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Old 01-26-2012, 05:04 PM
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My wife and I often entertain the idea of relocating when the time is right, maybe 5 yrs maybe 15, however that is not the question.

Being from "Up North" and knowing the South won the war (they did), I've always had reservation about looking in places like Alabama, and Ga.

We'd want to be in a semi city/waterfront area not out in the boon dock but with me being from the North and my wife although a US citizen was born in Peru SA and it shows.

To speak with my wife you'd never know she wasn't born here, she's a college grad with a masters + 30, is politically conservative and works hard.

Still some prejudices run deep, and I've gotten the cold shoulder in places like Minnesota for being from NJ.

So do we stick with Fl. or do we venture out into other areas in search of our place to retire?

Thanks in advance! If anyone wants to say "NO don't come here" that's fine I get it, just explain why.
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I live in Philly and give people the cold shoulder from NJ. What is it about people from there and not being able to navigate around in a major city and being inconsiderate?

sorry couldn't resist, had a incident on Market st earlier today that blew my mind and yes NJ plates on the car.
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I live in Philly and give people the cold shoulder from NJ. What is it about people from there and not being able to navigate around in a major city and being inconsiderate?

sorry couldn't resist, had a incident on Market st earlier today that blew my mind and yes NJ plates on the car.

Come on, you don't want to get into this do you? After all who Booo's Santa but people from Philly!
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Us NJ drivers have the same opinion of New York drivers.
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Old 01-26-2012, 05:31 PM
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I don't think you will have problems in SC, GA, or FL because you are from up there. Jokes yes. Charleston is nice but it is a long way to the stream. Are you planning on offshore fishing? What leisure activities do you enjoy? That will help narrow your choices.
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Old 01-26-2012, 05:35 PM
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You could find a community in Florida that is probably 90% from NJ. I know the Canadians have them...

Now, just thinking...would a move into a community like that accomplish anything??
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When you come from the armpit of the United States, people from other areas assume you will be an a$$hole, since you come from a place full of them. Trust me I know, being from Mass which is desperately trying to catch up to NJ.

Let's say you grew up in Indiana, in a politically conservative area, full of friendly people. And then you go to school out in the northeast, maybe Massachusetts. You see that the are is full of extreme leftist massholes. Now you go back home, and later you meet a transplant from there. Wouldn't your first impression be less than ideal, and maybe you give them a cold shoulder?

It will take a little time, but anywhere outside of the northeast people are actually quite friendly. All other areas seem a little standoffish since you don't know anyone yet. People are only friendly to you in Jersey because they know you, just like in Mass.
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Originally Posted by 08087 View Post
Come on, you don't want to get into this do you? After all who Booo's Santa but people from Philly!
and watch out for flash mobs!

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When you come from the armpit of the United States, people from other areas assume you will be an a$$hole, since you come from a place full of them. Trust me I know, being from Mass which is desperately trying to catch up to NJ.

Let's say you grew up in Indiana, in a politically conservative area, full of friendly people. And then you go to school out in the northeast, maybe Massachusetts. You see that the are is full of extreme leftist massholes. Now you go back home, and later you meet a transplant from there. Wouldn't your first impression be less than ideal, and maybe you give them a cold shoulder?

It will take a little time, but anywhere outside of the northeast people are actually quite friendly. All other areas seem a little standoffish since you don't know anyone yet. People are only friendly to you in Jersey because they know you, just like in Mass.
Born in Philly, spent college and a decade plus in Boston and finally moved back to Philly 4 years ago. When I travel around the country I actually have to make an effort not to immediately snap at people who are being overly nice. Drives me crazy then I realize that's how most people are and I'm the A-hole.
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Born in Philly, spent college and a decade plus in Boston and finally moved back to Philly 4 years ago. When I travel around the country I actually have to make an effort not to immediately snap at people who are being overly nice. Drives me crazy then I realize that's how most people are and I'm the A-hole.
I know the feeling. The first time a stranger was being polite to me I was trying to figure out what they were trying to do. It didn't occur to me they were just being nice.
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Have you considered Savanah Georgia like Tybee Island?

The panhandle of Florida is beautiful. Ft Walton Beach, Destin area.
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To Joe, I wish I knew where you were so I can make sure we stay away.

JRolin, I have the salt in my backyard and boat at my dock, can't see me changing that for anything, maybe a real huge lake but it would have to be measured in 10's of miles.

triumphrick It would take the snow shovel out of my hand! But no I don't want to be in little NJ, just a safe place where someone with old school thoughts won't give me or my wife a hard time unless we do something to deserve it.

jobowker It may be myself imposed fear but I'm only worried about old time deep seated prejudices, I don't want to leave the town we move to and try and fill up the tank and get run out of the place because I'm not local. May sound misplaced in this day and age but I remember back and never want that to happen to me or my family.

I may seem short sighted, and don't mean to sound judgmental, I know the vast majority of people in this country are good people, but just like I don't go into parts of NJ I don't want to go where we wouldn't be welcome.
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Why are you even considering the East coast?

I came to AZ , oh, 30 years ago now and never looked back. Come. Enjoy. You'll love it for the rest of your life.

