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Old 05-24-2017, 07:07 AM
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Oh hell yeah, just ask "what's your malfunction?" Most 'cappers want to be treated like normal people.
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Old 05-24-2017, 07:11 AM
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Originally Posted by BlueRudy View Post
That's pretty undudelike Dude
I was just watching a video on fake disability scammers...they actually did it.

I wouldn't ask until you develop a good relationship or the individual volunteers it.
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Old 05-24-2017, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted by RussH View Post
I have a meeting later today with a new customer and all I know about him is that he is in a wheelchair. I don't know if it's good or bad to ask him what his disability is. If it were me I wouldn't mind, in fact it would make me think that they cared enough to ask me.

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Old 05-24-2017, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted by BlueRudy View Post
I am now disabled and have been for a year and a half.

Since I walk with a cane and most of the time wear a knee brace I think folks are more comfortable asking what happened since my problem doesn't appear to be genetic.

Even though I won't bring it up, people are curious and most of the time will ask. I don't mind and actually like to get it out of the way.

With that said though I still feel it is not something you should ask unless the other fella brings it up.
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OP: If you ask the disability question and he responds, you have placed yourself in an awkward situation.

Unless you are a physician, or someone else who can possibly offer something positive to improve his life, all you can say in response to his explanation is, "Sorry to hear that," "That sucks," or some other platitude that is likely to be taken as an offense. You may also open yourself up to a complaint in the future, because you "made his disability an issue" (when it isn't, and should not be) by asking about it.
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Originally Posted by DrDanH View Post
OP: If you ask the disability question and he responds, you have placed yourself in an awkward situation.

Unless you are a physician, or someone else who can possibly offer something positive to improve his life, all you can say in response to his explanation is, "Sorry to hear that," "That sucks," or some other platitude that is likely to be taken as an offense. You may also open yourself up to a complaint in the future, because you "made his disability an issue" (when it isn't, and should not be) by asking about it.
Usually my first question is Does your thang still work?
I find it to be a great ice-breaker and I am genuinely curious if it does.
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Offer to put him in a bear hug to see if you can fix him.

Or, take him to Disney World with you and skip all the lines. Win-Win!!
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Old 05-24-2017, 07:19 AM
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My take is that it is a medical condition and I have no right to pry into his medical history. If he wants me to know, he'll tell me.
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Old 05-24-2017, 07:21 AM
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Make sure you also ask him what religion he is and his political leanings at the first meeting
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Originally Posted by RussH View Post
Get off of my ass, I have never been in this position so I wasn't sure. Blue Rudy is disabled & he isn't offended so those of you know it alls don't know it all.

I am meeting him at his officehe called me.Qb1rdman- I am getting real annoyed by your smarta$$ed comments please don't respond to any more of my posts. I don't need the aggravation from someone like you that thinks everyone else is stupid but you.
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Originally Posted by RussH View Post
I have a meeting later today with a new customer and all I know about him is that he is in a wheelchair. I don't know if it's good or bad to ask him what his disability is. If it were me I wouldn't mind, in fact it would make me think that they cared enough to ask me.

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Old 05-24-2017, 07:28 AM
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I've seen the world a little through the eyes of my niece and my wife's friend. They hate to go out in public because most people act like loosers and stare at them. Something broke on my wife's friend's wheel chair at a party and everyone wanted to help fix it. She was so embarrassed that she wouldn't go to any more parties for a long time.

I would take any needed measures for accessibility, bathroom included, but would probably not ask about his disability and would concentrate on the business at hand.
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Old 05-24-2017, 08:21 AM
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Unless you selling him life insurance I would say don't bring it up.
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Old 05-24-2017, 09:09 AM
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Originally Posted by RussH View Post
I have a meeting later today with a new customer and all I know about him is that he is in a wheelchair. I don't know if it's good or bad to ask him what his disability is. If it were me I wouldn't mind, in fact it would make me think that they cared enough to ask me.

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I agree with the people advising you not to ask about the disability. People with disabilities just want to be treated like anyone else, unless their disability makes it necessary to treat them differently.
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I have done both ignore it and ask why they are in the wheel chair or what ever. I think it depends on how you phrase your question, being noisy, interested, or just being a human, never like symphony. I once ask a guy what he was going to do after the cruise in Med since he had mobility problems, he was happy I ask and he said he and his traveling companion were renting a car and gong to Paris and he had to drive the famous Circle LOL.. PS, he was injured in a Motor Cycle accident.
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:28 AM
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Um, who are you yelling at???

Ask him if he is any good with a hulla hoop?
You knew it was coming right?

We gotta get you a reality show.
Nobody I'm over it now. I am having a crappy week & in a foul mood. I asked the most benign question and was looking for a simple yes or no, I didn't want the extra editorial about it because Frankly I couldn't car any less. I guess threads like "What shoes should I wear to take out the garbage?" Are way more relevant than what I asked.

To those that had an opinion one way or the other and gave an explanation of your opinion I thank you for that. I'm done participating on this thread.

Just a bad week and a couple of the put down's & stupid responses got under my skin.
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:32 AM
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I wouldn't feel comfortable asking that question.
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:45 AM
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Uhh, don't ask. Treat him like any other person. If he wants to, he will bring it up.

One of my nieces is blind, she doesn't have a disability, nor is she handicapped. She just doesn't drive.
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:52 AM
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A Primer on Disability:

Can't breathe well=heart or lungs
Can't see=blind
Can't hear= deaf
Can't move legs=paraplegia
Can't move legs or arms=quadriplegia
Can't move arm and leg on one side: hemiplegia (stroke usually)
Can't move limbs freely=arthritis
Has only one leg=amputation
Has no legs= double amputation
Can't think clearly=brain dysfunction (Dementia or maybe a Democrat)
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