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Old 08-27-2017, 11:14 AM
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i have to say that some people just dont deserve to be helped out !
i was out on the water today and watched a big 40 ft yacht run aground on a sandbank , the skipper hailed me over to give him a tow off ,
i thought OK why not ill give it a go , spent a good 10 min messing around trying to tilt it from the top of his mast with a rope to my ski pole, till i got a bit concerned that i may do some damage to my boat ,40 ft yacht V 16ft ski boat ,
i told the guy "this is not going to happen' and he would need to call sea rescue or a savage team " and un tethered him from my boat ,
DID I GET EVEN A THANK YOU ??? no oooo,
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Good manners are in short supply these days......good on ya for trying, anyways.
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I watched a sail boat that washed up shallow on a sandy beach (gulf of mexico).
several good sized power boats and very long ropes tried to tilt it over and pull it out to deeper water. . do not know how they finally got it off, but it was gone the next time I went down there.
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A lot of my business is helping people. I find a strong correlation that the people who need help the most appreciate it the least.

Still you wonder if you saw him at the marina later if he would have been very grateful.
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You gave it a shot. Karma is still happy.
Old 08-27-2017, 02:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
This idea of you'll get it in the end for being nice, thoughtful and helpful towards others, well my butt hole is tired from taking it in the end. People seem to only be happy when someone is doing or giving them something they need or want, but couldn't give a shit about you when you are in need.
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I was push poling along a shoreline a few years back and saw 2 people wading along pulling a small boat, they stopped and put something into the boat. when I got close to them I asked it they needed help.
turns out a woman and her daughter were crusing along hit some shallow water and their 25 HP motor came off of their little boat. What they stopped and picked up out of the water was their motor, apparently they did not have it clamped on very good
I tied on and pulled them back to the boat ramp
boat ramp was busy so I could not park, had to circle for a while after I slid them in close.not sure how they got it all loaded

pulled boats a lot bigger than my little16' rig with a 35 on it.
and got pulled back once when I lost a power pack faster than my boat ever ran by itself once.
it is all part of being a good person on the water
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Why should he have thanked you, you didn't even get him unstuck.
Old 08-28-2017, 06:37 AM
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Garett,I feel your pain bro,Even family,I give $ (big money's),and the 1st time I say no,CRICKETS,That's Ok ,they'll need me again,12 of us,sad ,our family had next to NOTHING,Food was like Treasure,We all came from same Mon & Dad.I played Father,Big brother,and it just saddens me that the WORLD can split people up ,but Responsibilty is whats lacking.Never anyone's fault.Y'all have seen me APOLOGIZE .I was wrong,why's that so hard to say.Let me fix it,and you're out .Strange days indeed.
All the best!
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p.s. I'm a simple man!,not ignorant ,just easy to get along.
Old 08-28-2017, 07:44 AM
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Vincent......I want to buy you a beer one day, your a "Good Soul".... Hard to find these days!
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One day we were out and this guy runs aground in his sailboat. He was freaking out, so I jumped in and pushed his boat off the bar. I was happy to help, but he didn't even look my way, just went about his business. is "thanks" or a wave really that hard?
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Heading out to go fishing early one morning, maybe 5:45 when I came across a sailboat that was way out of the channel and obviously stuck. Went over, spent a couple of minutes and got them free.

Half hour later they motored not more than 50 feet away from me. Not even so much as a wave...
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Good on ya OP, just keep doing it because its the right thing to do regardless of any recognition.
Old 08-28-2017, 09:38 AM
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When I help people I don't do it for glory I do it because it's what I think is the right thing to do. Most are thankful and try to pay me but I tell them to pay it forward.
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I would honestly rather do a favor for someone than to ask for one. Several months ago I had a flat tire where I was working. Dm if the thing wasn't gone that you let the spare down with. This chick that was working close by let me borrow her spare even though I explained that I was working out of town and wouldn't be back until the following week. When I brought her spare back I gave her a gift bag with a thank you card with a $10 in it, a jar of some jelly my wife had made, and a big bag of trail mix.
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I like helping folks, that's all. Passed a dude on 95 a while back starting to walk away from his car with a gas can in his hand. It was a long way from the nearest exit and during rush hour. I pulled over and backed way back to get to him, he was a big black guy w dreds and was very surprised I stopped for him. Took him up to gas station and he asked if I could give him $5, all I had was 20's so gave him one and asked him to pay it forward. Very thankful guy.
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I recommend the book: How To Win Friends and Influence People. In it the author says not to expect gratitude.

I try to live with the attitude of gratitude. I am enjoying other posters talk about their gratitude.
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i too enjoy helping people out or at the very least offering a hand when i see someone in need of some assistance ,
i dont expect to be reimbursed " in fact i get offended when someone offers reimbursement when i have helped them" ,
the only thing i expect in return is a 'thank you' or even something as notable as a 'thumbs up' as acknowledgment of a good deed done.
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Originally Posted by Garett View Post
This idea of you'll get it in the end for being nice, thoughtful and helpful towards others, well my butt hole is tired from taking it in the end. People seem to only be happy when someone is doing or giving them something they need or want, but couldn't give a shit about you when you are in need.
You overshared again
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Originally Posted by BlueRudy View Post
You overshared again

Well done.

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