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Old 08-29-2012, 06:05 AM
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You have not lost your son forever.....You have a kid that needs some help, and you have a chance to get him that help. Many people are not so lucky. When I was that age, I didn't know anyone that had or tried to kill themselves, but now, it's a huge problem. I certainly don't have the answers, but you have a lot of people in support to help you find them on here.

You are certainly in my prayers today!
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Old 08-29-2012, 06:24 AM
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Be strong brother, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
"this to shall pass"
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Old 08-29-2012, 09:47 AM
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That is terrible news. Everyone is correct about needing to get him some professional help. He may suffer from clinical depression and require medication. He may just have some sever emotional abondonment issues. A suicide attempt is usually a cry for help. The real serious people usually succeed.
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Old 08-29-2012, 10:54 AM
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Where do you live?

You need to get him to professional help. I would be happy to assist you in getting someone he could talk with. Professional help does not have to be a scary situtation. Your basically going to meet with someone and talk and go from there. Please shoot me a PM and I would be happy to help.
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Prayers with you and your family !!
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Old 08-29-2012, 04:17 PM
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I saw your reason for your edit "I can't take it" My question now is, Are you OK? If you have the slightest doubt about that answer seek professional help. Than and only then can you help your son.

If your 100% OK then seek the right help for him, be there and know that not everyone can be helped.

My next thought is, did he really try or is he screeming for attention?
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Continue to let him read these threads so he can see there are a lot of friends out here he hasn't met yet that sincerely care.

Although we argue and mess with each other here, I bet anyone of us would do all we could for any member in dire need.


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Old 08-29-2012, 04:43 PM
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I have been following this post and wanting to say something helpful, but not sure what to say. I have a 6yo and can't imagine going through what you are going through. I have a friend with a 19yo son with asperger syndrome and he has had some serious issues with him including suicidal, fighting, and I have seen them literally going through hell for the past 2 years. They finally kicked him out and he seems to be doing better.

When I was 16 and "in love" I went from the highest point in my life to the all time lowest when she broke up with me. It is completely ridiculous now looking back, but I was beyond devastated. It's hard for me to completely describe what I was going through at the time, but I was a mess. I ended up dropping out of school, getting kicked out of the house, living like a bum, and many other unmentionable things for about 2 years. I was not thinking rationally at all. By the time I got my head on straight again I had lost a piece of my life that I would never get back. I often think about how lucky I was that nothing really bad ever happened (I was extremely lucky). Anyhow, it took me about 6 years to get back on track and make up for the "lost years". I don't like to dwell on the past, but if I could go back again things would have gone down much differently.

I know I got a bit winded there, but my point is that at that age things are not simple (even though they actually are!). I was a stubborn little asshole and no one was going to tell me how to do anything!

I think you have some good advise on this thread, and I think professional help should definitely be a first step. Spend lots of time with him enjoying the finer point of life. I know a lot of people don't like to hear it, but sometimes medication is very helpful. At that age the chemical and hormonal mess that they are in can be a mess. Some kids are fine, others need extra help. Be strong and hang in there. Thoughts and prayers sent to you and your family.
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Old 08-29-2012, 05:03 PM
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Originally Posted by id-10-t View Post
Well not going so well. He tried to commit suicide
Been a rough day
Stay with the boy as much as you possibly can. Convince him that you are here to stay and will never leave him. He needs to know that someone does care very deeply for him.

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It hurts me to read that news. Are you the Id-10-T that lives in East Central FL? If so, I know some mental health counselors in the Orlando area if you need a referral.

My heart goes out to you. Don't take this on yourself. You need professional assistance too. I have had 2 friends and an acquantence succeed at taking their own lives. It is a horrible thing to try and understand.
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Stay with the boy as much as you possibly can. Convince him that you are here to stay and will never leave him. He needs to know that someone does care very deeply for him.
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My prayers go out to you and your son. I have two boys ages 13 and 14 and this makes you worry about your own sons.
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First and foremost.....prayers sent and will continue daily on my knees at bedtime which I have done since I was 2.

Second..... you mentioned something about, "not being able to handle this"

Exactly what did you mean by that? If you yourself are having thoughts of taking your own life, nothing I say, nor anyone else on this thread will make a difference one way or the other until your head is thinking straight again.....THIS REQUIRES PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!!! I cannot be any clearer then that!!!

