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Old 11-22-2016, 10:37 AM
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A 14 year old son of a buddy of mine took his own life Sunday.

By all accounts he had the world by the tail.

Great family, tons of friends, great grades, loved to hunt and fish, and was one of the best athletes in anything that kept a score.

The amount of pain his family is enduring right now is immeasurable.

My kids and most of my friends kids played on the same team or against this young man and his passing has touched / troubled us greatly.

No real need to post this on a boating forum other than to tell you guys to give your kids a

hug or a phone call and let them know you are there for them and things

are never that bad.
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Old 11-22-2016, 10:40 AM
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It's funny how these types of very sad stories affect us as we age and have kids of our own. My son is the same age.

I'm very sorry for your friends' (and your) loss. Just terrible.

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Old 11-22-2016, 11:01 AM
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How do you get through these kids heads that they are living a tiny little part of their whole life and what seems like a big deal now will likely not mean anything in a day, month, or a year.

A kid that works where my wife works broke up with his girlfriend and the 16 year old girl hung herself in her bedroom! OMG how can anything be so horrible that you would end your life before you even started it!
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Redwine, I feel your sorrow. My son found his best friend. 5-6 yrs ago.(he was 17) Its tough on him still to this day. All I can do is be there for him and tell him how much I love him. He has sought professional help and will go from time to time. He is just now getting to where he will talk about it and seems to accept it. A part of him feels as though he could have prevented it. Prayers for your buddy and the family I have lived it in sense...its tough!
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Old 11-22-2016, 12:12 PM
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I have spent many years responding to suicides, suicide attempts and placing people in the mental hospital. As a group, they are some of the most dangerous and irrational people.

Very sad a young man thought a permanent solution to a temporary issue was the answer. I have seen too many dead bodies and people kill themselves. I wish there was more answers and help for them...As a country our treatment of the mentally ill is dismal..
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I had a young man (21) who worked for me that did the same. On the outside looking in, you'd have thought this guy was happy. Hard to understand but there are things going on in their lives, or at least they think something is going on, that they can't handle. Damn shame is all I can say.
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Depression is a very serious mental illness. That doesn't get recognized until it's too late sometimes.
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Today marks 11 years since a good friend of mine did the same. Everyone knew he was suffering from depression, and was seeking help. By all accounts it was headed in the right direction, and under control.

My brother married his younger sister last year. Even after 11 years it is difficult at times for her to work through it.

No answers are there to be found. You can only be there when they need you, and say a prayer.
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My brother married his younger sister last year?
Sorry, you peaked my interest here..
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Sorry, you peaked my interest here..
Not too much to it. Our families go to the same church, but weren't previously all that close. They just ended up together. He is 7 years older than she is.
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So sorry for your, and his loss. No words.

I don't know anything about raising boys - I was blessed with 2 daughters. There is a TON of pressure on young men these days - to do, go, be, be successful.
I can't imagine losing a child. The best you can do for them is to teach them to make good choices, including and especially choices in their friends.
Hopefully your friends' family will find some peace as time passes.
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I'm kind of on the outside looking in here. But do you think maybe this rash of teen suicides has anything to do with giving them everything they want and then the instant they don't get it (e.g. girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them), it's time to check out?
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Originally Posted by Vitamin_Sea View Post
I'm kind of on the outside looking in here. But do you think maybe this rash of teen suicides has anything to do with giving them everything they want and then the instant they don't get it (e.g. girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them), it's time to check out?
No.

I will remain polite and leave it at that.
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Originally Posted by Vitamin_Sea View Post
I'm kind of on the outside looking in here. But do you think maybe this rash of teen suicides has anything to do with giving them everything they want and then the instant they don't get it (e.g. girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them), it's time to check out?
I think there are more pressures on younger kids these days. They are forced to deal with things at a much earlier age than just 25 years ago. The internet, the movies and TV kids are bombarded with all kinds of adult pressures and situations. Situations they are not emotional prepared to handle.
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Sorry for you loss
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Originally Posted by Vitamin_Sea View Post
I'm kind of on the outside looking in here. But do you think maybe this rash of teen suicides has anything to do with giving them everything they want and then the instant they don't get it (e.g. girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up with them), it's time to check out?
An interesting perspective. Time will tell. The recent hysteria exhibited by the youngsters to the presidential result seems to point that way.
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Sorry for your loss.
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awful,,,prayers hugs and positivity sent
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I'm a firm believer that social media plays a huge part in most teen suicides.The human teen is incapable of coping with so much daily drama without some dire consequences to sensitive individuals.
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