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Old 05-31-2012, 03:33 PM
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My Mom just got diagnosed with late stage, inoperable cancer of the lymph nodes. I would like to take her to thge keys for a few months. Looking for a rental. Any suggestions?
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Sorry to hear that prayers are with your mother and family
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Sorry to hear about your mom. If your looking for a private place to stay we have a house in tavernier. PM me for details
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Sorry about the bad news, life truly sucks sometimes.

My family will keep your mom in our daily prayers.
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God Bless..........

Sorry but I'm not that familar with the keys.......
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So sorry to hear that, I've been there and done that. Is she at home w/ Hospice? One thing I wished I would have done was ask my mom more about her life and herself as a person. I never knew what she liked, if she had dreams to do something, what accomplishments she did in her life. It would have been proper for me to ask these type of questions and document her life and I know she would have loved it.

My mom loved the outdoors and when she was at my home getting Hospice care I should have put her in a wheel chair and get her outside. It was in the spring and the smells of spring were in the air. I have a lot of regret on how I handled her death. I was just 18 and was taking care of her physically and financially because she had no money. I was working as a department manager @ K-Mart and had a 2nd night job. She died in June and I was left deeply in debt yet I still have regret that I simply didn't think of the things I mentioned above.

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Prayers are with ou and your family. A.
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Old 05-31-2012, 09:59 PM
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Sad to hear that. I hope her time here is comfortable and you can enjoy the moments together as best possible. The best part about it is that you have the time to talk before its too late. Get it all out and leave nothing unsaid. Many times loved ones leave too quick and you never get the chance to tell them how you feel.
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Originally Posted by Tainui View Post
Sad to hear that. I hope her time here is comfortable and you can enjoy the moments together as best possible. The best part about it is that you have the time to talk before its too late. Get it all out and leave nothing unsaid. Many times loved ones leave too quick and you never get the chance to tell them how you feel.
Exactly whats here, I'm no good with words in these situations.... The part about talking is the truth, wish I had more time to sit with my grandparents and listen to their stories before they departed.
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Prayers sent, very sorry to hear this......


www. VRBO.com for a place, good resource

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Old 06-01-2012, 04:45 AM
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Gentlemen,
My Mom just got diagnosed with late stage, inoperable cancer of the lymph nodes. I would like to take her to thge keys for a few months. Looking for a rental. Any suggestions?
Sorry to hear it. Best wishes for her and you. I have the same problem with my mom, stage 4 lung cancer....kicker is she never smoked....
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may the lord be with her and you as well
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my prayers go out to you and your family hope you find a nice place in the keys
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Very sad news. I hope you can find the right spot to make her rest well and enjoy what is left. You are both in my prayers.
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Ugh, just hate to hear that. Lost my MIL not too long ago from the C.

Prayers.
As mentioned vrbo.com has a ton of great options. Good luck!
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Your Mom will be in my prayers tonight.
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Sorry to hear about your mom. Spend as much time with her as you can, and if she's up to it, do as much as you can with her. Also, be sure to get as many family members to see her as possible.
I went through this a few years back, and it's tough, but if you need help in any way, there is no better organization than Hospice (for you, her, and your family) http://www.hospicenet.org/
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Sorry about the bad news...I would try Islamorada or Matacumbe Keys, also the no seeums arn't as bad there.
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Sorry to hear it bud. Unfortunately the big C runs in my family, and my wifes family so we have seen a lot of this.

My aunt who was like my 2nd mom died at age 52 from cancer. 14 years prior to her death the doctors told her she had 6 months to a year to live. Well being the strong woman she was she beat their estimate by 13 years. Then in one day she went from being her normal self to passing.

For those 14 years she lived her life very well. She always hosted the holiday parties. She wanted all her family to be close to her as much as possible. We (the family) never even talked about her cancer. She didn't either, it was like it never existed.

During that time she also planned her own funeral. None of us knew this. She had a plan laid out and only her husband knew what she wanted. We went to the funeral and it was like a party. Just like the family parties she always planned. There was tons of food, wine, champagne and every other drink you would see at her parties. Even Miller Lite that she knew me and my cousin (her son) drank.

No casket or body. She was cremated so just a gold earn and a huge video screen of home movies from the past 50 years.

She wanted so bad for everyone to enjoy the day just as if it was a party at her house. Packed house too, over 200 people. I didn't even know half of the people there. She didn't want her friends and family standing around crying, but it was hard not to.

I have tears in my eyes just from typing this. She was as close to me as my own mother. She was my fathers sister and we were a very close group.

Stay strong man. It's tough to deal with.
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Sorry about your mom.. My prayers are with you. I can't image loosing my parents. Good luck to you and stay strong..
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