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Old 05-24-2017, 05:51 AM
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I have a meeting later today with a new customer and all I know about him is that he is in a wheelchair. I don't know if it's good or bad to ask him what his disability is. If it were me I wouldn't mind, in fact it would make me think that they cared enough to ask me.

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Old 05-24-2017, 05:53 AM
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Not on the first meeting anyway.
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Old 05-24-2017, 05:57 AM
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No. If it becomes relevant, he should let you know. Make sure your meeting location and facilities (including bathrooms) are "wheelchair-friendly."
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I met a guy once who was a paraplegic. He used to frequent the ski bar I worked at.
One night we all went to a friend house to party and I asked him what happened and he told me.
I did have an opening because he would fly from Florida to CO and I entered the conversation by asking how he managed the controls etc.
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Originally Posted by DrDanH View Post
No. If it becomes relevant, he should let you know. Make sure your meeting location and facilities (including bathrooms) are "wheelchair-friendly."
This. And do have access for him unless you plan to interview him in his vehicle. Good luck.
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Old 05-24-2017, 06:06 AM
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Obviously his disability is he cannot walk.
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Old 05-24-2017, 06:14 AM
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Unless it's relevant to the business you are doing, it's none of your business.
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Old 05-24-2017, 06:15 AM
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No.
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Old 05-24-2017, 06:27 AM
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Don't be this guy...
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Old 05-24-2017, 06:31 AM
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The problem comes in when you ask someone disabled, they think you are going to treat them differently. My wife has MS, low vision and balance issues, the company she put 23 years in fired her for it, there was a settlement. Since, she has been very leery about answering your question because she is worried that someone will say she it unable to do something, namely her job. One of the co-workers at the previous job kind of started the firing by questioning whether she was able to do her job, that she had been doing for years with the disability.
If you can ask in a non-threatening tone, maybe you can ask. But generally you will make that person nervous.
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If you have to ask this question, then you are the wrong person to be dealing with customers....
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No let they volunteer that information, if they choose.
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"So Russ, do you have a brain injury or developmental issue or what?"

That should answer the question.
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Originally Posted by Qb1rdman View Post
"So Russ, do you have a brain injury or developmental issue or what?"

That should answer the question.
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I am now disabled and have been for a year and a half.

Since I walk with a cane and most of the time wear a knee brace I think folks are more comfortable asking what happened since my problem doesn't appear to be genetic.

Even though I won't bring it up, people are curious and most of the time will ask. I don't mind and actually like to get it out of the way.

With that said though I still feel it is not something you should ask unless the other fella brings it up.
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Flip the chair over...see if he's faken. If not then then ask.
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Originally Posted by Lprizman View Post
Flip the chair over...see if he's faken. If not then then ask.
That's pretty undudelike Dude
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Get off of my ass, I have never been in this position so I wasn't sure. Blue Rudy is disabled & he isn't offended so those of you know it alls don't know it all.

I am meeting him at his officehe called me.Qb1rdman- I am getting real annoyed by your smarta$$ed comments please don't respond to any more of my posts. I don't need the aggravation from someone like you that thinks everyone else is stupid but you.
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