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Old 05-21-2017, 06:32 PM
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It might be hard to believe but I'm a very helpful person, especially to older people. I regularly hold doors open at store, pull cars out of the snow, shovel snow for a couple of old peoples driveway and sidewalks and I have never accepted a penny. Just a simple "THANK YOU" is all I expect. I try to help anyone that is having a difficult time. On Friday I had to ship back the defective electric power washer I bought and I went to the local UPS Store. When I came out I seen a women probably in her mid 70's on the other side of the parking lot trying to get a big box out of her trunk. I walked over to her car and told her I would carry it, the box probably weighed 40LBS so she would have had a tough time carrying it all the way across the parking lot. I carry the box to the UPS Store and I actually held the door open into the store for her so not only did she not have to carry the box all they way across the parking lot but she didn't even have to open the door.

I carry the box in and asked the women if she wanted the box on the floor, the counter, or right on the scale and she didn't answer me. The women that worked at the store told me to just put it on the scale. The women with the box started talking to the UPS women and I turned around and slowly walked out and the old wench didn't say a freakin word to me. When I turned around to leave she actually looked at me so she knew I was leaving so it's not like she just turned around and I wasn't there.

It probably shouldn't have bothered me but it did. What the hell would she have done if I wouldn't have carried the box for her? Who else would have been there to do it? A simple THANK YOU was all I was looking for.
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I usually just say "you're welcome" ina loud voice and then forget all about it.
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Originally Posted by Double tyme View Post
I usually just say "you're welcome" ina loud voice and then forget all about it.
Me too. Then mumble to myself 'arsehole.'
Old 05-21-2017, 06:38 PM
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Stop sweating the small stuff. You can't control other people. You can only control yourself. i never help others for a thank you. I help others because they need help. I also don't brag about helping others.
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Originally Posted by Double tyme View Post
I usually just say "you're welcome" ina loud voice and then forget all about it.
me too, and sometimes with a suttle remark
Old 05-21-2017, 06:50 PM
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I've had similar things happen to me, too. She may be a few bricks short of a load.

Don't let it get you down, you're a good man, Charlie Brown!
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Elderly entitlement. Lived in a neighborhood with a lot of retirees. When they went grocery shopping, for example, and saw me, they would stand with their trunk open looking at me waiting for me to help them, which I did, but many never thanked me. They acted like it was an expected service. They never got any more help.
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I would've slashed her tires...
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Some people are pretty selfish nowadays, don't dwell on it. You did a good deed were a Boy Scout and she was selfish and a sociopath (showing little if any regard for others espcially their feelings)

Be greatful she didn't make a scene insinuating you broke her property trying to force you to cough up money like a con person would've...why I don't do these deeds, taking unnessary chances of liabilities from random strangers.

Women don't need men to open doors for them since the advent of the American w/disabilities act and it requiring push button auto door openers in public places on doors...mommies w/strollers indoctornate kids to "push the button" so the door opens and no physical effort needed...America the beautiful at its finest! I always chuckle when I'm at the gym and I see people hit the auto door openers, nothing says lazy like that IMO...then again at homestead Air Force base the gym has sensor activated auto door opener like at finer trumped out places...
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Set fire to the box.
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A lot of people are just rude today, I call them "me,me, me people" they are the only people that matter as far as they are concerned, a-holes as far as I am concerned.
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You do it because it makes you feel good helping someone.
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A loud "your welcome" as I left does it for we, older folks need us good guys. I'll say it. Thanks for your help,sir.
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Maybe she thought you intended to ask her to borough $50 or something.
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Simple. She was from back east. New Jersey maybe,
Old 05-21-2017, 07:19 PM
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I would have followed her home and set her house on fire.

Life's too short to sweat the small stuff Russ. You did what you always do regardless of the rewards or outcome.

In fact, if you saw the same lady tomorrow doing the same thing, I bet you'd be right over there helping her again.

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Originally Posted by deckape View Post
A loud "your welcome" as I left does it for we, older folks need us good guys. I'll say it. Thanks for your help,sir.
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Another ass chapper is when saying 'hi' or 'good morning' in passing and the passerby is too good to acknowledge you and keeps walking. I guess location plays a big part in friendliness. What I hear anyway.
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Bottom line Russ,
Yes, she should have recognized you for your unsolicited help.
Yes, we know you didn't help her just to get a, "Thank you.
Yes, there are ungrateful people in the world.
Yes, we know you didn't start this thread to for a, Humble Brag, to everyone here.
Yes, some have traveled paths none of us know nor may understand even if it were detailed to us that may explain their behavior.

Don't sweat the small stuff.
Take the bad with the good and move on.
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There's just no substitute for breeding and manners.

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