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Old 05-18-2018, 07:51 AM
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Just want to say that if you know anyone going through rough times in there life try to be there for them. My good friend had just began a nasty divorce from his wife, they have 2 young boys 11 and 8. Entire divorced started by her cause she wanted to have a boyfriend and live free. Well she took the kids moved out filled there heads wirh just flat out nasty stuff about there father (completely untrue). She wanted everyitng they had a great life million dollar house on the water plentny of money, etc. Well she turned this divorce so nasty she would not allow him to see the kids left him all alone in this big house. He would call me everyday saying his life was over but he would joke a bit and we would try to laugh. Well in the end I guess it was just to much for him. He hung himself in his house Wednesday night before the first court date. I will miss my friend and feel terrible for his kids. When looking back I wish we all could have done more for him, I really had no idea it would come to this. So damn sad

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Sorry to hear. There was a thread discussing this issue just yesterday. A lot of darkness in many peoples lives.
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Fun bioch. Hope kids turn on her
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I hope he changed beneficiaries on his life insurance policy to someone other than his wife before doing the deed. Sorry for your loss.
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damn sorry for your loss
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Damn man, that's tough. Friend of mine did the exact same thing in 1993 and I still think about it/him almost every other day, just sticks in your head. Sorry you lost your friend.
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Sorry for your loss, how awful.

I had two friends take their own lives very early-teenagers- a long time ago. One, I think I could see something bad happening, the other was a total shock.
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I hope he changed beneficiaries on his life insurance policy to someone other than his wife before doing the deed. Sorry for your loss.
Probably no coverage for suicide.
This sucks for the guy's kids...now all they will remember about their father is the junk the mother will pour into their heads.
Suicide...a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Those who choose it rarely think about the friends and family they leave behind.
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Suicide is a selfish act.
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Originally Posted by Marlin308 View Post
I hope he changed beneficiaries on his life insurance policy to someone other than his wife before doing the deed. Sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. What's even worse, is that is was essentially a win for her since she will now have the kids, house, money and will be able to move her boyfriend in......hope karma pays her a visit and bites her in the ass three times as hard. RIP Steve.
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Originally Posted by Wolakrab View Post
Probably no coverage for suicide.
This sucks for the guy's kids...now all they will remember about their father is the junk the mother will pour into their heads.
Suicide...a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Those who choose it rarely think about the friends and family they leave behind.
RIP.

Life insurance policies only have an exclusion on suicide for the 1st two years....after that, it is covered.
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Sorry to hear, I went through the same thing, caused by the same reason a few years ago. Its tough.
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Geez. Sorry man. That's tough. I remember how awful I felt going through my divorce. I had a lot of crazy thoughts for a long time. It was the worst by far I've ever felt. I hate reading this. Again, sorry brother. Chris
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Sorry to hear; I really do not understand why someone would want to commit suicide except in the case of a terminal medical condition where IMO it should be legal for Assisted Suicide.
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So now the bitch gets it all!!!!!

While I've been through some very dark periods in my life, I never thought about suicide.

In the divorce situation, in stead of suicide, I'm the SOB that would fight tooth and nail, raise 7 kinds of hell, and fight for what I wanted, not stopping for a minute. Bitch do me wrong, oh well I'm an adult and can defend myself. Bitch do something to harm the kids, suffer my wrath until the end of time.

And he did this before the 1st court appearance? If the situation is as you described it, plus he goes in fully prepared and loaded for bear, the judge would have straightened a lot of the problems out.
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Life insurance policies only have an exclusion on suicide for the 1st two years....after that, it is covered.
If that's the case, then I hope he had made his children sole beneficiaries.
Condolences to all that knew him...but they will always remember him by this last selfish act.
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Very sorry. That is a devastating loss!

I too went through a Terrible divorce. Was really dark for awhile. losing 100's of thousands of dollars was one thing- but the crap my ex was filling kids heads with. Its tough to work through on your own.
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That is horrible news. I'm terribly sorry for your loss. It's a sickening process and the court makes it all a real side show of wasted words, time and money.
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Yup- she wanted everything and now she has it. You say sucide is a selfish act and while it may be in a lot of eyes, he was the most unselfish person I have ever met. She truly made him believe his life was over. Makes me sick to my stomach thinking about it.

He told me he had called his mother who lives in New York and asked her to come down to stay with him for awhile she said she would not cause she didn't want to interfere with the divorce. He felt really alone and he was, we all have our own lives to deal with and time is limited but he was reaching out for help nobody was home.
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Originally Posted by coastalfiberglass View Post
Just want to say that if you know anyone going through rough times in there life try to be there for them. My good friend had just began a nasty divorce from his wife, they have 2 young boys 11 and 8. Entire divorced started by her cause she wanted to have a boyfriend and live free. Well she took the kids moved out filled there heads wirh just flat out nasty stuff about there father (completely untrue). She wanted everyitng they had a great life million dollar house on the water plentny of money, etc. Well she turned this divorce so nasty she would not allow him to see the kids left him all alone in this big house. He would call me everyday saying his life was over but he would joke a bit and we would try to laugh. Well in the end I guess it was just to much for him. He hung himself in his house Wednesday night before the first court date. I will miss my friend and feel terrible for his kids. When looking back I wish we all could have done more for him, I really had no idea it would come to this. So damn sad

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May God's love and light shine upon you and your loved ones Steve.
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