And oh... don't let anybody tell you there's no fishing or boating. I'd be happy to send you lots of pics. Yes, SALTWATER. Some of the best in the world a 3.5 hour drive south.
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Originally Posted by bjm9818 View Post
and watch out for flash mobs!



Born in Philly, spent college and a decade plus in Boston and finally moved back to Philly 4 years ago. When I travel around the country I actually have to make an effort not to immediately snap at people who are being overly nice. Drives me crazy then I realize that's how most people are and I'm the A-hole.
Oh yeah and Philly fans beat up guys from NJ at a cheese steak joint for wearing the wrong Jersey.

Being from Jersey is like being from Pa. where in the state your from makes a world of difference.
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Why are you even considering the East coast?

I came to AZ , oh, 30 years ago now and never looked back. Come. Enjoy. You'll love it for the rest of your life.

And oh... don't let anybody tell you there's no fishing or boating. I'd be happy to send you lots of pics. Yes, SALTWATER. Some of the best in the world a 3.5 hour drive south.
How I wish!
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Originally Posted by Dulcecita Lures View Post
Why are you even considering the East coast?

I came to AZ , oh, 30 years ago now and never looked back. Come. Enjoy. You'll love it for the rest of your life.

And oh... don't let anybody tell you there's no fishing or boating. I'd be happy to send you lots of pics. Yes, SALTWATER. Some of the best in the world a 3.5 hour drive south.

You'd have to show me the temps. won't go into the triple digets all summer long. I do like having my boat in my backyard, tied to my dock.
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The real problem is everyone is wired different than what happens in the NE. I've done jobs in ME, MA, NY, GA, CO. There are parts in ME where you will get nothing because you are from MA. Where I built everyone is great and there is no attitude. On W79th It was a PITA sometimes however on W57th it was expensive but they could make it happen. The building was the worst part. I can make anything happen throughout MA but I'm from here. CO was a real bitch but it got done. I ended up with a really good guy for the SSI, GA job.

I've learned that NOBODY works like we do the NE. Nobody thinks like we do the NE. We're outcasts and we hate everyone that doesn't think like we do. It is a very demanding part of the country. The rest of the people just take it easy.
I really think it's more of an education and high tech driven issue. Fact is most of these smart asses can't do it themselves so they get cranky at those who can then they bitch about the price thinking it costs too much for them to be stupid. Hell, it ain't my fault you can't do it yourself but it's not my fault I'm not a brain surgeon either.

I get a real kick out of towns that don't want to pay a cop for his masters degree but let a teacher walk all over them with their's.


BTW my mother is having a blast being a retired transplant to New Bern NC.

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You need to stop assuming what I think and read some more of what I wrote. There are pockets in most places including NJ that some people are not welcome. Ever see Deliverance? Art imitates life.

There's got to be spots in Mississippi that I might not be completely welcome and I may be wrong, (yes I said something to that effect above also).

So Joe when you say even jokingly that we should stay away for awhile longer I just need to know where you are so we don't come to an unwelcoming location. I'm all about live and let live, why should I tread on you and your way of life and make all involved uncomfortable?
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My wife and I often entertain the idea of relocating when the time is right, maybe 5 yrs maybe 15, however that is not the question.

Being from "Up North" and knowing the South won the war (they did), I've always had reservation about looking in places like Alabama, and Ga.

We'd want to be in a semi city/waterfront area not out in the boon dock but with me being from the North and my wife although a US citizen was born in Peru SA and it shows.

To speak with my wife you'd never know she wasn't born here, she's a college grad with a masters + 30, is politically conservative and works hard.

Still some prejudices run deep, and I've gotten the cold shoulder in places like Minnesota for being from NJ.

So do we stick with Fl. or do we venture out into other areas in search of our place to retire?

Thanks in advance! If anyone wants to say "NO don't come here" that's fine I get it, just explain why.

My wife is from the Dominican Rebublic and I know exactly what you are asking. We love driving in the middle of no mans land and have spent a lot of time in the back roads of the south. The funny thing is that in most cases everytime I feel a little uneasy in a area, they turn out to be the nicest people we have met and welcome us with open arms.

I'm from MA as well but from Springfield so I don't have the accent but I have been cornered in the deep woods of LA when David Duke was running for Prez and I can tell you that some of the older dudes did NOT want me anywhere near them when they found out I was from MA. We were at a bar about 20 miles in from Meterie and it didn't even have electricity and lit by candles. I pooped my pants a couple of times that night but I ended up having a blast once the beer started flowing. But other than that, most of the time has been great.
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The panhandle of Florida is beautiful. Ft Walton Beach, Destin area.
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Anywhere from Panama City Bch., FL to Orange Bch., AL is great. Pretty much conservative leaning part of Florida and S. Alabama. Not overly crowded but plenty enough city life and activities, but certainly not a major city like Atlanta, Houston, NYC. Lots of good ole southern hospitality here, and as long as we don't hear none of that "how we do it up north" stuff we're easy to get along with.
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08087.. Get your butt down here to the redneck riviera,

Throw a couple BBQ"S, Boil something with a shell on it,

fry up or grill some fishes,no prejudices down here.

Hell you'll have so many friends you will have to send us home

at gunpoint...

Seriously, the coastal communities are like no other, and you will enjoy.

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