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Old 09-07-2011, 07:51 PM
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Three months ago tonight ( the 7th ) the wife dies from Cancer.
My seven yo daughter and I look at each other and have the same thought , ' this just sucks ".

I was told that it gets easier as time goes by, I hope so.
Old 09-07-2011, 07:57 PM
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That is so horrible, I don't have anything to say that can heal you both. Lean on family, friends, and each other.
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I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope it does get better with time.
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God be with you.
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I believe we would all agree, IT DOES SUCK!!
Cancer runs in my family, Mom, Dad, Grand parents, Uncle, cousins,

IT SUCKS BIG TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SCREAM IT FROM THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN!!!!

It will get better with time. Don't rush it. Cherish the time you had together.
Your daughter will be looking to you for strength and there is nothing wrong with you leaning on her just a little.

I wish you both the best.




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rough really rough. It does get better with time for some, if you allow it. My girlfriend (7 years and counting) lost her mom at 10 and she still struggles but it brought her entire family closer together. I lost my mom a few years back, and while it was sad beyond words, it was nice to finally see her out of pain. Me and my sister still cry from time to time because we miss her, but we also cry because we know she is no longer in pain.
I will say a prayer for you, your daughter, and family..
Remember "This too shall pass"
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I can't imagine, I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

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Post a pic of you three together and tell us about one of the best moments that involved all three of you..
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Very very sorry for you.
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You are stronger than I am and although I don't know why, there is a reason you are being put to this test. Your daughter needs you more than ever, your family will be in my prayers.
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Just you posting here shows that you are reaching out..and that is good. We have all lost someone close to us. Alll we had to do was live long enough. It is even harder when a child is involved.
My thoughts and prayers will be going out for you and your daughter. Be strong for her, for she really needs you now.
God bless you, and stay busy....
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Thanks, we do lean on each other and our family.
When we walk in the house we expect to see Wife/Mom and she is not there. SO we look at each other and head for the boat. The best times we had involved the boat and the beach. When my daughter and I head out we know she is with us.
We will be spending a lot of time getting the house back in order, the wifes care was number on on the list so everything else took a back seat.
Well my cooking skills have improved and I am turning in to quite the Chief !!!!!
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Want some good advice?

Tomorrow, after you eat dinner with your daughter. Go for a walk with her and hold her hand.

Report back after you do it.
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Artie I am so sorry, that is horrible. I'm a Christian and believe we will see our loved ones again. It's something that takes so long to get through though, I'm still morning my only sibling, my big brother that passed 2 years ago but it is getting somewhat easier ~ I wish I had told him how his sister (me) looked up to him. Lately I've been to way to many funerals (last week my good friends 27yo son) in the past 5 years.

Is there any way you can take your daughter on a mini vacation? Both the Carolinas are real nice right now and the Spots (small yummy fish) will be biting soon. Topsail Beach, NC is quiet and always has good fishing.

Myrtle Beach, SC got a new 200' sky wheel overlooking the ocean that I have heard is real nice. I'm just thinking that maybe getting out of the house will give you both a mental break to be in a different environment.

My heart breaks for the both of you and I will remember y'all in my prayers.
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I think the best moments you'll have with your daughter are now.

Fall asleep with her on the couch or something tonight.......hold her close. Let her know you'll always be there for her......that's what she's looking for..
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All good thoughts above. We almost lost my wife a year ago and it brought my daughter and I closer than ever. You will both get your strength from each other.

My heart goes out to both you and your daughter.
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Post as much as you can about her on this thread.... let it out, and hearing others experiences and words of support will give you strenght and will make you feel acompanied.
I have a very particular way to process death from loved ones. I rationalize it 100%. It protects me me from the pain.
It has served me my whole life.... but, what i cant stand is the pain and sorrow of the ones surviving the person that just left. It wrecks my heart of only think about your 7yo and you.
PLEASE...BE STRONG. Yohr daughter needs you.
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gonna take a lot longer than three months to get over that one. Stick it out it will get better but never go away.
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I can't wear your shoes. So so sorry.
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Really sorry. That does suck. I don't take my wife/kids mom for granted, but I just don't even think about this happening until I read something like this.

I guess no one does until it happens to them.

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