and get me uptown and I won't miss a step as a gentleman....but it still stings when my gesture is taken for granted without acknowledgement.
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Old 05-28-2018, 09:19 AM
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Originally Posted by t500hps View Post
Last time I was visiting "up north" I held the door going into a store for a couple older ladies. They thanked me and exclaimed "you're not from around here". Some may not appreciate the behavior........but I'm not doing it for them anyway.
Back many summers ago I worked for a couple of months on a farm in Marshall, MI.
Marshall being a very small and tight-knit community, everyone knew a stranger was in town... Since no one knew my name everyone was referring to me as "the fella working at the Irish Farm that waves at everybody".
It would crack me up every time I passed someone on the road and waved at them... they would break their necks looking back to see who it was and what the heck I was waving at rarely did the wave ever get returned though.
Beautiful country up there and great folks. Truly enjoyed my time there.
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Old 05-28-2018, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
In the common place I refuse to be a door mat for any woman/ stranger, it just doesn't sit well with me anymore. So sadly my ways have changed. But put a suit on me and get me uptown and I won't miss a step as a gentleman....but it still stings when my gesture is taken for granted without acknowledgement.
I don't consider it being a door mat . If the woman , or man for that matter as I hold the door for ANYone behind me is to rude to say thank you it is a reflection on them, not me. And I ALWAYS give a hearty thank you when it's held for me.
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Old 05-28-2018, 10:53 AM
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j recommend Dale Carnegie's book, How To Win Friends and Influence People. In it he says not to expect gratitude and gives the example of the 10 lepers that Jesus healed and only one came back to thank him.

I appreciate you, OP, trying to help and I thank you for doing it. But others have said that no good deed goes unpunished and there is a lot of that in this world.
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Old 05-28-2018, 11:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Eastport205 View Post
I don't consider it being a door mat . If the woman , or man for that matter as I hold the door for ANYone behind me is to rude to say thank you it is a reflection on them, not me. And I ALWAYS give a hearty thank you when it's held for me.
I thought them doors were motion-activated down there at the seasoned ranch.
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