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Life can really be an Emmer Effer

Old 10-16-2016, 05:50 PM
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Default Life can really be an Emmer Effer

I am sure some of you will remember me telling you guys four years ago on my birthday (October 6th) that my mother could no longer care for my dad and he was headed for a nursing home.

Well another birthday has come and gone and with this one more bad news. My dad was put under hospice care at the decision of my mom at the end of last week. I didn't post because we had a Texas Wine Country trip planned this weekend as part of my wife's birthday present to me and I think I was just trying not to think about it til this week. Basically with Epilepsy, Dementia, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's and a whole host of other problems, his organs are just shutting down. His problem at the moment is that his body is no longer extrapolating energy or nutrients from the food he is being fed so he has lost 20 lbs in six weeks.

Anyhow, he's only 74 years old...I thought these would be the years we would be enjoying his grandkids together.

Go hug your kids, mom, dad...whoever you got around you. Ain't no guarantees with this poker hand you have no choice but to play.

I wish it wasn't this way dad, I love you.

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Amen going through the same with my mom who was my rock growing up always encouraged me to be the best I can be. sucks for sure but in the end we don't get to make the call. Prayers sent
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I totally understand what you are going through right now. I hug my kids extra tight every night! Life just doesn't seem fair sometimes. Stay strong!
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I'm so sorry to hear this, Jay.
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Sad, sorry you go through this, it's never a good time but I'm sure it makes you think of your own mortality.
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Lost my father at age 76 to renal failure. Still miss him. Mother went into hospice at age 93 and was gone in a couple months.

I owe pretty much everything to my parents. Savor your parents lives, and carry on like they would wish.

Attempt to be all the father you can to your own children.
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Old 10-16-2016, 06:33 PM
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Sorry to hear that Jay.

Every year I get older and watch my dad get older I think about how hard it will be when that day comes. May see if I can meet up with him for lunch tom.
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So much for you and your family to have to deal with there. I can't imagine having to endure all of that.

Stay VERY close to your Mom during this time and assure her each day that all is being done to make your Dad comfortable.

Prayers sent for all concerned.

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Sorry to hear this sad news Jay. Lost a friend of mine 3 mo ago died in his sleep at 48. I talked to him right before he went to bed that night. I also have a good story to tell you about that gorgeous diamond I bought from you a few months ago. My point here being life is truly a roll of the dice.
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So sorry Jay. Praying for you and your family. I can't imagine how tough that is.

I've added this to the prayer list.

R.waddill same to you as well.
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Sorry to hear about your dad, Jay. Hang in there!
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Jay - I remember well the time you were looking for a facility for your dad. The short term future is going to be very difficult for you and your family. I wish you strength and the support of everyone around you.
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Prayers for you and your family, sir.
Be strong.
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Very sorry to hear Jay , Prayers to your father and all involved .
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Try to stay strong Jay, for yourself and for those around you. I am sorry to hear this
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Prayers for sure ...

My GF just lost her mom a strong independent Woman up to the end

It is hitting her pretty hard :-(

My best buddy had a seizure Saturday night ...
you are right with the Poker analogy ...
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Very sorry Jay.

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A good spot to insert some wisdom: The late comedian George Burns who died from a bathroom fall at age 100 while under contract at Caesar's for a 1yr. stint , had his alarm clock set to applause each morning. Got another day !
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Jay, sorry to hear....will send prayers your way
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