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Old 02-13-2018, 11:13 AM
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Wow talk about a bolt out of the blue! Came home yesterday to find my wife and all her property gone. Things have been pretty tense since the holidays. She got cold and distant and it was my fault.

Her planning and execution was quite impressive. Caught me totally unawares. She had been making statements we were only roommates and she wanted to be left alone. She talked about going to her mothers house. That's where she is now and all her possessions in storage.

Phone records show she has contacted a lawyer so I am expecting to get served soon and need a lawyer.

If anyone has a recommendation I would appreciate it.

Background We married in 2008, me a widower, she recently divorced. My kids were grown her were still in school. They all moved into my house and we remodeled with her divorce money. She is on the deed. Daughter is married, RN and on her way to Nurse anesthetists and they plan on settling in Denver.

Her son, my step son was killed in December of 2014 in a motor cycle crash. We were devastated beyond belief.

Assets are the house with about 2.5x in equity, my 401k 4x, my military retirement of .75x year. We both work me 2x her 1x I have owned the house since way before the marriage, my retirement from military was in 2000.

I do not want to get a divorce because I still love her but I can tend to be a surly bastard and she just shuts down. Bad emotional abuse in her first marriage.

I would hope to have couples counseling to see if we can fix this but I think she has her mind made up. When a woman says she is numb I don't think there is a way back.

Some kind words of wisdom and recommendations would be appreciated.

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Old 02-13-2018, 11:17 AM
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First off, it sucks. Been there and got the ribbon.

Your military retirement and any disability shouldn't be on the table. However that's where an attorney comes in. Sorry don't have any recommendations.
Old 02-13-2018, 11:17 AM
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No skin in the game, just reading your post and hope you can work it out. You need an attorney as soon as possible. If you need a ear in the bay to talk to let me know. Divorce is dark dark times so I hear. Glad you have no kids in the house. Ted Rechel of Rechel and Associates is a good family law attorney.
Old 02-13-2018, 11:22 AM
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Ugh! Keep your head up, try to remain positive and probably shouldn't say another word about it. Get the lawyer in and try not to let your emotions get the best of ya.
Old 02-13-2018, 11:23 AM
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On the bright side, I would say she made it relatively quick and easy for you. Not painless, but quick and easy. Can't give you any recommendations for a divorce lawyer, but I can tell you that you need to "consult" with as many of them as possible, as soon as possible.....takes them off the table for her side.
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Sounds like you have been through a lot with her. Your son passing, your first wife passing, her divorce. It puts a strain on things. I feel for you and the unfortunate events that have happened.

Words of wisdom from my divorce would be, life is going to suck for a bit, adjusting to coming home alone to a house that is half empty, worrying about being alone, worrying about money but trust me you have been way more unhappy than you realise and you will be way happier than you ever thought you could be in a bit of time.

You will be better off in the end.

Go run down to Target and buy some things to make your house your own, it will make you feel alot better, and take off your wedding band.
Old 02-13-2018, 11:27 AM
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Lawyer... which you already know.

Sorry man. That's horrible. You married a woman, supported her and her children after you lost your wife and she's divorced. Surly or not -- she packed up and left. That's wrong.

Wishing you the best. I rode this train. She came home, said she was going to live with her sister - next thing I knew I got the letter in the mail from her lawyer and she was looking to gold-dig. (That's the short version.)

Looking back? Best thing EVER to happen to me.
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Following traditional tht protocol, will need pics of wife
Old 02-13-2018, 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by OldPete View Post

Looking back? Best thing EVER to happen to me.
This, I don't know one divorced dude that has ever said they are worse off after their divorce. Most of them spend their money how they want, are wiser so they know to avoid some of the relationship pitfalls like spoiling her too early or sharing a checking account, and have way better looking woman who actually enjoy sex.
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OP: You never know how things are going to work out. Maybe just need some time apart, a cooling off period. I don't know what else to say.

You seem like a reasonable person. Sounds like she could have done this in a more congenial way.

