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Old 03-05-2015, 04:38 AM
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I started working for this guy Tom as an electrician for 10 years when I was 18. Along the way we became pretty good friends, working hard was all we did and we loved it. This guy treated myself and my family like his own as did I. I was given a shot at the trade, taught everything I know by him, and learned an awful lot along the way. As Toms business grew things started to change, he had the million dollar house on the hill, he had commercial buildings, cars, planes, all the best equipment money could buy, vacations, etc...but his attitude changed as well. Tom became a money hungry machine and his attitude and mannerisms made me look elsewhere for employment.The day I quit was the last day he spoke to me, he said to a mutual friend that I screwed him when I left, that he put everything he had into me as a Foreman and I just burned him by quitting. He said that I was supposed to run his crews and now he has to start over. Years past and the BS talk died down, I kept in touch with one of the journeyman that still worked for Tom so I got to hear what was going on. Tom gave everything to his wife and kids....everything, and one day she turned around and said she wants a divorce. They have 4 kids together so it wasn't looking too good for Tommy, this was the beginning of the end. Anyways last Monday I got a call from a buddy that knows Tommy's family and he told me that Toms mother died at the age of 75. I gathered up my thoughts and reluctantly went to the wake. After saying my goodbyes to his mother I started over to the line..there he was, after 10 years...guy hugs me and said it was good to see me and I said the same. As I moved down the line I could see the age on everyone, the last time I saw his youngest kids they were in diapers and now they are little adults..The whole thing got me thinking, F the attitudes and fighting, if you have an old buddy that you haven't seen in a while call him and grab some beers because soon enough we will be the ones laying in the casket...Thanks for reading, just venting..I know its random.
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Amen!!!!
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Holding on to bitterness ages you for no reason, Good post
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how true, especially with family members.
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That pretty good inspiration this morning, thanks
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A sad story that has promise of a sweet end for you both.

Just to share a short story of my own, a kid I went to h.s. with took a job in a plumbing and heating co. The owner took him under his wing, after 20 years he said, "son, I'm moving to Florida, the business is yours". He handed him his set of keys, got in his buick and headed for his house in Florida.

Maybe Tom thought of you in the same way.

Thanks for sharing.
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After seeing what Tom went through to obtain his wealth I was not interested in owning a business, ironically I do my own business. BUT I did it a little different, I work full time for a major facility in the city, after I get out of work everyday I go to work for myself. I pick and choose jobs and have a steady paycheck weekly from my employer. I'm not going to get rich but hopefully Ill keep my wife and kids, sanity, and stress levels low. Only problem is I always want more $, I wish I had a business that I could step away from and it runs itself..
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Nice story, good things come to good people, life is good!
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Good Story with a great message. It is always good every once in a while to shake out the dander and re-evaluate things, I think it makes everything stronger.
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Only problem is I always want more $, I wish I had a business that I could step away from and it runs itself..
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Great story. Money does weird things to people. It's tough to balance money and what's really important in life, unfortunately we don't always recognize it until it's too late.
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You may have inspired me to reconnect with an old friend. We got into an argument a couple years ago and he accused me of doing some things that I didn't do. I think by now he has to realize that he was wrong so I've been expecting him to make the first move and apologize. I have never heard the words "I'm sorry" ever come out of his mouth, he never apologizes for anything.

We have been good friends for 20+ years, maybe I should just give in and call him even though he should be the one that makes the first move?
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I know someone who cant ever back down from a grudge. I always tell him life is too short but he doesn't get it..Hurts him in business and in personal peace of mind... Being pissed at people just creates more stress..

Unless they truly hurt you or a loved one I say let it go. Life voluntarily gives enough problems. No need to create more for yourselves.
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Good message, but what now? Will you try and reconnect with him?
I have been in a similar situation, when tried to reconnect it was not the same and nothing came of it.
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You may have inspired me to reconnect with an old friend. We got into an argument a couple years ago and he accused me of doing some things that I didn't do. I think by now he has to realize that he was wrong so I've been expecting him to make the first move and apologize. I have never heard the words "I'm sorry" ever come out of his mouth, he never apologizes for anything.

We have been good friends for 20+ years, maybe I should just give in and call him even though he should be the one that makes the first move?
Just call him and say hey lets grab a beer, ask about his family and such..He never apologizes? He must be related to my wife..
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Good message, but what now? Will you try and reconnect with him?
I have been in a similar situation, when tried to reconnect it was not the same and nothing came of it.
It might be different, if it is then we move on, but at least I learned a lesson to pass to my son..
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Life's too short to spend so much time harping on the bullshit issues most people do. My sister and I reconnected last year after not talking to each other for 8 years (her choice). It has been really nice and my sons are delighted to know their aunt finally.

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Life is short that's why when I've had issues with people I write them off totally.

As I get older I'm rethinking that approach with some.
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Buried a tremendous friend who I also did contracting business with today...a damn shame..greatest fried, husband and father.

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