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Old 04-08-2015, 07:22 PM
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Just found out that the wife is about 6 weeks pregnant which is great. Haven't gotten a chance to ask the doc yet about going offshore. Anybody have any issues with this combination or see any issues? We obviously would use caution the closer we get to the due date but I was just curious. I'm talking 25 miles out max.

Go ahead, I'm ready for the "go fish now while you can" and "get ready to sell the boat" comments!
Old 04-08-2015, 07:23 PM
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Damn it... I meant for this to go in dockside chat. Sorry guys.
Old 04-08-2015, 07:34 PM
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Her body will tell her when it's quitting time, mine was able to continue for several months eventually nausea own out. I imagine each will have their own tolerance.
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She will be great for chumming.
Nice looking boat.
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Fist off,.. Congratulations!! I can't speak for the 'before', but I can say that my brother has been aboard boats since he was two weeks old, and myself since I was six months (and that only because I was born in Dec.). In our family more only meant bigger boats, and we have never left the water. Enjoy!
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when my wife was preggo, the OBGYN said no... no bumps or shitty rides for the first 2 trimesters ..... fear of her loosing the baby
so when we went out, i would get to around 1500 rpm... all the time

and, once we found out she was pregnant, we went out and bought a boat... me knowing full well that i probably wouldnt be buying one after my daughter was pregnant - good thing !
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^^ wait what?
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My wife was 5 months pregnant and we went to the Bahamas 150 miles out into a 25 knot head wind, it was not a pleasant trip. Other than getting the evil eye for 8 hours we all survived unscathed and I have a healthy 14 month old little boy who couldn't be more perfect.

I think the official recommendation was its no problem until the end of the pregnancy but just try to take it easy in general (opposite of what we did). As I understand it the reason for more caution towards the end is that if she goes into labor prematurely being 25 miles out would really suck!

As long as your wife is normal and she isn't a high risk for any reason you should be fine. Get the doc opinion but take it with a grain of salt. I remember when my son was in for his 1 month checkup, wife and I had been going back and forth about wether or not he was ready for the boat. She wanted to ask the doctor I said he is going end of discussion but lets see what she has to say.

So she asked at the end of the visit if we could take him on the boat, he instant response was absolutely not! I didn't say anything and waited until we left. I told my wife that the doctor made my case for me, she didn't ask what kind of boat I had or where we were going just flat out said no way. Which meant her answer wasn't based on any facts or science just ignorance or prejudice towards boats. If I said I have a flats boat and we are going Dolphin fishing, then I would have agreed, but for all she knew I could have a 60' Viking and we were going for a cruise around the bay.

My point is the doctors don't know everything, and what they tell you is their opinion and only some of the time is it based on facts. Sometimes I think they don't know anything!
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My wife was 5 months pregnant and we went to the Bahamas 150 miles out into a 25 knot head wind, it was not a pleasant trip. Other than getting the evil eye for 8 hours we all survived unscathed and I have a healthy 14 month old little boy who couldn't be more perfect.

I think the official recommendation was its no problem until the end of the pregnancy but just try to take it easy in general (opposite of what we did). As I understand it the reason for more caution towards the end is that if she goes into labor prematurely being 25 miles out would really suck!

As long as your wife is normal and she isn't a high risk for any reason you should be fine. Get the doc opinion but take it with a grain of salt. I remember when my son was in for his 1 month checkup, wife and I had been going back and forth about wether or not he was ready for the boat. She wanted to ask the doctor I said he is going end of discussion but lets see what she has to say.

So she asked at the end of the visit if we could take him on the boat, he instant response was absolutely not! I didn't say anything and waited until we left. I told my wife that the doctor made my case for me, she didn't ask what kind of boat I had or where we were going just flat out said no way. Which meant her answer wasn't based on any facts or science just ignorance or prejudice towards boats. If I said I have a flats boat and we are going Dolphin fishing, then I would have agreed, but for all she knew I could have a 60' Viking and we were going for a cruise around the bay.

My point is the doctors don't know everything, and what they tell you is their opinion and only some of the time is it based on facts. Sometimes I think they don't know anything!
Good point and advice. Exactly why I posted. Looking for that "real world" experience from those who have done it.
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I wouldn't chance it. Especially going 25 miles out in a 19 ft boat. Since you didn't mention what boat I guessing the one in your sig. But if we're talking about a big sport fish I would say carry on.
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Took a friend of mine's wife snapper fishing at ~7 months. 26ft boat, decent but not flat day, 10 miles or so, no issues.
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She'll be fine....trust me....I'm a doctor.
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I wouldn't chance it. Especially going 25 miles out in a 19 ft boat. Since you didn't mention what boat I guessing the one in your sig. But if we're talking about a big sport fish I would say carry on.
It's 20ft. We good now?
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Took my daughter clear across Lake Superior in a 22' cuddy cruiser. She was 3 months old and slept most of the way.

And never gets seasick 25 years later.
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Only if it's worth the potential risk to you and your wife. The first trimester is one of the most critical. I've taken mine out in the river with very mild chop but that is it. I wouldn't let her go offshore last week in near flat conditions in case something were to happen and boat breaks down or unforeseen weather rolls in. Her and baby's well being is way more important in my eyes.
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Step 1. Get a Dr you trust.
Step 2. Take their advice.

That goes for OBGYN and Pediatrician. Congrats! It's been a wild ride.

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She should stay on land.
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My second child was early and an emergency c section. It wasn't high risk. She just went to the doctors for an ultrasound a couple days before and there were no issues. If we didn't get to hospital as quickly, it wouldn't have turned out fine.

I know this is not the norm but...
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Originally Posted by Bamaboy14 View Post
^^ wait what?
first question i asked the obgyn was about boats and riding in them for her.
the dr (whose husband has a boat, said "absolutely not. no rough chop, no bumpy rides (cars included), roller coasters"
the dr was 34.... looked at me and said "im sorry, but now you can go out w/ your friends"

wife and i were 31 when she was pregnant, and no history of losing baby... the dr just wanted to be sure.
while this was probably overkill, i obliged....
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I went through this exact thing a year Ago.

Same size boat, same distance, wife in first trimester. It was flat calm but it always gets snotty around the tideline, the last three miles or so before the jetties. She was not a happy camper. Lots of death looks. Finally she just cussed me out and I backed way down.

Doctors are an overly cautious bunch as they should be. But some of the stuff they say is absurd. We have a common sense pediatrician now, and I could not be happier. We are now Waiting for our little one to break twelve pounds so she can get back out on the water this summer.

I'm sure you've heard this, but the second trimester is the fun one. The sickness is gone, wifey should be feeling good, and she supposedly gets some "glow" that is only visible to other women. This is when you need to do fun stuff. Once that third trimester hits, get ready to help out like you've never helped out before. Cooking, dishes, grocery store, cleaning, picking stuff up off the ground. They are basically immobile in the final stages of pregnancy. It sucks.

We fished a small king tournament together during her second trimester last summer. She caught fish and had fun, though she admitted that without beers it wasn't the same, which I thought was funny.

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