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Old 07-21-2017, 10:22 AM
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That you just cannot go on a boat with. My father-in-law, great guy, love him to death. He's been a boat owner and avid fisherman for over 30 years. I just cannot handle boating with him. Whether its his lack of skill backing the boat trailer down the ramp... still...(i usually end up doing it for him ) or that he pilots the boat like he's the only one on the water, weaving all around, and don't try and take over the controls or youll be walking the plank! Or that he idles EVERYWHERE we go. We went out last evening and he idled from his house all the way out the inlet for a solid half mile or so before he even opened it up to get going!! Lol anyone else's have someone like this😀
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His boat. His rules. He is the captain. You can choose not to boat with him, but when using his boat his word is the law.
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Yep that's a tough one, since it's your father in-law. That is why I always drive my boat or take my car when going places. But still you have to try and be accommodating to friends and family, or you won't have any return guest.
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You must sit over there. No aerosol sunscreen within 12' of the boat. Do you have insurance in case you get injured? No crumbs on the deck. You must pay $243.68 for your share of the fuel. Be here at 7.03am sharp. No speaking above 20db. If I say jump, jump and ask how high after.

No thanks. I'll stay on the dock. Chances are if you are like that you wouldn't ask me out on your boat. We wouldn't know each other.
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We do usually take our boat more often than not but sometimes my wife just wants to go with her father on his boat and that's a battle I'm just not gonna fight. Lol I just feel that for as long as he has been a boat owner/operator that every time we go out on it that were either going to be in or cause an accident of some sort.
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Just finished cutting away one of the worst braid birds nests I have ever seen on one reel and repairing another , and my wife wants to know why I never ask my brother in law fishing
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I went through the same and the person that helped me said just sit back, enjoy the ride, for once your not responsible for everyone, hell drink a beer or two, use the time to spend with your wife ect and just enjoy being on the water. When it was told to me like that, it helped. Totally understand what you are saying though!!!!
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Originally Posted by Rickster View Post
I went through the same and the person that helped me said just sit back, enjoy the ride, for once your not responsible for everyone, hell drink a beer or two, use the time to spend with your wife ect and just enjoy being on the water. When it was told to me like that, it helped. Totally understand what you are saying though!!!!
Lol you might be on to something!! Although maybe I'll start tossing a few back on our way there! Ha!
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Yep, learn to NOT critique his boating. I too have issues with that on other peoples boats. Just learn to sit back and enjoy the ride and the company. Hard to do, but it works.
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every time we go out on it that were either going to be in or cause an accident of some sort.[/QUOTE]

Well atleast it would be at idle speed
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Yeah - my dad - back when he was physically able to go boating. He scared the crap out of me every time. Still, I would take that over the dementia he has now.

The moral of the story is - your wife wants to be with her dad. Sit back and try to enjoy the ride.
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My rule when I'm on someone else's boat, I'll sit down, shut up and not do a damned thing until you tell me what you want done, explain it in detail and then show me at least once. And I'll only do exactly what you said, no more, no less. I learned this from a friend of mine that was a confirmed sailboat guy.


On the first trip out with him I explained my theory and sat down. a few minutes later he asked me to hand him the wind channel from under the seat I was sitting on. Well I looked and looked and didn't see anything that looked like it could channel the wind. Finally in frustration he reached in and came up with a WINCH HANDLE!!! Go figure..... My duties were very limited after that.....
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Originally Posted by easttnboater View Post
Yeah - my dad - back when he was physically able to go boating. He scared the crap out of me every time. Still, I would take that over the dementia he has now.

The moral of the story is - your wife wants to be with her dad. Sit back and try to enjoy the ride.
A few weeks ago the wife and I went out a little early try and get a little fishing in while the kids (10&13) stayed at the grandparents house. Later in the day my wife's father decided to take his boat out with my kids and meet up with us by the beach and anchor up to swim for a bit. We were there first so as he pulls up and ties off to our boat the first thing out of my son's mouth is how slow grandpa drives and right after that my daughter says how they almost tipped over when a big fishing boat past them as they exited the inlet!! Lol! A bit exaggerated I'm sure. Oh the memories!
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Be carefu who you invite in your boat. My best boat guests are all former boat owners. They bring lunch and help cover some expenses. Some people only get invited once.
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sometimes you have to make the wife happy, you know it's going to be shitty.. kick back and enjoy.. Hopefully the wife makes it up to you later..

I do refuse to take my mom's brother fishing on my boat.. And I will not go with him..
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Originally Posted by Rmoody79 View Post
Just finished cutting away one of the worst braid birds nests I have ever seen on one reel and repairing another , and my wife wants to know why I never ask my brother in law fishing
Haha my best friend is just like that. Great guy and will do anything for you, loves to fish but he is a wreck on a boat. I run my spools loose,and he picks up a rod with 150 yards of brand new braid. I told him be easy on it that's brand new braid and I have just about 0 brakes set on it. First cast he bird nested it so bad every bit of it had to be cut out. He slams live well lids, wears boots, brings bananas. He went to put a fish it the ice chest tripped and through it back over board. Can't back up a trailer to save his life. He means well and loves to go so I don't complain, he's learning.
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Originally Posted by planerboard View Post
every time we go out on it that were either going to be in or cause an accident of some sort.
Well atleast it would be at idle speed[/QUOTE]

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Just troll a lure while he's idling about.
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One of my buds has a big friend descended from Russians. Strong as an ox, but clumsy. Managed to rip the flybridge helm seat pedestal completely free of the deck. Good solid glass and wood below, but not sufficient to hold a big Russian. I helped him fix the boat. Have not seen the big guy out on it lately.
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Originally Posted by Budget View Post
You must sit over there. No aerosol sunscreen within 12' of the boat. Do you have insurance in case you get injured? No crumbs on the deck. You must pay $243.68 for your share of the fuel. Be here at 7.03am sharp. No speaking above 20db. If I say jump, jump and ask how high after.

No thanks. I'll stay on the dock. Chances are if you are like that you wouldn't ask me out on your boat. We wouldn't know each other.
Sorry but I'll agree with the sunscreen part. Some of them will yellow a hull. But I just make em get on the downwind side, not 12' away.

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