Losing her son was probably too much for her to handle considering what she had to deal with before you. I know losing my boy would push me way over the top. I'm pretty sure I would not only do something stupid, but I'd do something stupidly unreasonable. How / why that affected her relationship with you, well who really knows how the human mind works.

I sincerely wish you and your wife all the best.
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Oh, one more bit of advice,

Go open up a new account and change your direct deposit. While I was separated my x drained my account and there was nothing I could do because we were still married, she was even able to access another account I had because we were married. While you are at it freeze any joint credit card accounts so she can't rack them up and get new cards issued so if she has any of your card numbers saved they can't be used. Do this today.

I got royally screwed over this.

Also as of the day she left get statements of balance on all of your accounts and save them. That way if she does manage to rack things up you at least have documentation that she did so after she left.
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You say your surly, Nothing will change until that does. Couples consoling may be too far gone at this point. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. You have to see where she is, is she at the point of no return? If so it's done, when a woman makes up her mind, it's over.

Best of luck, if she says I don't know, maybe, then try going to counseling.
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Great advice Lorne. Doing it now. Already changed beneficiary on all my life insurance. I get wacked today onward my kids get it all. She would get the house and 401k. Life insurance is much more. I set it up so she would be living large if I croak.

I appreciate every ones, advice support and points of view. Frees up my thinking.
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What doesn't kill you gives you a set of unhealthy coping mechanisms and a dark sense of humor.

You have been through tougher times than this and you will get through this

This is now your job. Focus on you and doing this job correctly

I know nothing about these guys other than their radio commercials. Hopefully someone here will give a good recommendation on an attorney. If not this might be a starting point

http://cordellcordell.com/offices/florida/
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Get with an attorney and figure out what she gets under law. Then tell her she has a choice, either we do this sensibly, by yourselves, or you do with minus 25 to 50,000 less thru attorney. It's her choice. Ask her if she'd like to give 25,000 to an attorney?

As for your mental health... No 2 people ever say we're done at the exact same time. 1 is always going to be first. The sooner you let go and get on with your life the better. There is no winning her back
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Sorry for you are going thru Big D in Tampa bay, sounds like you're getting the cold shoulder treatment, no communication...another form of childishness/nastiness that isn't needed, hopefully you'll get a female judge who is tired of seeing women project the victim role/use it as a reason for divorce. These female judges typically hate this crap as much as men and penalize females for it.

Lawyer up, a female one with a mans mind is best, don't put your business (personal affairs) in the street, which I wouldn't call what you're doing here...(slang for don't share this sad time in life w/others)
Change locks, codes, cut her access to any and all, she walked out on you without even saying she was leaving...

Don't forget to notify ID card section as Macdill about her and her ID card/Base privs which you're responsible for. Pretty sure security forces @ Macdill will tell you she gets to keep her ID/Base privs till you have a divorce decree?

Lastly...
Tell you what I tell every guy going thru Big D...
Get a Harley and date a stripper/trashy woman (if you've ever had a desire?)
With the Harley, you'll never be alone as there is always another woman who wants to go on a Harley date/hang out with a guy with a Harley. The stripper/trashy woman thing is expected since you're supposedly a crushed, heartbroken man so everyone look the other way if you date/keep with trashy women during this process...
Good time to practice female logic as to how to cope I.e. "Best way to get over a man is to get under another" I've heard too many barbies say, time for you to practice role reversal...

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Sorry to hear this. I have been through it and it is no fun, but it does get better. Good luck and take all steps to protect your finances. You can’t afford a cheap,lawyer.
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My first bit of advice is to stop posing your financial data on the internet.
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Sorry, this sucks. However, it is time to pull up the britches and get down to business. The best thing is that she moved out. I would go put a no trespass notice on her to keep her out. .....at least that's what I did when mine moved out. Get a lawyer ASAP. At least in VA, her moving out puts you in a real good position.
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Originally Posted by finatic1 View Post
My first bit of advice is to stop posing your financial data on the internet.
Good point, changed it to ratios

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