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Old 12-03-2011, 01:25 PM
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Default My neighbor and I just got into it....

Long story short - My oldest daughter comes in crying that the neighbor was hitting our dog with a trash can and then there was a verbal confrontation .....

I have a large German Shepherd and my my kids are always running in and out of the house and sometime he gets out - I know its my fault... But my kid is crying and that really sets me off....

Pissed off, I go out and confront him and one thing leads to another and I inform him that there is a property line and if he steps over it - or verbally abuses my family again -----.. Well u get the drift...

I may have been a bit over the top and it was my fault the dog got out..... I dont want to have a feud.... But we have zero relationship with him other than a wave from time to time...

Should I just bite the bullet and apologize or just move on ignore it ;?
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wait. he verbally abused your kid? id be in the back of a cop car in cuffs now.
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wait. he verbally abused your kid? id be in the back of a cop car in cuffs now.
Knowing my daughter is a bit emotional and was on his property (driveway) getting the dog back - I am not sure "between us" that she wasn't the antagonist....
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Originally Posted by triplenet View Post

I may have been a bit over the top and it was my fault the dog got out...

You think?

Yes, give a little time for both of you to chill then go knock on his door and explain you over-reacted and apologize. Even if it was your neighbor's fault -- the better man is one that controls the situation.
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Originally Posted by Eyeball View Post
You think?

Yes, give a little time for both of you to chill then go knock on his door and explain you over-reacted and apologize. Even if it was your neighbor's fault -- the better man is one that controls the situation.
Thats the direction I am going.... I was crabby and my child crying kinda set me off....

Thanks - I just needed to vent a bit...
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Take two beers over, knock on the door, and calmly state something like, "Hey Fred, sorry my dog got out.......daughter gets a little emotional.......if there's an issue just come get me and I'll handle it.....or something like that.

If he is receptive, your the bigger man and although you may not be best friends you should have a respectful relationship.

If he is not receptive, don't try to explain further, just turn and walk away calmly and NEVER say another word to him.


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Take the initiative and speak to your neighbor, find out what, (from his perspective), happened....having a nasty relationship with a neighbor can be a stressful thing on a daily basis....
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Originally Posted by triplenet View Post
Long story short - My oldest daughter comes in crying that the neighbor was hitting our dog with a trash can and then there was a verbal confrontation .....

I have a large German Shepherd and my my kids are always running in and out of the house and sometime he gets out - I know its my fault... But my kid is crying and that really sets me off....

Pissed off, I go out and confront him and one thing leads to another and I inform him that there is a property line and if he steps over it - or verbally abuses my family again -----.. Well u get the drift...

I may have been a bit over the top and it was my fault the dog got out..... I dont want to have a feud.... But we have zero relationship with him other than a wave from time to time...

Should I just bite the bullet and apologize or just move on ignore it ;?
This sounds like the barking dog thread Well, since that thread my neigbor with a friendly dog got to babysit a inlaws dog and.. it was a different animal.. It barked from sundown to sun up in my yard. It must have been casing wildlife all night. I can't imagine how something can make that much noise all night???He is a good guy and I felt bad for him and teased the shit out of him a couple days later when I bumped into him. He was really embarrased about what had happened... If it were my dog/yours and it is on my property and not a threat to anyone... screw him. Its a dog.
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I'm having a problem with the dog being hit with a garbage can. I agree that going over makes you the bigger man and feuds with neighbors can be very stressful day to day but id want to know about the dog being hit.
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Punch him in the nose!
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Originally Posted by Eyeball View Post
You think?

Yes, give a little time for both of you to chill then go knock on his door and explain you over-reacted and apologize. Even if it was your neighbor's fault -- the better man is one that controls the situation.
Good advice.
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I'm having a problem with the dog being hit with a garbage can. I agree that going over makes you the bigger man and feuds with neighbors can be very stressful day to day but id want to know about the dog being hit.
That would depend on what the dog was doing. If the neighbor was defending himself against a dog bite, be glad he hit the dog with a garbage can instead of shooting it.

If you want to avoid problems with neighbors over dogs, start by installing a fence to keep the dog on your own property. Dunno about Florida, but it's a misdemeanor in my state to let your dog run onto someone else's property uncontrolled (as in, not on a leash), even if the dog got outside accidentally.
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Originally Posted by triplenet View Post
Knowing my daughter is a bit emotional and was on his property (driveway) getting the dog back - I am not sure "between us" that she wasn't the antagonist....
doesnt matter. he is an adult and she is a child. time to put his teeth down his throat.
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Cops just came over....

It appears that his dog was tied up in his yard while he was cleaning garage - my dog doesn't exactly like other dogs and went after his dog - so he was just protecting his dog.. I only heard that he came out beating on my dog - so bad info from the kids....

He apologized for the things he said to my daughter and I the same..... I think I will owe some vet expenses.....

Thanks guys for letting me vent....

Ok - back to the LSU v Georgia game....

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Id train your Shepard and let him take care of it
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Always good to hear both sides of the story before acting. Good for you.
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Damn...this is a whole different story!!

You didn't mention that your dog was aggressive....and to attack your neighbors dog..while in his yard??

It seems like your kinda blowing this off..like it's really not a big deal.

And now here he is next door to an aggressive dog that gets out occasionally??


What if you and your kids and your dog were in your garage and his aggressive dog came over and bit yours...and your kids are there...now what happens?

I'm just trying to provide you with my view of this...and that would be to make sure your dog is never out without a leash...roaming your neighborhood. This could turn out to be a very expensive situation for you.

If the situation was reversed, how would you be posting about things right now? Would you still be just venting?
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Cant blame him for wacking the dog,i dont care for dogs myself,if they arent on a leash and come after me,you the dog owner arent gonna like my reaction either,with that said if he verbally abused your daughter,wether she antagonized him or not I agree with above post "id be in a police car right now".i dont play that sh!t!
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Originally Posted by triumphrick View Post
Damn...this is a whole different story!!

You didn't mention that your dog was aggressive....and to attack your neighbors dog..while in his yard??

It seems like your kinda blowing this off..like it's really not a big deal.

And now here he is next door to an aggressive dog that gets out occasionally??


What if you and your kids and your dog were in your garage and his aggressive dog came over and bit yours...and your kids are there...now what happens?

I'm just trying to provide you with my view of this...and that would be to make sure your dog is never out without a leash...roaming your neighborhood. This could turn out to be a very expensive situation for you.

If the situation was reversed, how would you be posting about things right now? Would you still be just venting?
The story isnt different - there was some more info that I was just provided by the cop..... My daughter didnt inform me that our dog bit his.... She must have gotten there after the fact and she only saw him hitting our dog with the can

My dog is NOT aggressive to people.... and we take him to the dog park all the time and he plays with other dogs... He doesn't really like the neighbors dog - they bark at each other thru the fence...

Like I said,,, I didnt find out that he bit the other dog until the cop told me at the end... When I found out I wholeheartedly apologized...

As I had said since the beginning,,, this was our fault for letting him get out...

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Originally Posted by DEVLDOG View Post
Cant blame him for wacking the dog,i dont care for dogs myself,if they arent on a leash and come after me,you the dog owner arent gonna like my reaction either,with that said if he verbally abused your daughter,wether she antagonized him or not I agree with above post "id be in a police car right now".i dont play that sh!t!
We haven't heard how old the daughter is. 6? No verbal abuse. 18? She's an adult.

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