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Old 09-10-2015, 06:16 AM
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Ok. So I go to the gym 4-5 days a week and have worked out on and off for a number of years since college. Now workout at the local YMCA.

When I am using weights or machines sometimes I will encounter a single person using the piece of equipment I want to use. When I was in college and even 10 years ago it was fairly common for two people to share by saying "hey can I work in with you". That way two people could get their workout done and move on.

Recently I have encountered the situation where a single person wants to use the machine or bench until they are done with it. Even if they are resting 3 minutes between sets. They dont want to share...young and older people.

I even offer to wipe the equipment between sets and help change the weights. Some people seem really offended that you want to use the equipment at the same time. In fact a woman last night got mad at me because it was the second time in 3 months that I asked to use the same piece of equipment she was using...Oh the horror. You could tell that it really bothered her. I almost laughed.

What am I missing here? Is it wrong to expect to work in with other people and be efficient? Do people really "own" the machine or bench now until they get done with it? Is contacting other peoples sweat that awful even if they wipe off the equipment beforehand? I mean you are at a gym.
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:22 AM
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They are the odd ones. You are 100% in the right. I can't think of a reason not to let someone work in unless you have already let some one in.
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:26 AM
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The woman may think you are just trying to hit on her. Some of them are crazy. Letting people work is SOP.
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:30 AM
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Being a gym rat I can tell you not everyone knows or cares to know gym etiquette. I run into it often at the country club. It doesn't help that the grumblers are your neighbors. I learned to change up my routines. If the ham string machine is taken I will do stiff leg dead lifts. If the tricep cable pull down are taken I will do dips. If the flat benches are taken I will do push ups off of 30 lbs dumb bells. Its mostly the older retirees and women that are oblivious to the gym etiquette thing. The 20,30, 30 something males are all accommodating with the exception of real estate agents. They are morons where ever they are.
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:33 AM
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That's just what they have been taught over the years. Most people do not grow up working out in gyms. They start one day when they notice they are gaining weight or need to start exercising. I think asking a woman to share is probably not the best place to start. Hell, they even have gyms that advertise to women they can work out without getting hit on. Wonder where that started?
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:41 AM
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Its the Y for cripes sake. No etiquette there.
I used to belong to the local Y here years ago... I can almost picture the ones to whom you refer.

Been a happy Gold's member for years. Working in is almost daily occurrence.
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Ex gym rat here - you are 100% correct. If they don't understand & don't care to understand after a bit of nice explanation, just start using the equipment between their sets.

If its the bench - throw on 3-4 plates, do your set - and leave them on the bar for them to deal with.
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I feel your pain. Ever try to work in with somebody who is doing a circuit with 3 or 4 pieces of equipment? I don't mind their routine but I'm not waiting until they have completed 3 or 4 sets on each piece of equipment. They can wait on me as much as have to wait on them.
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Just changed health club membership, from a locally owned to a national chain. Not my choice but the locally owned went out of business.

Over the years I've worked out at 8 or 10 different gyms encluding a few YMCAs. In general at the locals you will encounter a friendlier crowd, more willing to share, less grunting, less weight slamming. The national chains seem to have an older customer base, many of whom have never been to a gym and don't understand the sharing, working together idea. They tend to take ownership of whatever part of the gym they are using, expecting all to conform to their idea of proper decorum.
The YMCAs, they are absolutely the worse, no sharing, no working together, weight slamming, dropping weights, grunting and screamin. Generally at any particular Y the particular crowd that is in majority rules the place.
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I work out at the Y (free Membership) there normally arent a lot of people so working in isn't needed very often. I Don't mind on cable machines where it is easy to just get back to your weight or if they are doing similar weights. But if I am benching and you want to work in with some completely different weight It will piss me off. Although I am a quick lifter normally Less then 5 sets and Only a min between sets so it will be easier to just wait. I normally just do something else until the equipment I want opens up..
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Originally Posted by HardLivin View Post
I feel your pain. Ever try to work in with somebody who is doing a circuit with 3 or 4 pieces of equipment? I don't mind their routine but I'm not waiting until they have completed 3 or 4 sets on each piece of equipment. They can wait on me as much as have to wait on them.
After I have asked guy if I could work in on one of his "circuit" machines (one he wasn't using at the moment) and he refused, I just took his towel off of it and did anyway. HE went to the staff and when they came over to me and I explained that he had 3 machines tied up they told HIM he couldn't do that. He still does it and I try to find other equipment to use when he does just to avoid a problem, but if I ask and he refuses, I move his towel.
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Old 09-10-2015, 07:05 AM
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What is this "workout thing" you talk about?
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Old 09-10-2015, 07:25 AM
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I never have a problem sharing machines if someone wants to work in with me, however if I am on the bench doing chest I do not like to share. I find it rude if someone asks to work in with you on the bench, unless they are doing the exact weight you are doing then fine come jump in.

It could be a pain in the ass sharing machines, I have done it many times and the other person won't re-adjust the weight to what you had it or adjust the height where you had it.
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Old 09-10-2015, 07:32 AM
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Alright you guys confirmed what I thought, it's their crazy notion of ownership. I just usually try to work around other people like that as much as possible. With this one lady last night I simply asked how many sets she had left and she got an immediate attitude and then started in with the accusations. Man I go to the gym to relax after a long day at work, not to fight with people.
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I think the problem is that it was a man asking a woman to "work in". It is definitely SOP but I can honestly say that I never asked a woman to work in and there are many lookers that would have their guard up.

If the Y continues to be a problem, you could look at other gyms as an option since the Y can be hit/miss depending on which one you choose.
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Old school is to move in on sets. It's easy and simple. Minimizes time for everyone involved, especially in peak hours. Now people couldn't care less about sharing. At most it's "how many sets do you have left?" Don't think about jumping in. That doesn't fly anymore.

And for below comment, that's the wrong way to jump in. Etiquette is put it all back to how it was. That person needs to be taught.

BTW bench is a fun one to share. You can a. have a spotter so go heavier. b. lift more than them...or at least push you to lift just as much.

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I have done it many times and the other person won't re-adjust the weight to what you had it or adjust the height where you had it.
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You do know that you subsidize probably 1/2 the members at they Y now days. Poor people need exercise too. God knows they are not getting it by working hard.
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Every gym I've been too has been a rest home. They do 10 reps and then sit there. They play with their phone, iTunes or pick dingle berries out of their ass while looking around. I go from one machine to the next. I do upper body on one machine and then lower body on the next. One set each. And so on. Usually an occupied machine will free up before I leave but not always. At times I have asked to jump in and it's been okay. Other times guys think they own the machine.
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Younger guys don't know about working in or don't want to. Had a flat bench in a side dumbbell room yesterday, was heading toward it carrying DBs. Guy asks if I'm using it, said "yeah...you want to wor..." before I could finish he grimaces, turns and leaves.

Oh, and wtf doesn't anyone wipe their bench down any more when they are done? I have to clean the bench before and after I use it.

People use to carry a towel with them and lay it down. No one even uses a towel now.

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They are the odd ones. You are 100% in the right. I can't think of a reason not to let someone work in unless you have already let some one in.
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