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Old 10-05-2016, 07:51 PM
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There is talk in my area about outlawing roadside memorials claiming they are distracting and/or an eyesore. Personally I don't have a problem with them but I would think if someone thought enough to put one up that they would keep it looking decent or just remove it totally.

Are they illegal where you live? Do you guys have a problem with them?
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Old 10-05-2016, 08:12 PM
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I don't have a problem with it but there are starting to be an awful lot of them. I will say it's a bit depressing to see so many on the way to work
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About ten years ago, I drove from Phoenix to Vermont, on all back roads. I made a point to stop at every historical marker, and every cross/memorial I came across. It was really interesting to actually stop and look at them. Many had photos of the person, or stories about them, or any number of other pieces of their life. It was amazing to think about just how many memorials there really are out there. I say keep them, and stop and read them once in a while.
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Several years ago I was driving down I45 in Webster and I noticed a guy by himself with a push mower on the side of the road. He was standing in the middle of a small perfectly mancured area which I thought was odd. After passing by several times a month I noticed that it was memorial with a small cross.
After some research I found out that the guy is there almost weekly and the memorial is for his wife and 3 children that were killed in an auto accident in that very spot.
This has always stuck with me as I see this guy out there from time to time and gave me a new found respect for memorials on the side of the road.

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Old 10-05-2016, 09:07 PM
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The memorials are there because someone lost someone that meant the world to them. I couldn't imagine the pain a person experiences losing a child, spouse, parent, or sibling in an auto accident. Allow someone to make a road side memorial if they choose. The lawmakers should move on to something else.
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I don't have a problem with it but there are starting to be an awful lot of them. I will say it's a bit depressing to see so many on the way to work
Yup, a little depressing to look at, but if the people that put them up need them to help with their grief, it's fine by me.
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I'm not saying there is anything wrong with them but they are depressing to see. There is one just a couple of hundred yards for a 16 year old kid named Shawn was killed. I heard the crash in the morning, he ran the stop sign and got T-boned by a semi truck. The kid grew up in the area and had to go through that stop sign probably 1000 times, why he ran it that day is a mystery.

There is another one about a mile from my house for a 17 year old girl named Rachael. Another one that ran the stop sign, she ended upside down in a ditch will water. I went right by where she went into the ditch and I didn't even see her car. She wasn't found until the next day.

No question they are sad to see. I am going to start checking them out if they have a picture or a story.
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A distraction? Really? What do "they" think of billboards and the great big Wal Mart sign?

Personally, let the memorials be. If somebody was that important to someone else, that little sign is the least of my worries.

Btw, here in FL, those little round signs are bought, not free. More reason to leave them alone. Just for the peace of mind for the people left behind.
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Originally Posted by 73 seabird View Post
A distraction? Really? What do "they" think of billboards and the great big Wal Mart sign?

Personally, let the memorials be. If somebody was that important to someone else, that little sign is the least of my worries.

Btw, here in FL, those little round signs are bought, not free. More reason to leave them alone. Just for the peace of mind for the people left behind.

Exactly!!

Christ, it's not like they don't have anything BETTER to do!!

I pass by one every day that really gets me. 5 teenage boys killed. Good kids, too. Two of them were VFD'ers. When the KIVFD arrived on scene and saw who it was, they didn't take it very well.
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So let me get this. Big brother is going to crack down on roadside memorials, but will continue to ignore road side litter bugs as well as contractors dumping construction & landscaping debri on the side of the road.

Typical big brother approach. They don't have a clue how to keep roads clean by punishing the wrong doers, but will instead chase after the easy targets.
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do people want to put memorials outside hospitals where their loved one died?
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I like the idea some states have with having a standardized road side memorial symbol the state puts out for the families upon request.

There's a mountain on the other side of my county I haven't crossed in about 8 months until me and the wife drove across it last week. In that short amount of time, the number of crosses has doubled and there was already a lot of crosses to begin with. There's one switchback where there has to be 8-10 crosses alone, but I guess if you busting ass on your crotch rocket or Harley, it can sneak up on you.
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Originally Posted by Brad1 View Post
The memorials are there because someone lost someone that meant the world to them. I couldn't imagine the pain a person experiences losing a child, spouse, parent, or sibling in an auto accident. Allow someone to make a road side memorial if they choose. The lawmakers should move on to something else.
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There is talk in my area about outlawing roadside memorials claiming they are distracting and/or an eyesore. Personally I don't have a problem with them but I would think if someone thought enough to put one up that they would keep it looking decent or just remove it totally.

Are they illegal where you live? Do you guys have a problem with them?
I am not a fan of them.

I actually had a fight with a family who wanted to put one on my property, where their family member, who was drunk, texting and doing an estimated 50 over the speed limit with no seat belt missed a turn and hit a tree head on.
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When I see those a$$holes on crotch rockets flying down the road at breakneck speeds my thought is, there is a roadside memorial waiting to happen
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Originally Posted by Brad1 View Post
The memorials are there because someone lost someone that meant the world to them. I couldn't imagine the pain a person experiences losing a child, spouse, parent, or sibling in an auto accident. Allow someone to make a road side memorial if they choose. The lawmakers should move on to something else.
losing anyone is indeed tragic, however, removing emotion, are you ok with creating memorials for

drunk drivers?

drivers who were texting?

drivers who were driving recklessly?
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I can think of far worse to complain about but I wouldn't allow one on my property either.
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Originally Posted by edwardh1 View Post
do people want to put memorials outside hospitals where their loved one died?
thats my question too. The road side memorials dont bother me in any way and i understand why they are there. I do find the "memorial" displays on cars to be a little odd but not my car so i dont care.
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they don't bother me. no issue whatsoever.

knock on wood, i've never made one, nor do I want to. BUT if I were to, even if it were illegal, i'd still do it and take my chances in court.
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Originally Posted by Jersus View Post
losing anyone is indeed tragic, however, removing emotion, are you ok with creating memorials for

drunk drivers?

drivers who were texting?

drivers who were driving recklessly?
the memorials can be for innocent passengers in those cars. memorials don't necessarily mean they're for the driver.
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