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Old 10-11-2017, 06:56 AM
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Usually when the "Is this a scam" question is asked, the answer is pretty obvious, and its normally "Yes".

This one I'm not so sure about.

A few weeks back my SIL (wife's sister) is contacted by a woman who claims to be the result of a one night stand between my FIL (recently deceased) and her mother (also deceased). This would have happened circa 1955 when he about 19 years old and was in the Navy and at least 2 years prior to his marrying my MIL. There was some level of communication between my SIL and this woman where she went on about her troubled life....I didn't ask for details. This woman then contacts my wife via Facebook relating her current state of woe and looking to connect with her long lost "family". My wife rejected the friend request and blocked her from further access to her Facebook account. As far as I know, there has been no further contact but my SIL is kind of gullible and may be communicating with this woman without telling anyone.

Is trolling the obituaries looking for targets a common thing? My MIL is still alive and has not been informed of any of this. There isn't much of an estate involved and since my FIL went first, everything passed to my MIL so I don't think there is a path for this woman to go after anything from an inheritance perspective.

Any thoughts????
Old 10-11-2017, 07:01 AM
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Don't ask us... we don't know Jack.

Ask your estate or probate lawyer.
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Sounds like the scam that went around years ago. Someone would show up on the doorstep of a recently deceased person's family with a COD package the deceased supposedly ordered. The family would pay and receive a brick in a box, or equivalent, in return.

Low life parasites!! They're everywhere.
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DNA is pretty easy to cross match these days. Plenty of mail order services on the internet.
Ask the woman for a hair sample or whatever the DNA company requires and see where it goes from there.

If her mom was the one night stand type of woman, chances are there are plenty of ''baby daddy'' candidates this woman can hit up!
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Is trolling the obituaries looking for targets a common thing?
Unfortunately a VERY common thing. No idea if that is the case here, but it is used as an initial contact point for cons.
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That's an interesting one. I have no doubt that someone would stoop to trolling obituaries to look for targets. Grieving people might make easy targets.

That said, there is a possibility that the woman is actually who she claims. Doesn't change the fact that she's looking for a payday. The whole "troubled life" is a big indicator. Regardless of legitimacy (or I should say illegitimacy), you and your wife want nothing to do with this person. Nothing but trouble looking for a handout.
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Old 10-11-2017, 07:33 AM
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Originally Posted by CJS View Post
Usually when the "Is this a scam" question is asked, the answer is pretty obvious, and its normally "Yes".

This one I'm not so sure about.

A few weeks back my SIL (wife's sister) is contacted by a woman who claims to be the result of a one night stand between my FIL (recently deceased) and her mother (also deceased). This would have happened circa 1955 when he about 19 years old and was in the Navy and at least 2 years prior to his marrying my MIL. There was some level of communication between my SIL and this woman where she went on about her troubled life....I didn't ask for details. This woman then contacts my wife via Facebook relating her current state of woe and looking to connect with her long lost "family". My wife rejected the friend request and blocked her from further access to her Facebook account. As far as I know, there has been no further contact but my SIL is kind of gullible and may be communicating with this woman without telling anyone.

Is trolling the obituaries looking for targets a common thing? My MIL is still alive and has not been informed of any of this. There isn't much of an estate involved and since my FIL went first, everything passed to my MIL so I don't think there is a path for this woman to go after anything from an inheritance perspective.

Any thoughts????
Yes...it is a common enough thing that it actually happened to someone I know.

Same basic story, but a scam from start to finish.
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Sounds like a confidence game. Scam all the way.
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Quick way to tell.

Respond back with:
"Thank god you've come forward. Dad left a large amount of debt that has been passed on to his survivors. I will provide the attorneys with your contact info so they can inform you of your portion of the debt."

Then sit back and enjoy the sound of silence.
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The DNA test is the way to go. Mention it and listen for the sound of silence.
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Circa 1955 would put this woman in her 60's. If legit, she's had more than enough time to work out her daddy issues.

IMO her "tales of woa" are a huge tell. People legitimately trying to reconnect with long lost families tend to try hiding the negativity at first.

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