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Old 05-25-2018, 01:35 PM
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So my sister is getting married. They are having the stag party tomorrow. They have it planned for 7 hours total. Our plan (brother, father and myself) was to go for 3 hours or so and then go golfing. Does this sound "tacky" to the THT braintrust?

Some back info. Myself and my brother are not part of their wedding party. The grooms family is. There is no bad blood at all between any of us (think leave it to beaver, everyone is always happy and nice). My father was asked to keep the money after the event and when it was found out we were not staying for 7 hours, it was called "tacky".

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Old 05-25-2018, 01:42 PM
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Who the hell could handle a seven hour ~~~~~~ on, hell you should call a doctor after four hours.

sister must be marring into a party family.

the best man is expected to fund and put on the stag party.
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Old 05-25-2018, 01:43 PM
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So far it sounds a bit tacky for the three of you to choose golf over staying for most of the party. But we need more details. What's the plan for the party? How many going?
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...so you guys are family and are part of the wedding, and Dad has been told that he doesn't need to pony up with any coin to marry his daughter off. Unless the groom's family is trying to show off, and because they haven't made you guys part of anything, it would seem kind of tacky all the way around.

I can see them saying that because they were expecting to be honored for paying the tab. I can see you guys wanting to ditch their party to have one of your own. Where was Sis when all of this was being planned?
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As best as I understand the stag is an outdoor one, so maybe more like a picnic than your typical sit in a mess hall and eat food. I was not part of any planning.

My father (of the bride) is paying for their wedding, the bridal shower and any other "traditional" father of the bride type expenses.

Another caveat i live 1.5 hours a state away and have a wife in medical school (finals right now, pray for me!!!) with a 3 and 5 year old. Me finding time to go golfing with my brother and father is about 1-2 times a year. Not sure if this changes an opinion.

Also we are NOT part of he wedding. We were never asked. The groom was in my wedding 6 years ago (when they were newly dating and I was asked to have him in the wedding) and they each have 5 or 6 groomsmen/bridesmaids. The grooms sister is a bridesmaid and the grooms brother a groomsman (possibly best man, sadly I'm not sure).

I honestly thought it could become an issue just wanted to see what others think. There is never a lack of opinions on THT, and I value seeing what others think.
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Also I do not know how many people are coming. I have been left out of the wedding info/planning 100%. I imagine having moved away is part of the reason, but not sure.
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It sounds like the relationship between families is going to suck anyway, so I wouldn't lose a round of golf over it.
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None of you were responsible for putting on the stag party. The groom hasn't included you or your brother in the wedding party. Why would it be tacky to attend only as much of the stag party as you wish? I doubt I'd stay for an entire 7 hour party.

Make an appearance at the party, then go golfing. After 3 hours everyone else will be too drunk to realize you're gone.
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I think it's kind of weird the FOB was invited to the stag party? Maybe that's just me?
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SLACKERS!!! Pics of bride and bridesmaids
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Old 05-25-2018, 02:34 PM
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The families have always had good relationships, best I can tell. I never had a stag, probably been to 6-8. Most have been 2-3 hours tops, some beer, food and raffles. Never knew one to be 6-7 hours long. Also not sure if the FOB was at the other ones, can't recall.

I see both sides, but not sure what I'm going to do for 7 hours...
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Golf??

F that, hit the nudie bar
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some of the shiot that gets posted on this boating forum......

yall are grown ass men do whatever the heck you want
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Id stay til the booger sugar runs low then leave w a couple of the "entertainers"
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So why did y'all tell anybody y'all were leaving after 3 hours in the 1st place. If it would have been me it would have been presto chango whallah kazam duck into the restroom and I'm gone.
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We have a plan, just wanted to see what others felt.
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Originally Posted by rbhankins001 View Post
Id stay til the booger sugar runs low then leave w a couple of the "entertainers"
I just farted when I lol'd.
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Originally Posted by Sin Bin fishing RI View Post
Golf??

F that, hit the nudie bar
That's what I was thinking, hunting/fishing/gentleman's club in a limo (tacky/difficult to duck out on those). Picnic tables and horseshoes? I guess I don't know what a stag party is - sounds like a bridal shower. Go 3.5 hours of the 6 hour party ("I was there most of the time honey") and go golfing.
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You are clear. There for over 50 percent of somebody else's fun plan.
Your best defense: These guys here are MY family, and thanks for your concerns.

In retrospect, one of the hardest things ever was telling my father that he really didn't want to be riding along with us for my bachelor party, because he would lose respect for me and my friends.



Miss you dad, and thank you for your service.
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Not sure about the rest of ya’ll, but myself and about everyone else at my bachelor party were trashed by 2 hours in. You could have come, gone, whatever no one would have noticed.

Pucnic tables? WTF kind of party are you going to. It might be obligatory to leave after an hour and get your knitting needles.
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