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Old 06-29-2015, 12:10 PM
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My daughter is 17 yoa and going to be a senior this fall. She is very smart; all A's and maybe a B here and there, in AP classes and participating in dual enrollment. She is very driven and self motivated, I have never had to get on her about doing her homework or about getting projects done. She just completed Calc II and got a 98% as a final. This apple fell so far from the tree it's not even in the same orchid, and I cant wait to find out who her daddy is, but in the meantime I need advice from dads who have been down this road. She has absolutely no idea what she wants to major in or even where to go. I don't want to rush here or put pressure on her, but I feel the time is growing short. I didn't become a leo until I was 31 yoa, so I know it's not the end of the world to change careers. When I graduated (barely) high school my options were very limited, either flip burgers or join the Army and grow the hell up. I went the Army route and actually turned out ok. I just want to help my daughter find herself and put here on the right track. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
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Old 06-29-2015, 12:16 PM
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What does she do in her spare time? find something she LOVES to do. don't let her get stuck chasing the money; it never works.
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Old 06-29-2015, 12:21 PM
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Very few people know what they "want to do with their lives" at 16/17 years old. No one should ever be pushed into figuring it out. Sounds as though she's destined for college, so she'll figure it out there. That's what the first 2 years are for anyway (although they don't tell you this).
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i changed my major literally 5 times in school, she won't know quite yet but will figure it out.
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If you haven't started on working on scholarships and grants, START NOW.
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Originally Posted by Ronn Burgandy View Post
Very few people know what they "want to do with their lives" at 16/17 years old. No one should ever be pushed into figuring it out. Sounds as though she's destined for college, so she'll figure it out there. That's what the first 2 years are for anyway (although they don't tell you this).
I would agree
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I changed a few times before I settled on Econ. Then went back for accounting. Never thought I'd be doing that but here I am. Brother changed many times. It takes a while to figure it all out.
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there is likely a profile and assessment company that your department uses..........I know we use them around here........

get some general "profiling" done............I know my oldest was a great artist and we felt for years he would do something around that........problem is it literally does not like many people........totally uncomfortable around more than a couple stangers at at time.........

he is flipping houses and loves it. He has taken his artistic eye and leveraged that into what is personality is............
guide her to a balance and she can figure it out from there
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If you haven't started on working on scholarships and grants, START NOW.
This first!!!!!

Tell her to feed them whatever as far as major when asked...The first two years it doesnt matter much anyways...basic stuff the first year or two...

Get a catalog from a large school and tell her to start looking at majors and thinking about what she might like...
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If you are eligible for the GI bill you should look into seeing if she can use it. Schedule some campus visits so she gets an idea of what college life will be and see the differences in schools. And as others stated look into scholarship availability.
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Just went thru this with my son who starts as a freshman at Appalachian State U in August. We are fortunate in that he has loved music and music production so he 'knew' what he wanted to go to college for. That said, he was accepted to several prestigious music schools including Berklee School of Music in Boston. After lot's of thought he decided to go the 'University' route, he will study music engineering/production as his major but will be exposed to other fields of study that the University offers. So if it turns out music is not for him he will at least have an idea of the other options out there by virtue of being exposed to them as opposed to a strictly 'music' study school. We'll see how it goes - good luck.
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Go to a liberal arts school ( has nothing to do with politics, or art, moreso they have a broader spectrum of topics and majors).

Go in undeclared as a freshman and then after a year of college, figure out a major. In many cases major has very little to do with what they end up being professionally.
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The problem with having two years "to figure something out" is by the time she graduates HS she will almost have her AA degree. I know whatever she does she will be good at it and I'm not worried about her future. Just wish I had more answers for her....ugh
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Not sure about FL but in Va staying in state made a big difference in cost. we have great schools so I told my daughter she could attend any state college in Va that accepted her.
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I'd take it a step further and say the first 4 years don't count. It's just a right of passage. Necessary, but not always relevant to what you end up doing.
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Originally Posted by jrolin1 View Post
If you are eligible for the GI bill you should look into seeing if she can use it. Schedule some campus visits so she gets an idea of what college life will be and see the differences in schools. And as others stated look into scholarship availability.
I already blew the GI Bill on my BA. Def going to do some travelling soon to explore campuses.
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If she is very bright in mathematics area then she should think about engineering or computer science, but more importantly start looking at schools now and aggressively in the fall when they are in session, open houses are great ways so see and feel how it is. Don't sweat the "major" thing just yet, but getting in a good school that's not costing you an arm and a leg is very important.
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The problem with having two years "to figure something out" is by the time she graduates HS she will almost have her AA degree. I know whatever she does she will be good at it and I'm not worried about her future. Just wish I had more answers for her....ugh
Not really. I changed majors more times than I can honestly remember. Come Jr year, they told me to pick something or go home, so I asked them what I had the most credits toward. There were two, so I took them both.

What I do today has nothing to do with either of them.
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You have to visit a lot of schools. I would encourage you to arrange personal tours instead of the group BS tours whenever possible. I believe that success at college It is as much about the environment is it is classes (disclaimer... I never went). Of course every kid is different. My oldest daughter will be a senior at BU this year, she loved it and thrived there. BU is a HUGE school with a sprawling city campus. My youngest daughter just finished her first year at Emerson Collage, also in Boston, but it is a very small school with a tight nit smallish campus. She would not have survived the BU environment. I think we toured no lass than 6 or 7 schools with each kid. We tried to show them a mix of campus styles as well school sizes but also let them pick schools of interest.

It's a crime what they charge for tuition but that is for another thread. You should know this though...If you get competing offers from similarly ranked schools you can pit them against each other and negotiate at better package (It's almost like car shopping).

Good luck with your search and congrats on raising such a great student.
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Not sure about FL but in Va staying in state made a big difference in cost. we have great schools so I told my daughter she could attend any state college in Va that accepted her.
Same here, in state schools are much cheaper, we have prepay and some cash so hopefully we can get through without incurring debt.
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