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Old 11-13-2015, 04:36 PM
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Just got out of the grocery.

As I was walking from the wine aisle to checkout I watched about a 12-13 year old boy accidentally drop a cell phone and it came apart. Didn't look like it broke just popped the back apart and the battery out.

Mom was standing at the redbox machine and made a couple comments. Then she turned around and started completely berating him for at least a minute.

I lost my cool. I walked up to her and said she could try being nice to the kid, he obviously didn't do it on purpose and he would probably turn out to be a better kid if he wasn't embarrassed and berated in public for a mistake. She started talking smack to me and I said, see he could turn out like you. Then walked off.

I'm so sick of seeing this kind of crap. He looked like a decent kid, totally wide eyed when I said something and wasn't acting or dressed like a punk. The world only gets better IMO if you treat the next generation better than you were treated. And that ain't happenin.

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Old 11-13-2015, 04:54 PM
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I agree.
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I would have done the same thing probably if it was that bad. She must have had a bad day at work and calms down after a drink or two.
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Actually, yes, you were wrong. You have no idea how the kid normally behaves. Maybe the phone was his mothers and he has a habit of taking things that arent his and breaking them. Migh5 not be an isolated incident. Was she beating on him? No? Then mind your own business.
Being nicer and nicer to following generations is exactly why were dealing with the entitled little pricks at the universities now. Everyone of them should have had their ass beat as a child. And for those that are going to pipe up and say " my kid is a perfect little angel and I never laid a hand on him", bullshit. You just ignore everyone when they tell you your kids a pain in the ass.
God help you if you interfere with me disciplining my kid.
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Originally Posted by nautiduck View Post
Actually, yes, you were wrong. You have no idea how the kid normally behaves. Maybe the phone was his mothers and he has a habit of taking things that arent his and breaking them. Migh5 not be an isolated incident. Was she beating on him? No? Then mind your own business.
Being nicer and nicer to following generations is exactly why were dealing with the entitled little pricks at the universities now. Everyone of them should have had their ass beat as a child. And for those that are going to pipe up and say " my kid is a perfect little angel and I never laid a hand on him", bullshit. You just ignore everyone when they tell you your kids a pain in the ass.
God help you if you interfere with me disciplining my kid.
You call that discipline?
Public belittling and embarrassing any human is bullshit.

Do it right but apparently you don't know what right is.

Proper discipline. Is a cell phone important? Maybe but it is a material item and I will straight embarrass any adult that treats any kid like a criminal for spilling a drink on a table or on the carpet or any other place when it is a complete accident.
Cell phone or whatever else.

If you don't want it broke then don't give it to the kid to begin with.

I never used the lock things on cabinets and we always had and have breakables below 3'. The kids know not to screw with them without consequence.

Proper discipline is what a child needs to feel loved and cared for.

Doing this to a child causes anger and wrath in a child that will one day be an adult that turns bad.

Do not provoke your children to wrath.

In other words don't take your problems out on the kid and that is clearly what this bitch was doing.
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Old 11-13-2015, 05:30 PM
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You call that discipline?
Public belittling and embarrassing any human is bullshit.
They do it in the army all the time, seems to work for them???
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Growing up we parents would not discipline is in public. My father would correct us and if we continued he would turn his college ring over and start patting the top our head. Little did people know what he was actually doing. Once we got home the belt would come out.

There really is a difference of correcting your child in public and just outright making a scene because you had a bad day.
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They do it in the army all the time, seems to work for them???
I was in the Army and back when it didnt have a time out card so yeah.. I don't think kids are in the Army.

It was also with my peers. Very different

Are you kidding me?
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Growing up we parents would not discipline is in public. My father would correct us and if we continued he would turn his college ring over and start patting the top our head. Little did people know what he was actually doing. Once we got home the belt would come out.

There really is a difference of correcting your child in public and just outright making a scene because you had a bad day.
I was disciplined in public not humiliated and called a stupid shit. That was done in the car after I got out of public.
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I was in the Army and back when it didnt have a time out card so yeah.. I don't think kids are in the Army.

It was also with my peers. Very different

Are you kidding me?
He was berating the mother not the kid.
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To the OP, were you wrong, Hell no, you did what you thought was right and you stood up for the kid. Maybe when she gets home she will think about it for a minute, most likely won't but just maybe you made some headway.
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He was berating the mother not the kid.

Catch up I'm not talking about the two adults.

I am talking about the Mom treating her kid like crap when the (other adult) stepped in and told mom to get a grip.
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To the OP, were you wrong, Hell no, you did what you thought was right and you stood up for the kid. Maybe when she gets home she will think about it for a minute, most likely won't but just maybe you made some headway.
Exactly!
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Catch up I'm not talking about the two adults.

I am talking about the Mom treating her kid like crap when the (other adult) stepped in and told mom to get a grip.
Sorry, I'm from Jersey, were a little slow here.
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Sorry, I'm from Jersey, were a little slow here.
I'm from Florida. It's warmer here
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Id need to see pictures of the Mother.
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Im not saying what she did was right or wrong. You dont the situation other than it was a 12 or 13 year old who should more than know better. You have no idea of the history of the child or his behaviour issues or what works or doesnt. The main thing it was none of your business. Its a huge problem in this country, people are always sticking their noses where it doesnt belong. Not to mention you just ran around what ever discipline authority that woman had in the eyes of the kid. You raise your kid, let me raise mine and unless you see some beating the shit out of a kid, mind your own business.
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Don't berate your kid in a public place. Show some respect to those around you, to your child and also to yourself.
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Old 11-13-2015, 11:31 PM
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It sounds like you reacted the same way she did?
Regardless, bad things would happen if you spoke to my wife like you did to this stranger.

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Just got out of the grocery.

As I was walking from the wine aisle to checkout I watched about a 12-13 year old boy accidentally drop a cell phone and it came apart. Didn't look like it broke just popped the back apart and the battery out.

Mom was standing at the redbox machine and made a couple comments. Then she turned around and started completely berating him for at least a minute.

I lost my cool. I walked up to her and said she could try being nice to the kid, he obviously didn't do it on purpose and he would probably turn out to be a better kid if he wasn't embarrassed and berated in public for a mistake. She started talking smack to me and I said, see he could turn out like you. Then walked off. I wanted to smack her upside the head.

I'm so sick of seeing this kind of crap. He looked like a decent kid, totally wide eyed when I said something and wasn't acting or dressed like a punk. The world only gets better IMO if you treat the next generation better than you were treated. And that ain't happenin.

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Im cracking up, what a great story. I wouldn't have interfered, but in all fairness, if someone wants to scold a kid or whoever in public they should be ready for another person to address them. Nobody wants to hear a stranger ridicule someone else in public, they should have known better to do it in private, a few words is totally acceptable but when they drag it on in public I think it crosses the line.
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