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Old 08-22-2012, 05:16 PM
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Default my 16 year old son is heart broke .update he tried to commit suicide

Long story short i adopted my oldest boy a few years ago when his father died.
I am all he has for family.
recently he got a girl friend and they just broke up.

Update this morning he tried to commit suicide. I am at a loss and feel like a complete failure
I feel like i let him down. I have now lost my son and cant stop crying while i type this. He is in a hospital for a min 5 days.
Parents please cherish every day with you're kids

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Old 08-22-2012, 05:19 PM
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Bad Idea. You're his father now, not a bud. If he's like everyone else, he will emerge stronger from this rejection. You can tell him that it will be ok but he won't hear it. Just give it time and it will get a little better every day for him.
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Old 08-22-2012, 05:21 PM
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I would take him out for a well cooked Fillet with all the trimmings.............
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I would take him out for a well cooked Fillet with all the trimmings.............
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He's 16 and it's part of growing up. Sometimes your the bug, other times the windshield. Prior to turning 18 he'll dump his fair share of woman.

Don't let him get married before he's 25. 30 is even better and you'll provide better leadership.
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I dont know you but you are an awesome man! I was adopted and know what it means to have someone willing to raise you and be there for you.

Like stated above your his father figure so keep it that way. We all know relationships come and go. But there are always something that is better next. Everything happens for a reason.
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I need to get him a fake id and take him to a gentlemans club. Is that bad or any better ideas
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All of the above is great make sure-to pay attention to the current mood of your son and if any thing goes to making you or he un easy then a good out side person would help greatly. I know and I would not like to go down a road that was avoidable again.
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Take him out and buy him a new car. Make it a Vette. He will forget the girls name before he even takes the new car for a test drive. Then when he has the car other girls will be fighting to get in it, thus making the ex girlfriend jealous. Mission accomplished!
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I need to get him a fake id and take him to a gentlemans club. Is that bad or any better ideas
yes!!!
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just tell him we've all been there cause we all have and he will feel better in time. Just keep him busy and let him lay around and think about it
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I would think that part of parenting would be teaching him how to handle girls and women, how to treat them properly and how to be treated properly, I can't imagine this being taught with dollar bills stuffed in a dancers shorts.

But what do I know, just my opinion, however I somehow feel there is a punch line coming here at some point.
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Originally Posted by id-10-t View Post
Long story short i adopted my oldest boy a few years ago when his father died.
I am all he has for family.
recently he got a girl friend and they just broke up.
I need to get him a fake id and take him to a gentlemans club. Is that bad or any better ideas
Great, teach the kid to be a felon. I had a buddy busted for trying to get one at the DMV and was convicted of a Felony. Damn good parenting skills you have. Dishonesty is a great thing to teach a 16 YO.
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give him some of that meth you're cooking






















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X10 for the bad idea. I remember being 17 when my HS girl broke up with me. Rode around town several nights drinking gin, which did help for a few hours at a time. Still not a good idea. That was 30 years ago and I can still remember how bad it hurt. It put's a kid in a vulnerable state. Please be carfeul here and make wise decisions please. Yes more girls will help, but in the age appropriate setting.
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I am 19 years old... Don't take him to a gentlemans club. But get him out of where he is... Take him to a baseball game, Fishing, Hunting. shoot some clays, shoot something (not deadly)... Take him to dinner. Just keep him active and before long he'll forget about it. I've been down the same road before, but a year ago. I just swam and played sports all day until it went away. Just make sure he is doing something productive and that can benefit him in more ways that one. Like excersing takes his mind off of it and helps his physical well being.

Just get his mind off of it some how!
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Originally Posted by Mike Boehler View Post
I would think that part of parenting would be teaching him how to handle girls and women, how to treat them properly and how to be treated properly, I can't imagine this being taught with dollar bills stuffed in a dancers shorts.

But what do I know, just my opinion, however I somehow feel there is a punch line coming here at some point.
I'm standing with Mike on this one. Read his response again.
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As the father of an adopted boy, who is now 33, I can tell you that what he needs is help in building his self-esteem. If he's anything like my son, he's had abandonment issues, a sense of wanting to belong ( which does not have anything to do with you) and he's looking for acceptance in the wrong places. Just be there for him and LISTEN. He'll be a stronger person as he goes through his trials. Ladyjane is right. An outside person may be needed and has nothing to do with the breakup. He'll grow through it to feel that she's the one missing out but not with a sense of arrogance. Anybody can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad. Good luck.

P.S. On the lighter side, at 15, I told his mother that I was going to kill him. His hormones were raging and he didn't know it. Every morning when his alarm went off, his CD played Marvin Gaye's "Sexual Healing". Try listening to that at 5:45 every morning.
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Originally Posted by FishFighter92 View Post
I am 19 years old... Don't take him to a gentlemans club..............
shhhhhhh. you just dont know. i say full nude...........
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