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Old 09-08-2015, 07:49 PM
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We had a vet come to the house and do it for our cat. Not very expensive and a lot nicer. She brought stuff for us to do a paw print to keep. She took him for burial, too.
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Old 09-08-2015, 08:49 PM
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It will be one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it.

For me it was "does he have any quality of life?" and "is he in pain?". When the answers were no and yes for those two questions then I knew it was time.

You have to be honest with yourself when you answer those questions, don't keep him alive for you, do what's best for him.
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God honest truth, It has been one hell of decision to make. Your heart will make you feel like sheat, but your brain knows you are doing the best thing for your 4 legged friend.

I had to do it once, and it hurt like nothing else I have experienced before. I cried like a baby for hours, without being physically able to stop.

I asked the vet, "money aside, will she be able to recover?" and, if she was in pain.

the answer was, not a chance, and a lot and there is nothing we can do about it.

At that point it was pretty clear.

I stop by today at the vet to get some next guard, and there were 3 Davie PD LEOs... a K9 unit parked outside. All 3 of them were gigantic, and they looked as tough as you can imagine. After a few minutes one of them was crying like a baby, and the other 2 were supporting him. Next thing I know they were getting a stretcher to bring his dog in.

I asked and apparently the dog was in his very last times, just old and tired. It also seem that the huge tough guy knew the decision he had to make, and it was killing him inside.
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Old 09-08-2015, 11:52 PM
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If he is still mobile and eating I would give it some time. The best information I can give was written by a vet. Dogs don't respond to pain like humans.....a dog will not show any inclination of pain on say a scale of 1-4 like humans do. 6-8 they will show but you will truly know when they are in PAIN. I hope you can use that info to help with the decision that only you can make.

+1 for having a vet come to the house to do it. Our lab is almost 12 and I dont think she will see 13. I will have a vet come out when the time comes because she HATES going to the vet.
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Old 09-09-2015, 12:26 AM
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Buddy I really feel for you. I had a very similar experience with my first golden. We didn't do the MRI because there was nothing they could do, only to confirm suspicions. His body started shutting down. Losing weight etc.

They show pain in different ways. Panting, anxiety, behavioral changes. Some of these can be due to meds but you can see the changes and pain if you look for them.

I kept him around longer than I should have in retrospect and it pains me to this day. On his last day I took him to the beach, he still tried to run, play frisbee, splash in the water. I spent the day with him doing everything he loved and then it was time to let him go to relieve his suffering and I was there with him the whole time. He gave me his whole life and the best thing I could do is be there for him and end his pain. It was one of the most painful days of my life but also gave me peace to know I could help him when he couldn't help himself much longer.

If you are questioning it, you are probably close to it. If you're honest with yourself you will know when the time is right.
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Old 09-09-2015, 12:40 AM
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Been there. It's all about when the dogs pain exceeds its joy. You'll know
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Old 09-09-2015, 03:03 AM
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Sucks to put your pet down nothing harder but you'll know when it's time . I'm thinking of you bud
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Old 09-09-2015, 12:27 PM
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Rastus, our Lab/Rot blend came to us as a 6 week old puppy. My son was a senior in high school and earlier that year was in a car accident that took the life of his best friend. Then that fall he got chop blocked in the second game of the season and suffered a Tib/Fib fracture.

While he was home and laid up with that, one of his friends came to see him and without even asking us, gave my son the puppy. It was fine with me because I thought my son needed a "pick me up" of some kind. It was a rugged year for him. That was 1999

So the puppy stayed and became a moose of a big black dog(165-170#in his prime) that would let the little grandkids crawl all over him but killed any and all cats on sight and swallowed fox squirrels raiding the bird feeder whole when he caught them.
(I kid you not) The boys thought it was hilarious..... bushy tail and all.

My son left the house in 2002, then the youngest "inherited" the dog. When he left in 2005, Rastus stayed with us and he became my dog. He slept at the foot of our bed every night and wouldn't stir until we got up in the morning. Once in a while I would hear him get up and go look out the patio door, maybe give a WOOF at something he heard or knew was out there and then come padding back to the bedroom where he would lay down with a heavy thump and not move until we did.

