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Old 08-31-2016, 06:38 AM
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Originally Posted by KenjiIzce118 View Post
Am I being selfish?
Absolutely not.
Old 08-31-2016, 06:42 AM
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Originally Posted by KenjiIzce118 View Post
Hi Everyone, I have a little problem and I wanted to ask the forum,

Wife hates boats Period. waste time, waste of money! won't go on it unless everything is perfectly line up.

I love boats, own 9 boats in the pass, ATM looking for a boat. Every weekend on the boat in the summer,

here the problem:

I love spending time searching for boats, then going to inspect it and if the deal is good I buy it. I enjoy the whole process. My wife gets mad and angry and all bend out of shape, telling me I'm wasting my time, we don't need a boat.
I tell her, "honey this is my hobbies, I love it, I don't need you to like it, just allow me to have my hobbies."

so I need a reality check, am I wrong for wanting a boat and spending time on my boat, spending my hard earn money on the boat I want? around 11k to 13k is all I want to spend. We can afford it.

Am I being selfish?
Not wrong at all. This is not a new hobby and she knew that going in. Now if it is causing financial stress that is a different story..

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You might be able to make the issue go away if you got good at buying and selling them and made a little money at it. If you could buy a project/fixer-upper boat, use it, enjoy it, fix it and sell it for a profit then hey.
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Your wife sounds mean and unreasonable. Many people joke about having wives like this and they do exist. The truth is they are being selfish, rude and unreasonable. It's a hobby - get over it. If you enjoy it your wife should be happy that you have a passion and enjoyment in something that is not degrading to your health or life.
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NO

A close friend of mine is a sailor that LOVE to spend his weekend on his nice 30 footer. His wife hates it.

She has to understand that it is your passion. If she does not, then it could end badly. This is a very common problem. Or she accepts it. Or you end up sad and forget about boat.

There is no middle ground. I know people who got divorced because of this. Have a serious discussion with her about this...
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Heck no your not wrong. There are worse hobbies to have! But remember the old saying. "If wife is not happy no one will be happy".
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Default Profit on boats! heck yeah.

All my previous boat I have either made money or come out even, I have never lost money on my boats, because I spend a lot of time finding the right deal.

The way I see it, if I spend 11k and if we need the money I can get my 11k back. Not lost or gone, just being used rather then in the bank.
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Originally Posted by KenjiIzce118 View Post
Hi Everyone, I have a little problem and I wanted to ask the forum,

Wife hates boats Period. waste time, waste of money! won't go on it unless everything is perfectly line up.

I love boats, own 9 boats in the pass, ATM looking for a boat. Every weekend on the boat in the summer,

here the problem:

I love spending time searching for boats, then going to inspect it and if the deal is good I buy it. I enjoy the whole process. My wife gets mad and angry and all bend out of shape, telling me I'm wasting my time, we don't need a boat.
I tell her, "honey this is my hobbies, I love it, I don't need you to like it, just allow me to have my hobbies."

so I need a reality check, am I wrong for wanting a boat and spending time on my boat, spending my hard earn money on the boat I want? around 11k to 13k is all I want to spend. We can afford it.

Am I being selfish?
Wear this and she may agree to the boat...
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Was she like this before you got married?
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Not selfish at all. On the flip side if you can afford it and it doesnt jegatively affect your financial status, then your wife is the misunderstanding selfish type.

What are your wifes hobbies? You could start complaining to her about what she does that makes her happy.
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well I had boats before her and I had boat while we have been married for 8 years. When I have a boat she OK with it and care, but when I don't have a boat, she don't like the time I put into it to find a boat.

I started on a 10' inflatable boat and I have gone through 9 boats now, as I am learning what type of boat and what my needs are on a boat, so I'm narrowing down to the perfect boat. so it's take time to fine the right boat.

I'm not forgetting to be a good husband or a good father to my 2 year old. when I have free time I look for my next boat.
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You need a new wife. Well, pics of said wife first and then we'll decide if your wife dictates whether you should find a new hobby that doesn't involve boats.
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reading this thread makes me love my wife even more!!

"hey dear I need a new boat", her "ok, lets go look"
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Give her the "D" and go get your boat. No time for a snooty wife.


You are the man of the house aren't you?
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Life is better with a boat-
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I saw a boat in NC, I live in Maine so 14 hour drive, 2004 sea pro 206 with 175 jonhson. I ask all the right question and and the guys said everything work and trailer is good. $11,300.

wife said no to me going down, I explain that i would go down at 6pm Sunday and be back on Monday at 1 am. She said no way! very angry and think i'm crazy.

My buddy and I went down and look at the boat, some minor issue with it but we agreed on $11,150. we were on our way to the bank to secure the deal, and the trailer shit to bed, 1 wheel fell off and the other 3 were about to fall off also. after thinking about it , I decline the deal and went back home.

now: wife won't speak to me, mad that I went down and spend the time, mad that I ended up not buying the boat, and I'm on radio silent for who know how long.

I didn't think I did anything wrong. but I'm being treated as if I have cheat on her.
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Find a way to involve her in the shopping process so she feels like she's part of it. And compromise a little and try to find one that she feels better about. Think "look honey, it's even got some rod holders for you too." Seriously, build it up slowly and be sure to pick your days on the water carefully so she gets some enjoyment out of it. Some of our fellow THT'rs will come up w/some better recommendations. Consider narrowing your shopping area to New England too. My former wife always looked at the expense of boat ownership rather than the enjoyment and quality family time it provided. It was always a sticking point in our marriage but we worked around it for the most part. Good luck.
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Originally Posted by burningdaylight View Post
You need a new wife. Well, pics of said wife first and then we'll decide if your wife dictates whether you should find a new hobby that doesn't involve boats.
Ditto^^^^^
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Geez, I would not of married anyone like that.

I don't see a problem unless your spending every single night with your head glued to the computer for hours. Now if she goes to bed early every night like my wife then carry on.

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