Third....You sir are NOT ALONE! God is always at your side and you simple have to open your mind, heart, and soul to his words which sometimes can be very hard to understand, but believe me those words are there.

Last but not least....Boards like these can and often do become a lifeline for folks simply because it tells you people actually do give a crap. I have been dealing with overwhelming and crippling sickness for the better part of two years now and this board has truly helped me in several little but powerfully ways, don't stop reading and please stay in touch. Sometimes a life-ring gets thrown at you from a variety of different locations, you just have to catch it and hang on while the line is pulled taught.
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Originally Posted by Sprockets View Post
I have had 2 friends and an acquantence succeed at taking their own lives. It is a horrible thing to try and understand.

For somebody to know one person has to be tough, but to have 3 of your friends take their lives is awfully hard. If I can ask, what line of work, or what background?
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Originally Posted by bamaboy473 View Post
For somebody to know one person has to be tough, but to have 3 of your friends take their lives is awfully hard. If I can ask, what line of work, or what background?
Each situation was completely different and ocurred over the past 15 years or so. By these

1. A close friend and client was from a very wealthy, old money, political family. A direct decendent of an ex-president. He was looked at as the black sheep, because he lived off a trust and fished a lot. Lived in a very nice house, no kids, and brokered fishing trips to exotic locations. His brothers were over-achievers and I think it finally got to him. A complete surprise. He hung himself in his garage. He was in his late 50's, no debt, decent wife, etc. I don't know if he was getting cut out of the family or what triggered it. He was a great guy and a good friend.

2. An attorney I knew was diagnosed with inoperable cancer and took matters into his own hands.

3. Another friend lost both parents to cancer within 10 months. He had a bit of a drug problem that got worse due to depression and and a moderate inheritance.
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Old 08-30-2012, 08:38 AM
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Worst feeling of my life. I feel like a complete failure. I have lost my son as they kept him min 5 days. I cant do this i need my boy back
When riding a marry-go-round the objects around you are all standing still, it is only the objects outside the ride that are in motion.

The first thing one has to do is recognize they are on the marry-go-round and need to get off - only then can they see the world as it is.

Do not find comfort riding the marry-go-round, it is the false world and no good will come from it.



Remember it is the stronger person that seeks help than the one that says they can handle things on their own.

You are a human being with emotions, do Not shut down like a machine and fail to talk with your family and friends around you. It is your family and friends around you that are able to see if you have left the marry-go-round ride. Your family and friends are your life line and they do understand your pain and I am certain they will do everything in their power to help you. I know I will if you want my help.

If you haven't already stepped off the marry-go-round now is the time. It is time for you to become proactive; your son is going to need you, now more than ever. You do have the strength to be his rock, I think all of us here hear your heart screeming out "I want to help him, hold him, show him my love and make his world better place to live in".

Just step off the marry-go-round, please


You know in your heart you have the strength to carry on.
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Old 08-30-2012, 10:16 AM
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I would ditto the professional help. We don't just shrug it off when we break an arm or leg, we go to a Doctor to fix it.

Breakups hurt. A healthy person has a support network, (plus internal emotional structure), to help them get through the worst of it.

Suicide attempt means one or both of these is broken. A professional can find a solution. Clergy are skilled in people problems and can also help. They've seen and heard it all. No mention of religion, but suicide was rare when most families regularly attended church....just saying.
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Prayers go out to you.

As they say when landing a big fish "stay with it", keep moving forward and show as much love to your son as you are showing us on this forum.

Let him know that you are going to be with him forever.
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Originally Posted by id-10-t View Post
Well not going so well. He tried to commit suicide
Been a rough day
Y'all will be in my thoughts an prayers but please listen to the posters suggesting getting him some help. "Help" carried a stigma when I was his age but it no longer does....and it really helps put things into perspective from a 3rd party - not Mom, Dad or buddies.

Keep your chin up...and I know it's easier said than done but YOU can do it.
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Old 08-30-2012, 12:09 PM
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An attempted suicide is most often a cry for help. Make sure he gets that help and stand with him throughout the process. He needs all of your support and love right now...make sure he knows that you will be there for him.
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