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Old 05-15-2018, 05:02 PM
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havent spoken with my parents in years mainly due to my mother and her toxic ways. She has fought and cut off everyone around her for years and unfortunately my father just goes along with it and plays the victim. I miss my father, but he has made it clear that you have to have a relationship with my mother if you are going to have one with him. Ironically she is the one that told me and my wife she doesn't want anything to do with us and I will not subject my children to her mean sipirited ways.

Anyone else have family members that are just toxic?
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Saltydawg15 View Post


Anyone else have family members that are just toxic?
Do ex-wives count
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YES Yes
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:06 PM
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Havent talked to my mom,dad,brother or sister,in 35 yrs...i am good with it...i wouldnt know any of them if they sat next to me..
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My mom and dad both divorced each other years ago, I have no relationship with either one. I get along pretty good with my brother and sister.
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:30 PM
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I don't really speak to 2 of my brothers. 1 is completely banned from my house and I don't go any place he might be(complete dbag). I am close with my mom, my dad I email sometimes. Have a few awesome friends, but have no family besides my mom/dad really, no wife no kids. lol.

Meh!
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We have a great relationship amongst the whole family. Couldn’t imagine it any other way.
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my dad and I, typically, go "farming" every Saturday I'm not fishing or doing something like that. My dear sweet mother still buys me clothes when they go on road trips...I love my parents. Talk to most other family members that are pretty close fairly often, but I'm known for not going to a lot of functions due to fishing, etc.
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I don’t feel so bad now... I thought my situation was worthy of at least a couple of Jerry Springer episodes...
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:39 PM
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I'm with my husband
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Dad and I had a fight when I was 27, we never had a conversation again. I was there when he was dying and he was in rage although he couldn't speak or move, you could see his eyes. I have 1 brother and sister, sister is a far better person then my brother but that's not saying much. After mom passes I doubt I'll see them again except at funerals, hopefully theirs.
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:48 PM
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If you do a search there is a long thread on this very subject.
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Old 05-15-2018, 05:51 PM
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I'm usually the guy that posts this stuff... You're not alone.

It sucks. But there's really nothing to be done. I occasionally give it another go and yield the same result -- because I'm an idiot. It has actually gotten worse, except I play-pretend A LOT better. Now they just deny all the heinous shit they did. It's really sick.

The only positive side of it all is that I try hard to learn from them what NOT to do.

I sleep fine however, because I know I was *always* the one to extend the olive branch and give it a try. But at the end of the day, I'll be the bastard that left NJ, and nothing will *ever* be THEIR fault. Ever. Never. Not ever.

I wish the best for them... as long as they don't do anything to harm me or my family. It's really sick that I have to even think about that - but that's my little life.
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My brother has a daughter he never talks too. He basicly has 3 grand kids he has never seen...

Shameful.

My neice says I'm more of a father figure in her life. I love her and her kids!

Maybe he did too much acid in his younger days...

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So my sister in law pissed off my wife with some comments she made on facebook. (don't ask me what, I've never been on facebook)

Then my wife invites her only nephew to Florida for a coupla weeks as a graduation present. This pisses my SIL off because she was never consulted about the invite. Kid's 18 in July.

So then SIL neglects to tell my wife that her nephew's graduation has been moved up two weeks, until it's too late to change plans. New Mexico. Mucho $$ down the drain.

They've been at it since the 60's, and it shows no sign of abating.
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18 years ago, I moved 1200 miles to get away from family. Since I moved, relationship with mom and dad has improved greatly. Sister and I occasionally try, but we're just two different people with nothing in common. Conversations seemed forced and just not natural. They've both (parents and sis w/fam) came to visit once in 18 years. I go back to visit every 3 years or so, more to see my old friends than anything else. When I'm back, being with family is great.

We appreciate each other a lot more now. Now, the time spent together is cherished. I'll never have deep conversations with my sis, yet she is executor of my will and beneficiary to all I have. I know I can trust her to do the right thing with what little I may leave. We're just never going to have heart-to-heart talks.

There's a lot more to the dynamics than what I'll post here, but let's just say you're not alone.
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:15 PM
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Great brother I don’t see often enough.
two thieving sisters who mean less to me than the 7-11 clerk.
Elder abusers ... stole a couple million from my parents in various cons.
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:23 PM
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My brother and I are tight.....like brothers. My parents were great too. They have passed. The rest of the family sucks for various reasons. I have way better friends than I do family. I’ll stick to my wife and kids and keep on.
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:27 PM
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"You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family" the saying goes. I still have a tight knit family 2 sisters 1 brother and a father we all get along for the most part. I feel for those who do not have positive relations with family.
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