He was always at my side whether I was in the garage, house, truck, out in the yard, out for a walk or whatever. He took a liking to walking with my wife on her nightly jaunt and she loved how when other dogs would come out and bark at them, Rastus would just stick right to her with his nose touching her right hand and never move from that spot. He would just let out a WOOF that in dog language obviously meant, "You're dead meat if you come any closer", because the other dogs always came to a screeching halt and retreated when he did that.

Fast forward to 2012 and old Ras had lumps all over him, was losing sight, and was obviously in significant pain. It was a chore for him to get up and down and he was losing control of his bladder. When it came to the point where he declined to go on walks with us I knew it was time.

We gathered up all the kids and grandkids and had them come for pictures and to say goodbye, then my two sons gently picked him up and put him on some blankets in the back of the pick up where he liked to ride. The trip to the old country vet was filled with memories of my boys and their dog traipsing through the woods, killing cats, jumping off the diving board down at the pond and eating squirrels.
We pulled up outside Doc's office and I went inside to tell him what we needed. He suggested we just get it done right in the back of the truck where he knew Rastus liked to ride and went to get his stuff.

He came out to find 3 grown men with tears streaming down their faces and an old dog that was indeed a family member. He looked up at Doc while he shaved the hair over the leg vein he would use, and then just laid his head back down. His tail thumped on the tailgate of the truck a couple times and he just looked at us while Doc gave him the injection. He just laid still while it happened and didn't even twitch. I swear he knew what was happening and he was glad. Glad that his guys were there for him, glad he had a great life, glad his pain was over.

I think God gave us dogs so we could catch a glimpse of what unconditional love looks like.
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Old 09-09-2015, 01:25 PM
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Guys I can't tell yall how greatful I am for all your responses. I know some of you personally and some I don't, but I want yall to know what it means to and obviously the pup for you to take time out of your day to respond and some to relive these moments.

I spent the morning playing with the pup around the house and went on to work albeit a little late. Then at lunch I received the call I was hoping to avoid until Friday (the admiral and I spoke about everything last night and she put it completely in my hands as he is mine, but she loves him just as much, so I asked him to tell me when he was ready and as of this morning I thought he had 1 more fun weekend in him) admiral called and said I can't get Windsor to leave his spot at the end of the bed to eat and go to the bathroom even with treats and peanut butter.

So it got me thinking maybe this is the sign (because if he doesn't move for peanut butter he is not going to move for anything). So after that emotional phone call we called vet and we will be putting him at ease in the morning. Again thanks guys for all the support and for sharing your stories it means a lot.
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Old 09-09-2015, 01:39 PM
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Guys I can't tell yall how greatful I am for all your responses. I know some of you personally and some I don't, but I want yall to know what it means to and obviously the pup for you to take time out of your day to respond and some to relive these moments.

I spent the morning playing with the pup around the house and went on to work albeit a little late. Then at lunch I received the call I was hoping to avoid until Friday (the admiral and I spoke about everything last night and she put it completely in my hands as he is mine, but she loves him just as much, so I asked him to tell me when he was ready and as of this morning I thought he had 1 more fun weekend in him) admiral called and said I can't get Windsor to leave his spot at the end of the bed to eat and go to the bathroom even with treats and peanut butter.

So it got me thinking maybe this is the sign (because if he doesn't move for peanut butter he is not going to move for anything). So after that emotional phone call we called vet and we will be putting him at ease in the morning. Again thanks guys for all the support and for sharing your stories it means a lot.
I'm really sorry my friend.. but that is a extremely telling sign that they are ready to go.

We had the same situation with situation with our rotti/doberman mix... he stopped eating his regular dry food, so we move to canned for a day and at the end he would not even take a hotdog, he died in the operating table ...
Our black lab mix started the same way to the point she would not eat grind meat...

Stay strong, and do what you think is best for your buddy....
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Old 09-09-2015, 07:02 PM
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I can only speak of my experience......our 14 year old black lab Hershey developed a tumor on the front of her right leg. The tumor literally exploded and we couldn't stop the bleeding so we took her to our regular vet. They recommended putting her down because it was a fast developing type of cancer and if they did to surgery they doubted if she would survive being put under, also because the tumor was so large they didn't know if they could pull her skin together enough to stitch it together.

