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Old 02-26-2012, 02:28 PM
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This is for some of the spring-chicken THT'ers:

It will make your life a lot easier if you end up with a women who contributes financially.

I'm not saying marry a rich girl (although I'm not against that).

I'm saying, it's not bad if she has a career or will eventually come into some money via inheritance etc.

I'm the breadwinner, and we have a nice life... It's cool in one sense -- but it's got it's downside: the pressure is all on me.

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Old 02-26-2012, 02:33 PM
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Most younger people think that way. There is no one breadwinner in a modern marriage so much anymore...
In fact, young people don't even want to get married..... They think it's just not worth the hassle, they want their cake and eat it too....
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My good friend ( a bit older) just married a woman with a private jet.....

She is so friggin ugly - I dont know if I could do it .... He appears happy...
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If a woman you marry has never worked a day in her life, don't be surprised when she wants to spend all the money.

Find a woman who works, knows the value of money, and is too tired to spend it 24/7.
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A man who marries for money earns every red cent.
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Old 02-26-2012, 02:57 PM
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Three words. Rock solid prenup.


And have some balls. Most of my buddies let their wives walk all over them and everybody is miserable.

You have to wear the pants.

"The only reason you need a wife is if you have some sick compulsion to give away half your stuff"-Charlie Harper
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Wow....

I'm always amazed at what some folks feel is important nowadays.

I just can't see how something like having a good woman in your life means she has to have an MBA and make $200k plus for your life to be "easier".

I guess we all have different standards that we live by. Thank God money is not something that I cherish. But that a happy life is.

If you are basically unhappy, nothing on your "outsides" is gonna make a difference. It's all about how things are going inside of you.

Try and remember your ABC's...

Attitude
Behavior
Character

They are what define you and help you to life's happiness.

Not a wife with a big paycheck.
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For me it was easy. My first wife was the complete opposite of my current wife. I got it right the second time. Dam time machine had me going in the wrong direction. LOL.

Don't bother marrying for money or not marrying for money at the end of the day circumstances can change -- and when they do, you better make dam sure you know what you're going to end up with or your screwed.

Take it from a person who knows and learned the hard way.
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All of my friends have multiple times my net worth, a few are multi-millionaires. None have been divorced, but none of them are happier than me and my wife. This is my and my wifes 2nd marraige and we might be able to retire at 66-68 if we are lucky.
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I met my wife on a blind date and her house in north Dallas was pretty darned big. Being the lazy opportunist that I was, we got engaged in five weeks and married in five months. Danged if the big house was just bigger than what I grew up in...her parents weren't loaded after all.

40 years later we've done and had more than we ever dreamed of. We did it together as a team.

Happy? yep, no question about it. I guess if two people get along and understand each other's goals and both work just as hard to reach them, then they get to be happy.

That's the recipe for a good life. The end.
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oh, and good dogs, good kids and good boats and guns. Now I'm finished.
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Old 02-26-2012, 04:04 PM
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More important than money. Marry a girl that had a decent childhood with a mom and dad in the house and who was loved. You don't want to marry a girl that never saw, as a child, how a functional family was suppose to work.

As someone on here once said, marry a girl whos dad hugged her every day.
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Im getting divorced for the second time. I married a woman I have known since high school and was not able to see her for what she really was. She spends every dime she makes and then some on clothes , shoes, and jewlery and contributed next to nothing as far as household expenses. She lied about everything and although I had my doubts I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt when she told me things. Big Mistake. Her mom told me something just before I told my wife to leave, ________ Lies about everything, always has, ever since she was a little girl. Wish i heard that little gem before I married her. Live and learn
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My wife is my bread winner, I just have a paid hobby, I travel, enjoy what I do and I can always walk away with no concerns...

After my first marriage I decided to cruise the local college campuses to find an attractive graduate student. I did, been married 11 years and fully support her carreer...and she supports my hobbies....
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If you meet the women that just makes you happier than you've ever been in your life and you never want to lose that felling or that women... you wouldn't care if you lived in a trailer park and if she works or not. But if that love is just as true for her she'll do whatever it takes to advance the both of your lives and careers. Too many couples nowadays base they relationships on financial purposes rather than their love for one another and eventually find out they never had a true loved for each other at all they thought the partner they chose could boost them both into larger income rather than a happy loving family that they probably never even considered as it sounds like you haven't.
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I'm not sure I get behind the whole concept of finding a woman with major net worth, but I will say this to young people.

Find a mate that doesn't require YOU for a good time. A woman that has her own thoughts, hobbies, self esteem and security (not financial per se) will make your relationship a keeper.

Maybe....
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I think Bamaboy said the keywords..."we did it as a team". I married someone with similar interests, we shoot, fish, boat, and playsoftball together. He has my back, and i have his.
He is away alot, and has been for a while, i never know when i am going to see him, and that would put a real strain on our marriage if we were not totally comfortable in trusting each other.
He never complains about what i spend, and i keep our family finances in order. I make more money now, but who knows what the future holds.
Our rule is any purchase over 50 bucks needs the ok from the other. So far its working well.
(if in the future he becomes my sugar daddy, i won't complain!)
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Right now I'm the bread winner but my wifey is going to school for her BSN maybe more, two small businesses, and a solid part time job while lining a better one up for the summer that matches her medical career path. All while keeping up with an 18 mo. I plan to invest more heavily that she does but when it comes to the go gettum attitude she's got me beat.
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Originally Posted by KJS View Post
More important than money. Marry a girl that had a decent childhood with a mom and dad in the house and who was loved. You don't want to marry a girl that never saw, as a child, how a functional family was suppose to work.

As someone on here once said, marry a girl whos dad hugged her every day.
Dead on 100%
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Old 02-26-2012, 08:32 PM
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Originally Posted by KJS View Post
More important than money. Marry a girl that had a decent childhood with a mom and dad in the house and who was loved. You don't want to marry a girl that never saw, as a child, how a functional family was suppose to work.

As someone on here once said, marry a girl whos dad hugged her every day.
With the divorce rate at 60% that's hard to do,the idea is solid though.

Lots of good advice in this thread
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