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Old 03-11-2014, 04:39 PM
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Since my basic training date was pushed back to 4/1 I am taking care of my 82 year old grandmother after my Grandpa died. She has a "rough past" of medical issues so each day can be an adventure. She has been feeling weak lately but since it was 60* we took a stroll around the yard and sat on the porch. After about 15 minutes of sitting down and relaxing she wanted to head to the store to buy lottery tickets. She got up took one step and grabbed onto the garbage can and froze. I knew something was up as her head sank....i'm holding her up (only about 90lbs wet) and shes pretty much "gone". She mumbled a few words so I called my nurse mother (we live 2 blocks away) and she comes over and she's more alert. Apparently had a "TIA"?

I didn't call 911 as my instructions are "DNR and to call family". The funny part is she is my fathers mother. This was my moms EX- mother in law.

My aunt (who she lives with) came home and was actually impressed how well I handled it. She said "It's a miracle she's still alive after all she's been through." I can't drink but all I want is a good long island iced tea. I guess I would rather have her or a loved one die in my arms rather than the hospital. I guess I should expect this when i'm boarding boats. Didn't panic just thinking "not today".
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Sorry for your loss but glad you were there with her. Maybe it was meant to be and this experience will be put to good use down the road that you will travel.
God Bless.

Not "In" my arms, but the family holding their hand and holding on to them when they passed in the hospital when all the machines were turned off:
My Grandmother- Brain aneurism.
My Father- After his second open heart surgery.
My 23 y/o niece- After collapsing from and 10 year eating disorder, last Oct. My sisters only daughter. Still can't understand she is really gone.

I'll see you on the other side.


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Old 03-11-2014, 05:22 PM
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One that I thought was going to die - very bad rollover accident and the victim (his name was Michael) was ejected from the truck, in the middle of nowhere between Maricopa and Gila Bend. I was first on scene and able to get him away from the burning truck and keep him stable until EMTs and LifeFlight finally arrived on scene. The thing that to this day pisses me off about this incident is the complete f'in idiots that were standing there with their cellphones filming the whole scene until I screamed at them to drop the phones and help me get him away from the truck before it exploded, which it did. I really hate people sometimes! I talked with the Sheriff's Office the next day because the wife was very upset and needed to know if he died. It was rough, they said... but he made it.

Sat in the bedroom with my old boss, beside them both, the day his significant other Sid passed away from AIDS. It was a long fight, Sid lost, but he wanted to die at home, not in a hospice somewhere. I had known both of them for many years. He was reduced to a shell of a man, but went without pain. I still nearly cry anytime I hear the term "death rattle." It's a horrible, horrible sound and proves how strong the will to live is within your soul.
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Held my Mother's hand as she took her last breath when she died of cancer, a very sad and surreal moment. I am forever grateful I was there for her at that moment.
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Literally yes.
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October 27th my mom lost her battle with Alzheimer's at 65. She fell very badly and had severe internal Hemorrhaging. She lasted over a day after we removed life support. I was the only one in the hospital room when she finally let go.
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Yep, quite a few.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:18 PM
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Held my Mother's hand as she took her last breath when she died of cancer, a very sad and surreal moment. I am forever grateful I was there for her at that moment.
Same with me. That is something I am grateful for and also something I'll never forget as long as I live. Sad moment, but glad I was there for it.
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Sorry for your loss. I witnessed a horrific accident 4 years ago where a blind pedestrian and his seeing eye dog were struck in front of me I was the first person on the scene, the guy took his last breath literally in my arms. It was terrible, and if think about it almost everyday day
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Nope....the closest was a car accident that I was first on scene. There was a guy laying on the road that ejected from the car. He was just moaning and having a hard time breathing. I didn't have a blanket or anything & simply didn't know what to do. Another motorist called the police while I just sat with the guy telling him everything was going to be ok. He died before he got to the hospital. My FIL died about 5 minutes before I was able to get to the hospital.

This is the closest I've ever come.
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Held my Mother's hand as she took her last breath when she died of cancer, a very sad and surreal moment. I am forever grateful I was there for her at that moment.
1998, My Mom, when she was first seen by the doctors, it was Stage 3 cancer in her abdomen.
After time in the hospital (it wasn't good), she wanted to go home.
We ordered the doctors t stop all the overwhelming meds and took her home.
Made her as comfortable as possible in her bedroom.
Had Hospice involved. They let us know what was going to happen. What her body would do to prepare itself to let go.
All of us spent all our spare time with her. If we weren't sleeping or working, we were with her.
Talked about everything. Listened to her favorite music. Songs we thought had some meaning.

Two months to the day after she was diagnosed, my three sisters were with her, she sat up in bed, took a deep breath, and was gone.

She always put others first.
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Yes, twice and don't want it to ever happen again. The first time a high school friend, she hit a Palm tree and I was the first to open the passenger door and call 911. Her father was my instructor for my final year of HVAC school.
The second was my grandfather. I was the last person to see him alive. Both occasions sucked.
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More than a few. Its not as bad IMO as notifying the family. That will break any mans heart.
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Since my basic training date was pushed back to 4/1 I am taking care of my 82 year old grandmother after my Grandpa died. She has a "rough past" of medical issues so each day can be an adventure. She has been feeling weak lately but since it was 60* we took a stroll around the yard and sat on the porch. After about 15 minutes of sitting down and relaxing she wanted to head to the store to buy lottery tickets. She got up took one step and grabbed onto the garbage can and froze. I knew something was up as her head sank....i'm holding her up (only about 90lbs wet) and shes pretty much "gone". She mumbled a few words so I called my nurse mother (we live 2 blocks away) and she comes over and she's more alert. Apparently had a "TIA"?

I didn't call 911 as my instructions are "DNR and to call family". The funny part is she is my fathers mother. This was my moms EX- mother in law.

My aunt (who she lives with) came home and was actually impressed how well I handled it. She said "It's a miracle she's still alive after all she's been through." I can't drink but all I want is a good long island iced tea. I guess I would rather have her or a loved one die in my arms rather than the hospital. I guess I should expect this when i'm boarding boats. Didn't panic just thinking "not today".
I've never been in that situation but I commend you for following her ,and I assume the family's, wishes.
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Literally yes.


Unfortunatley....Me too! A Day I will never forget. Boy was 9 yrs old.
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Yes, thats about all i care to say
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Old 03-11-2014, 08:58 PM
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Thanks guys. I may have been clear she survived this one. However I feel the next one she wont as she's not doing so well. Hopefully I can bake with her one last time.
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