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Old 07-18-2006, 07:43 AM
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I live in a typical modern housing development...by "modern" I mean the houses are pretty much crammed in on top of each other. My new neighbor is a single guy in his early 20's.....and he has the lifestyle of most kid's his age. Loud music, some rowdy guests, coming and going at all hours of the night, etc......
Sometimes I miss those days.....
Anyhoo, he watches TV with the volume CRANKED on a surround-sound system until about 1 AM most nights. The bass is what I really hear....THUMP, THUMP, THUMP on and on and on. It is not so loud, but that bass comes right though in to the bedroom and keeps me and my wife up.
I have spoken with him on a couple of occasions and tried to drop some suttle hints about the volume level, and really busted his chops when he was setting fireworks off at 12:30 AM one night. But he just doesn't seem to get it, and I am at wit's end. I am torn between calling the cops and letting them take care of it, and being diplomatic and asking him to please keep it down.
I am leaning towards the diplomacy, but I am not sure he will respond since he pretty much ignored my hints earlier.
I want to be a good neighbor....I really do.....but this is getting old.
Any suggestions as to how I may resolve this and maintain the good neighbor policy?
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Old 07-18-2006, 08:10 AM
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I used to have the same problem with my "distant" neighbor and his kids stereo and the friggin drums, that's right DRUMS!!!!!!! There is over 300 yards between my house and theirs with so much growth that you can't see and at times I couldn't hear MY television for HIS racket. Spoke with the kid twice, spoke with the parents the next time and all I got was NOTHING!!!! I spoke with the Dad one last time and he flat tells me "I just can't control him, he won't listen to me"..... WTF???? I told the Dad what was going to happen the next time I heard ANYTHING from him, instant call for the Cops. They didn't believe me and within 24 hours the cops are sitting in my driveway with a DB sound meter recording the "music". They issue a warning and within another 24 hours they issue a citation. On the 3rd (all in one week) citation the judge explains how jail works and I haven't heard a peep since.
Are we still good neighbors????? NO, but I haven't made an effort either. Any idiot that says he can't control a 16 year old is too stupid to be my acquaintance......... So, no you can't have peace and quiet AND have the good neighbor warm and fuzzies. You can have one from column A, or one from column B, but you can't have both..........................
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Old 07-18-2006, 09:42 AM
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1) - If you have any chance of diplomacy working you'll have to have him come over one late evening to experience what it is that troubles you - he'll have to hear it for himself to possibly understand where it is you and the wife are coming from.......words are only means of expressing contempt, but experiencing things first hand should be actions speak louder then words. Make arrangements with him the next time he has a party for him to quickly come over to your place so he can hear how loud it is in your place first hand. In those same arrangements have it understood that he can continue to have his party that night, just that the two of you need to talk about it the next day to try to reach an understanding and a solution. I'd be putting all my best worms in this bucket.

2) - Explain to him that you were his age once and would have probably done the same thing, but that doesn't make it right. Inform him that what his is doing there is nothing wrong with it, just that with the houses as close together as they are that the setting really requires a more low key existence.

3) - I would not be installing some sort of fence in an attempt to cut down the noise - you would probably just end up amplifying the noise.....then you'll be out of pocket and more pissed off.

4) - Yes calling the cops should be a solution. But pissing off a young 20ish lad is probably a game that you won't win at - then you’ll end up selling at a reduced rate because things have gone for bad to worse.

5) - Moving is always an option. Move to where you do not have to sit under the actions of another....give yourself and family a little more breathing space.
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Old 07-18-2006, 10:11 AM
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Call the cops, you're not the only neighbor. When you call ask that your name not be brought up, or just call in anonymously. Better to let the cops do the work rather than stress out over approaching them directly. As bailey points out they generally do handle things by starting with warnings and escalate from there.
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Old 07-18-2006, 11:18 AM
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Try making lots and lots of noise when HE is trying to sleep. Make every effort to annoy him at HIS time of rest. Even 20 somethings have to sleep. If that does not work, talk to the other neighbors to see if they feel the same way and then approach him as a group. If that does not work, call the police. Most all communities have a noise ordience for just that reason. If that does not work, a good old fashion ass-whippin may go a long way.
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Old 07-18-2006, 11:55 AM
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If you are in a development, there is a POA. If there is a POA, there are rules and monthly meetings where things like this are discussed. I bet that your 20-something neighbor is too busy to go to meetings. Attend the next meeting, make your case, and wait a week or two to see what happens.

