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Old 03-06-2012, 04:45 PM
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My mom is ill and may have to go into a home, with her condition (memory loss) homes will not accept pets. Both myself and wife have allergies and cannot realistically take care of the cat. He's been clipped but has claws (has never used them), is very loving, almost like a dog. He follows mom around her apt as if protecting her and even meows at our door when mom is acting out of the norm.

The cat "Buster" is mature at least 7-9 yrs of age. I don't want to put him down.

Aside from asking friends and family or craigslist ads does anyone have a good suggestion?

And in this case and time the Chinese restaurant will not be funny so thank for not saying so.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:49 PM
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I hate to say it, but you pretty much covered all of the options:
1) With you, allergies & all
2) friends, family, and craigslist (or here)
3) euthanized
4) typical cruel responses
Sorry, I wish I had a better answer.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:53 PM
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Look for a local cat or pet rescue group. They are good at finding homes. Ask for them at the large chain pet stores (Petsmart, Petco) as the rescue groups tend to hold adoption events at the stores on Saturdays and Sundays.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:55 PM
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get allergy meds...they work my sister has allergies but you would never know it because of the meds.....(for her allergies)
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:58 PM
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You might try contacting the Humane Society or Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals and ask their advice. Maybe a encouraging contribution would make a difference in the options they would suggest. You might also look for rescue organizations in your area.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:22 PM
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Really sorry about your Mom, been there....

There are many cat adoption services around, we adopted a couple great cats for my Mom a few years ago. Petsmart, etc would be a great start, they will certainly help you get in touch with a reputable agency. That same adoption service took back the cats when my Mom passed away.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:32 PM
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You might be able to donate the cat to the organization that brings cats and dogs for visits into nursing homes and for special needs people to improve their quality of life. Can't remember the title of this organization but they do seek animals that are proven to be docile with older people and those with special needs.

Good Luck. Your mom's cat sounds like a nice one and might be able to bring a smile to someone else.
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Old 03-06-2012, 08:02 PM
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I tried to give away a much younger cat (5 yrs old) that was healthy and beautiful. I even bribed the adoption agencies. No one wanted it. Finally a co-worker of my wife took it. I wanted to hug her.
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Old 03-06-2012, 08:12 PM
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Sorry about your Mom, I went through a similar thing with my Mom (luckily, she didn't have a pet).

As others have said, there are no kill agencies that will take the cat (several in this area). Also, check with her Vet and other Vet's in the area, they'll be able to point you in the right direction.
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Old 03-07-2012, 01:31 AM
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Dont put the cat down, its not his fault. Keep looking a loving home will turn up. Try the allergy pills, they might just work, and if the cat is that friendly you wont regret keeping him.
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Old 03-07-2012, 07:13 AM
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Originally Posted by CaptKennyW View Post
Dont put the cat down, its not his fault. Keep looking a loving home will turn up. Try the allergy pills, they might just work, and if the cat is that friendly you wont regret keeping him.
Plus 1 on that. We found a brother and sister pair of Snowshoe Siamese in a rescue shelter when their original keeper entered a nursing home.
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Old 03-07-2012, 08:04 AM
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Originally Posted by CaptKennyW View Post
Dont put the cat down, its not his fault. Keep looking a loving home will turn up. Try the allergy pills, they might just work, and if the cat is that friendly you wont regret keeping him.

+2 on that. I was not a cat person. When I got married my wife had a cat, and since then we have had several more. I have found that they are really friendly and intelligent. They are more independent than dogs, but they are just as sensitive and caring. We now have one that is about 9 years old. We got her when my daughter was 7 and my daughter would hug the cat and the cat would scratch her when she had enough. Eventually, we had the cat completely declawed - we couldn't get my daughter to stop hugging the cat and we couldn't stop the cat from scratching my daughter! I really didn't like the cat - until my daughter was pretty sick with the flu. That cat slept with her and kept watch over her - and that won my heart. We have two other cats and this cat also protects the smaller cat from being bullied by the third cat. Contrary to popular opinion, they are pretty sociable animals!

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Originally Posted by Rascalsdad View Post
Plus 1 on that. We found a brother and sister pair of Snowshoe Siamese in a rescue shelter when their original keeper entered a nursing home.
Snowshoe here too
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Actually just went through this with my Grandmother. I can't be that much of help since I went back to school after the services and haven't asked my parents about the cat situation, but I think my Mom ended up finding a home for it. It being an indoor cat, my Dad and I joked about going over there and "leaving a door open by accident"...needless to say my Mom didn't find it as funny as we did. Sorry for this post not being much help it just reminded me of my situatuion we just went through.
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Old 03-07-2012, 01:23 PM
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In Raleigh we have a group called second chance pet adoption.....there's bound to be a group near you.

I agree...I was a dog person my whole life until my ex-wife talked me into letting her have a cat. I'm a cat person now. The last one we had, that she took with her, was absolutely the best pet I've ever had!! I miss the little guy still. Don't put the little guy down!!
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x3 on trying allergy medication and keeping the cat. Even though your mother can't keep the cat in the home most have no problem with you bringing the cat in when you visit. Think about the smile on your mothers face when you would show up with the cat to see her. It would also be a comfort to her to know that the cat was being well taken care of by you.

I am sorry to hear that you are having to resort to placing your mother. I am going through the exact same thing at the moment. When my father passed away in June 2010 I promised him I would take care of my mother and that she would live with my wife and I. She is currently 81 years old and dying of cancer because she is too weak to stand treatment. She only has around three months left and my wife and I are trying to make her last few days as comfortable as we can!
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Thanks for all the help and advice. I can live with my mild reaction to the cat, my wife on the other hand cannot and meds give her heart a problem so the Meds are pretty much out of the question.

Buster is a great cat, no doubt, I love him for giving my mom such good companionship all these years after my dad passed. He knows her every move and lets us know if something’s up with her. That's another reason it makes this choice so hard.

For the time being mom is still living in out downstairs apt but we can see the time for placing her fast approaching, just today she didn't know who's cat "buster" was. A sad time for anyone. I feel worse for the cat than anything, he's going to miss her.

Thanks again.
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Post a pic of him/her here. Miracles do happen!!
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Post a pic of him/her here. Miracles do happen!!

Thanks, maybe I will once we place mom.

I was just talking with a place that said under certain conditions they would allow the cat, so maybe, just maybe it'll work out.

I told them he could be a working cat for the home, cheering up all the old folks.
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That would be great if they would accept the cat!

If not, definitely post a picture here and someone may adopt the cat. Where are you located?

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