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Old 07-17-2013, 06:22 AM
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Any of you guys have this issue?? My kids are 2 and 4 and the wife and I have not been without the kiddos for longer that one day. I would like to go fishing for the weekend and stay over night at Block Island, but everytime I try to get a sitter well........nope! All I want is one day without cartoons and crying, I love them deeply but jesus. I guess no time for ourselves is true
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bummer. The Admiral and I are VERY lucky to have parents who are willing to take the kids whenever we need alone time.

we have some friends that hired a nanny for vacations when their kids were very young...they, like you, had family that would not watch the kids overnight. it gets expensive because you need to pay for the nanny's travel expenses and a separate room for her to stay with the kids...but it will get you 80-90% of the alone time that you're seeking.
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whats alone time?
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We hardly ever spend a night without our daughter, but as long as it was arranged ahead of time, my mother or my sister would watch her for a weekend if we asked. My wife's family isn't local, but I have no doubt that they would do the same.

Either your kids are terrors or your family's got some issues.
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my kids are 6 and 8, we haven't spent one night with out them, and I can't think why I would, but I am lucky and have really cool kids.

give it a couple more years and then they can go with you which would be a blast.
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We have twin six year olds and a five year old.We are extremely fortunate that my mom and inlaws both live within ten minutes and are more than willing to keep the kids any chance they get.They might have been at home three nights in the last two weeks as the grandparents are trying to spend time with them before school starts back.We do everything with our kids and enjoy it but also want them to spend time with their Grandparents while they are still in good health.

I will say most of our friends who have kids are in the same position as you and their family will rarely ever keep their kids.I have always been surprised when friends mention that this is the way their parents and family are,one was even told by their parents that they had raised their own children and they were now done.It is strange to me as the good thing about grand kids is you do get to send them home after a while.lol.Good luck.
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my kids are 6 and 8, we haven't spent one night with out them, and I can't think why I would, but I am lucky and have really cool kids.

give it a couple more years and then they can go with you which would be a blast.
Aren't your kids what you make of them
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Maybe they remember what you were like as a kid
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Being in the military and never living around family, my wife and I have only had 1 night together without kids in 17.5 years, and that was last year. It was weird the house was too quiet.
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Do you not have a closet or barn you can lock them in?
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Ok, so you aren't a Walton, time for plan B.
Paid Babysitter??

If it makes you feel any better, my family wouldn't give each other the steam of their crap either. Family doesn't have to be blood.
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Old 07-17-2013, 07:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Alureing View Post
Any of you guys have this issue?? My kids are 2 and 4 and the wife and I have not been without the kiddos for longer that one day. I would like to go fishing for the weekend and stay over night at Block Island, but everytime I try to get a sitter well........nope! All I want is one day without cartoons and crying, I love them deeply but jesus. I guess no time for ourselves is true
There are alot of "I" in that rant.

We live 600+ miles from family so we never had the luxury. Doesn't bother me one bit. Take the kids with you or wait a year or two for the youngest. We had ours out on the boat in diapers. They grow up quick.
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There are alot of "I" in that rant.

We live 600+ miles from family so we never had the luxury. Doesn't bother me one bit. Take the kids with you or wait a year or two for the youngest. We had ours out on the boat in diapers. They grow up quick.
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Someday you're going to wish you spent more time with them. When you're old and grey and need caring maybe they'll want a day off too...
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Someday you're going to wish you spent more time with them. When you're old and grey and need caring maybe they'll want a day off too...
Yep. It goes by quick so better enjoy it.
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Originally Posted by bellsisland View Post
my kids are 6 and 8, we haven't spent one night with out them, and I can't think why I would, but I am lucky and have really cool kids.

give it a couple more years and then they can go with you which would be a blast.
mine are 9, 7 and 3... we've spent 3 days without them, and that was before the 3 year old was born.

I've spent time away on business and a night or two at a buddies house, but thats about it. Kids are part of the unit, they go where we go.

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That being said - the wife is planning to go north for 2 weeks without me (I cant get off work)... I am thinking of a three day, three night camping adventure on the boat for some rare "alone time".
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Im lucky both our parents jump all over the chance to look after our kid. My inlaws will drive 10 hours if we ask them to, especially to get to watch her for a long weekend. That being said, my wife has only spent about 5 days away from our daughter over the last 2 years.

I have a friend that is in your position though. His parents have never asked to see his kid who is now 4 and wont be bothered for watching him overnight. I dont understand that as my family is the complete opposite. there is nothing you can do about it unfortunately.
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Originally Posted by bellsisland View Post
my kids are 6 and 8, we haven't spent one night with out them, and I can't think why I would, but I am lucky and have really cool kids.
give it a couple more years and then they can go with you which would be a blast.
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Someday you're going to wish you spent more time with them. When you're old and grey and need caring maybe they'll want a day off too...

Mine are 17 & 15, and I can count the number of days on one hand that the wife and I spent alone and that was by design.

Plenty of time to be togehter with just my wife in just a few short years when my kids are adults.
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My family wouldn't want to take care of my kids overnight and frankly I don't need or want them to do that. They aren't babysitters they are Grandparents. I'm shelling out $400 for a sitter this weekend to take wife to Vegas for two nights. First time without the kids in two years. YOOHOO!
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Let's move this thread to the Ann Landers forum.
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