From there my next step would be to approach him and tell him point blank what your problem is and that your next step will be to involve the police. I bet he don't want no Fuzz knocking on his door at midnight while he and the boys are sitting around the table taking bong hits.

Just be nice while you are making your case too him so he doesn't think you are trying to be a d!ck.

If none of that works, when you wake up to go to work early in the morning every day, which is when he will be getting his best sleep, walk next door and ring his doorbell about 50 times. When he comes to the door, just ask him what he was watching on tv last night and walk away. Do that for about two weeks straight and he will get the picture.
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Old 07-18-2006, 12:23 PM
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Crank up your lawn mower every morning at 6:30 am and wait for his sorry punk ass to come outside......after that bust a 9mm from your Glock 99(a)(ii) in his forehead.......no need to overkill, a simple double tap should cure the problem......put your back up gun in his hand and fire off a round into the ground for good measure.

FWIW - apparently the kid doesn't care about your desires, call the authorities.
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Old 07-18-2006, 12:31 PM
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originalsin - 7/18/2006 11:55 AM

If you are in a development, there is a POA. If there is a POA, there are rules and monthly meetings where things like this are discussed. I bet that your 20-something neighbor is too busy to go to meetings. Attend the next meeting, make your case, and wait a week or two to see what happens.
Not every development is subject to POA's or HOA's. Also, as a developer, I can assure you that the rules associated with them are NOT enforceable.
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I agree - shoot 'im.

Okay, maybe not. It would feel good, though, wouldn't it

I had a nearly identical problem some years ago. I kept wanting to go over and just pummel the guys (two 20-something guys). I knew that would lead to jail, and one of them was my size, so I knew it would end up in the emergency room first.

I called the cops, repeatedly. Not much help. So, one Saturday night they are blowing it out. Big Al the neighbor shows up, and I JOIN the party. I mean, I REALLY join the party. New heights of being an azzhole were reached by yours truly. I offended, disgusted, and pissed off every person who attended. The whole gig was over by midnight, and my good neighbors were plenty pissed. I explained that I would be joining all of their future soiree's, and bring some of my less-cultured buddies. Problem solved.

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Old 07-18-2006, 01:15 PM
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My next door neighbor was doing the samething last summer 2 am his music was blasting and i could hear word by word with the A/C going in the window and we couldnt sleep I called the cops funny thing was after i got off the phone with the cops we both fell asleep within 2 mins lol
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If you are in a development, there is a POA. If there is a POA, there are rules and monthly meetings where things like this are discussed. I bet that your 20-something neighbor is too busy to go to meetings. Attend the next meeting, make your case, and wait a week or two to see what happens.
Not every development is subject to POA's or HOA's. Also, as a developer, I can assure you that the rules associated with them are NOT enforceable.
Tell that to the poeple who are foreclosed on for not paying dues. I know it doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
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originalsin - 7/18/2006 11:55 AM

If you are in a development, there is a POA. If there is a POA, there are rules and monthly meetings where things like this are discussed. I bet that your 20-something neighbor is too busy to go to meetings. Attend the next meeting, make your case, and wait a week or two to see what happens.
Not every development is subject to POA's or HOA's. Also, as a developer, I can assure you that the rules associated with them are NOT enforceable.
Tell that to the poeple who are foreclosed on for not paying dues. I know it doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
Do you have an example?
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Tell him your concerns. If he ignores them, then I like the lawnmower at 6:30am. If not a lawnmower, then a chainsaw. You've got the hours you like to keep, I have mine.
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Wolakrab.....
Try the "dying rabbit" cassette on your Jon-E-Stewert(sp) game call. Hey, he's got his music, you have yours.
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Several years ago we had a problem with a teenager in the nieborhood. His mom and dad divorced, mom amd kid living in the family home. Now mom has to work and teenager is unsupervised for a good portion of the evening. Loud music, screaming and hollering, cars of every discription at all hours of the day and night.

