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Old 11-07-2012, 04:52 PM
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I wish you hadn't don't that BR.... I'm back in internal struggle land right now and working to sort some stuff out. Roos is great and doing well but I'm trying to pull my head together. Rudy... You're my wingman on this and help me when I'm not writing. As a favor, I would ask that you reconsider....
Old 11-07-2012, 04:54 PM
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On top of it all I've been back to the drinking heavy again and trying to understand why I am where I am....
Old 11-07-2012, 05:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Blue Chip View Post
On top of it all I've been back to the drinking heavy again and trying to understand why I am where I am....

I've been there bro....
Old 11-07-2012, 05:28 PM
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Originally Posted by HarleyFLHP View Post
Rudy, don't lump your self up bro. You were we'll within your rights to post what you did. Never once did I feel that you derailed this thread. Unlike some people on this site, you helped the thread to move along. Post away brother.
X2....Dead Horse caused a lot of grief with his posts. His posts should be deleted not your posts.
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Originally Posted by Blue Chip View Post
On top of it all I've been back to the drinking heavy again and trying to understand why I am where I am....
I can relate except for the heavy drinking part....There is a silver lining. Finding it can be hard at times.
Old 11-07-2012, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Blue Chip View Post
On top of it all I've been back to the drinking heavy again and trying to understand why I am where I am....
Drink on!!!

I was told by a man wiser than me that no answers can be found at the bottom of a bottle... My response to him was yes he was correct, however, it sure does help to take the questions away.

You've been through hell so do what you have to do to cope
Old 11-07-2012, 08:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Blue Chip View Post
On top of it all I've been back to the drinking heavy again and trying to understand why I am where I am....
No shame in that. I'm right there.

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Old 11-08-2012, 03:12 AM
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Originally Posted by v20craft View Post
Drink on!!!

I was told by a man wiser than me that no answers can be found at the bottom of a bottle... My response to him was yes he was correct, however, it sure does help to take the questions away.
You've been through hell so do what you have to do to cope
Thats classic!
Old 11-08-2012, 05:11 AM
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Originally Posted by v20craft View Post
Drink on!!!

I was told by a man wiser than me that no answers can be found at the bottom of a bottle... My response to him was yes he was correct, however, it sure does help to take the questions away.

You've been through hell so do what you have to do to cope
Wow.
Old 11-08-2012, 06:44 AM
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Originally Posted by Blue Chip View Post
trying to understand why I am where I am....
Standing in front of a mirror, taking a good hard look, and figuring out what to change, can be painful. But it is worth it.

Looking backwards and going through "what ifs" is not always constructive.

Having to deal with change is stressful and you have a lot of changes (even positive ones like Roos) in your life. Explains why you said you are not comfortable right now.

To me, you are doing incredibly well with the hand you were dealt. If you were not questioning (looking in the mirror) than I would be more concerned. You (and me) are only going on this ride once so let's enjoy all we can.
Old 11-08-2012, 07:09 AM
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you know drinking alchohol has never made a problem disappear..........

but then again neither has drinking milk.
Old 11-08-2012, 09:07 AM
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BC, may not apply to you but for me there's nothing bad enough that getting drunk can't make worse.
Old 11-08-2012, 09:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Pierless View Post
Standing in front of a mirror, taking a good hard look, and figuring out what to change, can be painful. But it is worth it.
While it is possible that one or the other has no blame that is almost never the case. When my fathers wife left him he never once looked in mirror. Never held himself even partially responsible for what happened and to this day still does not. He never learned a thing about himself.

When you have young children nearly everything you do, nearly every decision you make, is (or should be) with their well being in mind. Once they are on their own drink as much as you want - knock yourself out. Until then, however, get your act together.

The last thing you want is for your drinking to escalate, as it often does, and have those kids removed from your care.
Old 11-08-2012, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by beenie View Post
BC, may not apply to you but for me there's nothing bad enough that getting drunk can't make worse.

Good advice there-it may make the questions dissappear but they will rear their ugly head again.

Good luck in this saga-grass isnt always greener either but enjoy reading about your online fishing trips and feel for you when you and the kids are played by the ex.
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Yea...I went through the feelings that progressed from elation of having 10-15 women text me on a daily basis, to meeting one that I really liked, and slowly wiping the others away, then realizing that I was back in another relationship....and struggling with that. It's a normal reaction as far as I can tell. Most people really are one person at a time people....chaeters typically cheat because the ONE person they're with isn't fulfilling a need, ironically...it seems like the one they are cheating with only fills that ONE need, and ends up being worse for them than who they had.

I think the real key to a great relationship is simple...it takes TWO people that just really want to be together. If it starts there, then the working part gets taken care of.

Good luck finding yourself, and a little advice...if Roos is actually a good catch, don't be ashamed to admit it, and just give her the attention that she deserves. There's no shame in ending the chase to deal with one girl, even if she comes along WAY sooner than you would have liked!
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Good luck finding yourself, and a little advice...if Roos is actually a good catch, don't be ashamed to admit it, and just give her the attention that she deserves. There's no shame in ending the chase to deal with one girl, even if she comes along WAY sooner than you would have liked![/QUOTE]

That is some good advice.
Old 11-08-2012, 10:37 AM
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BC, while the excessive drinking is harmful to your body, indulgence every now and then, might be therapeutic. Just make sure you control it and it doesn't control you.

"I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day."
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Be careful with the drinking... However your updates and stories were more interesting!! lol

Just don't get hung up on the ex, especially thinking it will work or could work...

Maybe it's time to bump underoos to two nights a week, and pickup another girl for one or two nights a week!?! Just a thought!

David
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Drinking to escape your life ... BAD
Drinking to let loose and have fun ... maybe not the best for your health, but it sure is fun as long as you don't do anything to get in real trouble (law or women)
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Oh, and the wife told me today she feels like we are just "friends" and "roommates" and doesn't think her feelings can change at this point. I may be in the divorced, 38 year old male club soon, ugh, so taking notes.

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