We took her home and decided to discuss it and make a decision the next day. We decided we would like to take the chance because her blood work was good and she was eating good and her tail never stopped wagging. We did the surgery and it was successful, we gave her pain meds for a couple of weeks and she was doing great. I think it was a few months after her surgery that she started slowing down eating and would drink constantly.

Within a week she stopped eating completely and slept about 22 hours a day. She lost weight very quickly and got to the point that she couldn't hold herself up to do her business. We took her back to the vet and the vet said she was likely in a lot of pain and had lost over a third of her body weight. We made an appointment to have her put down and I took 2 days off of work to spend with her. When she took her last car ride I rode in the back of our Yukon holding her the whole way.

We got her at a rescue when she was 8 weeks old and she lived to be 15 years old. The money we spent on the surgery was completely worth the extra time we got with her. She was wagging her tail until the very end, even when the vet injected her.

As others on THT told me you will know when it's time and they were right. Still one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life. It's been over a year and I still get emotional when I think of her.

Good luck, many of us know what you are going through.
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Old 09-10-2015, 03:38 AM
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I went through the same thing with my pup a couple of years ago. Was MY dog, raised her from day 1. Went through all of my life with me after college. Went to work with me every day etc. what it boiled down to for me was that no matter how much I wanted to keep her around, I owed it to her to stop the pain and uncomfortableness. For all that she did for me, that is the last thing I could do for her. Had the vet come to the house too. Good luck today, you are doing right by your dog.
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Old 09-10-2015, 06:07 AM
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Originally Posted by KingRanch View Post
Guys I can't tell yall how greatful I am for all your responses. I know some of you personally and some I don't, but I want yall to know what it means to and obviously the pup for you to take time out of your day to respond and some to relive these moments.

I spent the morning playing with the pup around the house and went on to work albeit a little late. Then at lunch I received the call I was hoping to avoid until Friday (the admiral and I spoke about everything last night and she put it completely in my hands as he is mine, but she loves him just as much, so I asked him to tell me when he was ready and as of this morning I thought he had 1 more fun weekend in him) admiral called and said I can't get Windsor to leave his spot at the end of the bed to eat and go to the bathroom even with treats and peanut butter.

So it got me thinking maybe this is the sign (because if he doesn't move for peanut butter he is not going to move for anything). So after that emotional phone call we called vet and we will be putting him at ease in the morning. Again thanks guys for all the support and for sharing your stories it means a lot.
Sounds like you are doing the right thing. He's let you know it's time.

I hope you're hanging in there considering It is a really hard time in life for those who allow their dog to be a part of their family.

No words can take the pain away but hopefully you can continue to re-live the good memories and it will get better as time helps to heal the wounds.

Putting ourselves aside for the love of others can be incredibly difficult but it's the right thing. Hang in there buddy.
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Old 09-10-2015, 09:29 AM
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Well guys I appreciate everything yall contributed to the decision. If you follow the team on Instagram you can see pictures from the past few days and a lot "the last of this pictures".

It was a very peaceful night last night. First time he slept through the night without roaming the house in 3 weeks. Took a nice walk around the yard this morning and one last truck ride through the neighborhood.

There are many great people on this site that helped the decision and one (thanks Dave) that sent me a message last night that reaffirmed everything.

Thank you all!
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Old 09-10-2015, 09:49 AM
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I'm speechless but felt I needed to post. Just know I'm thinking about what you are going through.
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Old 09-13-2015, 10:40 AM
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Here I am trying to do something really important (starting the football season) and now I'm all tears. 1st, sorry for your situation. I also have been down that path. Probably 4 or 5 times. At the time, terrible psin. So much that we didn't desire to EVER go thru that kind of pain again. And it will as our furry friends just don't live much more than 10 years or so. I have been comforted by knowing 3 things. 1, my pet had a full loving life with family who loved him (sometimes to the extreme). He could not have had a better life. We "saved" all but one from the evil hands of "PAWS". 2nd, By accepting this responsibility, we were happy to do so. That was our job!!!!! And 3, after a few months of sorrow, we went and rescued another puppy, and gave him the life they deserved. I'm not at the age when I won't be able continue this, but, my children will. If there's a heaven (and I make it there), all my pets will be there waiting for me. That sure will be swell !!!! Do the deed, and one day, find another and start all over again.
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Old 09-13-2015, 12:14 PM
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can't even imagine how hard a decision you got to make, heart goes out to you
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