We (meaning a few different families in the nieghborhood) called the sheriffs office, they responded with a request to quiet down. As a suprise to all of us, we have no local noise ordanance. So cops didn't do squat.

Mom and kids finally moved away. Never did get them to quiet down.
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Well, he was out of town Tuesday and Wednesday.....apparently got back late last night and guess what--thump, thump, thump at around 12:30 A.M. I took a little stroll over and knocked on the door.....no answer.....knocked harder.....still no answer. Through a window I saw him and a couple of friends sitting at a table, so I know he's there. I tried the doorbell--twice--and that finally gets his attention. The look on my face must have told the story; as soon as he opened the door and saw me, he called in to the buddies to turn the tunes down. He was very apologetic and said it wouldn't happen again......we shall see.
If not, I have squirreled away some of the better suggestions offered here for use in the future.
Hopefully a happy ending here........
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Several years ago we had a problem with a teenager in the nieborhood. His mom and dad divorced, mom amd kid living in the family home. Now mom has to work and teenager is unsupervised for a good portion of the evening. Loud music, screaming and hollering, cars of every discription at all hours of the day and night.
Did you use to live in my neighborhood? This exact thing happened here about 2 years after I bought my house.....only it was the mother doing most of the he**raising....
Thankfully she got remarried and moved out.
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Well, he was out of town Tuesday and Wednesday.....apparently got back late last night and guess what--thump, thump, thump at around 12:30 A.M. I took a little stroll over and knocked on the door.....no answer.....knocked harder.....still no answer. Through a window I saw him and a couple of friends sitting at a table, so I know he's there. I tried the doorbell--twice--and that finally gets his attention. The look on my face must have told the story; as soon as he opened the door and saw me, he called in to the buddies to turn the tunes down. He was very apologetic and said it wouldn't happen again......we shall see.
If not, I have squirreled away some of the better suggestions offered here for use in the future.
Hopefully a happy ending here........
I'm not saying this will work or anything, but the theory is good. What you are after is some respect from him for your needs, so show him some respect in return. People like to get something in return when they have to make sacrifices.....in this case the most you could offer is a cold beer, casual chit-chat and some respect. Walk over with a few cold beers next time he is washing his car or watering the yard and shoot the breeze with him. Then casually mention about the late hours of the noise and ask how a resolution can be met.....just don't make it a formal address - to threating.

You want honey and not vinegar, so trick the crap out of him with all your best moves - show him respect and hopefully you'll get it in return.
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Wolakrab - 7/20/2006 8:49 AM

twentynine - 7/19/2006 4:06 PM

Several years ago we had a problem with a teenager in the nieborhood. His mom and dad divorced, mom amd kid living in the family home. Now mom has to work and teenager is unsupervised for a good portion of the evening. Loud music, screaming and hollering, cars of every discription at all hours of the day and night.
Did you use to live in my neighborhood? This exact thing happened here about 2 years after I bought my house.....only it was the mother doing most of the he**raising....
Thankfully she got remarried and moved out.
and to think you can't kill them
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We had a neighbour with a pet rooster......a BIG one. Every morning about 3 or 4 this damned rooster would fire up. You just know that the neighbour doesn't hear his own rooster.

By my reasoning if I am awake because of the rooster, then so should the owner of the rooster be awake to enjoy the noise. The campaigne started with phone calls every time the rooster started crowing. After a few nights of being woken up to a dial tone I let him answer the phone.

He asked me what I expected him to do about the the rooster? Rather cleverly, I thought anyway, for my brain at 4:00AM, "What are you having for dinner tonight?"

The rooster was gone in a few days.

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