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Old 08-19-2014, 11:39 AM
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So I'm trying my best to understand it. My wife for example, if I spend 60% talking to her friend about whatever and 40% to her I will get a cold shoulder or even a rude crude comment. I just dont understand it nor care enough to make a deal out of it myself when the rolls are turned the other way. I tell ALL my guy friends when the jokingly make guy to guy jokes, that by all means.... If they can get it, by all means take it because if so I dont need it. And I mean that. I dont care if she goes out of town with her gf's or out to the bars w/o me or whatever..... I go to bed and lose no sleep over who she's talking to or whatever. Im a young guy and I have learned that everything in life is replaceable. And as I'll be the first to say that I have it good with whatever with her, if she walks tomm there are what like 3 billion other people that I have to pick from to take her spot. Am I the only one who thinks this way or what....? And its not just with my wife, if you have a bigger house, boat, faster car, make more $ then me or whatever..... Im happy for you. I don't really care.... But I will say..... When I was younger things were a lil different
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Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.
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I don´t have to say it, but without pictures this messaage has no sense.
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Jealousy = Insecurity

Same thing...
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Originally Posted by snapperkid View Post
Jealousy = Insecurity

Same thing...
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I quit being jealous when I grew up.

Some people never grow up.
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Originally Posted by snapperkid View Post
Jealousy = Insecurity

Same thing...
Ahhhh never looked at it that way. Very good point.



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On the other hand, if you bang every one of your wife's friends, maybe you can expect some level of jealousy from her.
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^ what about sisters...?
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My wife has a little Lorena Bobbitt in her. If yours does as well, I would avoid the sisters.
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And as I'll be the first to say that I have it good with whatever with her, if she walks tomm there are what like 3 billion other people that I have to pick from to take her spot.
I am going to go out on a limb here and say that maybe this statement, feeling, idea, outlook, whatever you want to call it based on however she senses it, has something to do with her insecurity.

My wife gets jealous when I mention going boating alone without her. She is always afraid that I won't come back or that I'll chuck it all to rot away on the water.

Womens be crazy but you have to recognize when you've got a good one, and I do.
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Originally Posted by snapperkid View Post
Jealousy = Insecurity

Same thing...
Wow, this thread was completely answered rather quickly!
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Originally Posted by snapperkid View Post
Jealousy = Insecurity

Same thing...
This!!!!
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Originally Posted by jebsurf View Post
...if she walks tomm there are what like 3 billion other people that I have to pick from to take her spot.
As Laguna Al mentioned, if this is how you feel towards her then, IMO, you clearly don't have as much invested in the marriage as she does. Also IMO, if you feel she's that easily replaceable then perhaps you're with the wrong-for-you woman.
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This thread is going deep!!
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If you don't care if she stays or not, why did you bother to marry her? That is what a girlfriend and dating is about.
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So I'm trying my best to understand it. My wife for example,
You should have quit right there.
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It gets old after awhile, the jealousy thing. Wife #1 never was. Wife #2 extremely so, enough to make me crazy and finally draw a line after she accused me of doing the next door neighbor (no, I didn't do her). In her mind, I've done every woman she's ever met or even heard me mention, including her sister. It's very bizarre. As a statement of fact, I've been entirely faithful to her and with a couple drinks in me, that's what I told her. You either accept that as the truth, or you don't. If you don't and accuse me of doing anyone else from this point forward, that's it, we're done, it's over. That nonsense stopped, although there is an occasional reoccurrance that stops short of actually accusing me doing whoever.

Go figure.
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So I think ive learned Im not going to figure out the other sex
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I used to live with a pretty hot ok not bad looking redhead who thought I could bang any girl with just a hello and a smile. I was tempted a few times to tell her if that is true I wouldnt be with you.
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