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Old 09-04-2011, 06:30 PM
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So how many of you have been through it? Did any of you sell off anything just so she didn't get it? Thinking it might be heading that way. Any advice?
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Old 09-04-2011, 06:34 PM
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sell the boat to your best friend and get all your shit out of your house, get all paperwork that is important to you, start a seperate bank account change all ur passwords switch bills around, get a lawyer and seperate yourself hope you dont have kids if you do dont feel bad just be a good father and do your best and dont let her ruin your life anymore. good luck man
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Old 09-04-2011, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by leatherneck View Post
sell the boat to your best friend and get all your shit out of your house, get all paperwork that is important to you, start a seperate bank account change all ur passwords switch bills around, get a lawyer and seperate yourself hope you dont have kids if you do dont feel bad just be a good father and do your best and dont let her ruin your life anymore. good luck man
Yup, X2.
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Old 09-04-2011, 07:03 PM
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Been there, done that.
If you have a high net worth, I'd retain the best lawyer you can...and fast.
It's all about whom has the best lawyer...

I would NOT post anything further here...nor solicit/receive advice from a fishing forum (no offense to my brethren here).

Also, if you start selling/hiding assets and it gets ugly...and she finds out (or her attorney does), you're in deep shit.

If you didn't have any combined assets prior to getting married, I'd count on her getting half of everything, plus alimony, plus child support (if applicable).

There are asterisks and extenuating circumstances that can change all of this, but if its just an uncontested "we don't love each othee anymore" deal, that's what I'd count on....

My advice (after I just said don't listen to anyone here!), try to work it out! The lawyers will bleed you dry!
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Old 09-04-2011, 07:27 PM
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honestly, and KISMETLRC is correct about dont post anymore but.....if you can and if it is possible, come to some sort of mutual agreement, dont fight if you honestly cant hash it out try to mind fuc* her and tell her it aint worth spending xy and z on lawyers, if she wants the house have her put it in her name and walk away with the boat your car or truck and your shit, if you have kids work that out too, get it notorized and file yourself, My dad didnt do it and hes gettin FUC*ED still after 14 years, i got back from my first pump, my best buddy got divorced, he took his she took hers, he gave her the car and he took his truck, everything said an done hes got a nice boat now the same truck and a new house, shes unemployed and the car got repo'd, TRY AND COME TO AN AGREEMENT. at least on what goes where, or you can drop a shit ton of $$$ and have two deuch dallahs do it for you while she shits on your heart and soul
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Old 09-04-2011, 07:28 PM
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Been there. Just went out separate ways...

She died last year, had a stroke drinking her morning mountain dew, smoking a cigarette...48 years old...got over her a LONG time ago, heard that from my daughter...

BTW, she took all my money WHILE we were married...
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Old 09-04-2011, 08:54 PM
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The system is designed to allow one or the other to make the other one absolutely miserable ... especially if there are kids involved. If one has assets, it's only that much worse because now there is a source of funding for the battle. Money to pay lawyers, experts, psychotherapists for the children, special testing, exams and reviews.

Can't handle it so I never got married and never will.

We have a pretty happy family. There is nothing to threaten one or the other about because we know the score already.

The most peaceful divorces I have seen are the ones where neither spouse had much.
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Old 09-05-2011, 01:40 AM
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best advice is no advice..cause your really not gonna listen to anyone anyways...you just have to go through it...just dont kill the bitch..
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Change passwords to bank accounts NOW, my first wife left with no warning, and at first glance, just took some furniture while I was out of town. Get home after the news, and go to access the accounts, passwords had been changed, she took off with around $40k, left me with $.78 in one account, but, in hindsight, I got the house, most of the furniture back, and her the F out of town, haven't seen her in 4 years, never heard from her, just her lawyer, so, I made out better in the deal.
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Old 09-05-2011, 03:04 AM
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Originally Posted by leatherneck View Post
sell the boat to your best friend and get all your shit out of your house, get all paperwork that is important to you, start a seperate bank account change all ur passwords switch bills around, get a lawyer and seperate yourself hope you dont have kids if you do dont feel bad just be a good father and do your best and dont let her ruin your life anymore. good luck man
I'm rolling on the floor at leathernecks post but for the most part he nailed it on the head..
you only have once chance to CYA....(cover your ass) Be as nice as you can as often as you can from here on out. If she has a lawyer "THEY" will be looking for anything they can to use in court. Remember divorce has nothing to do with you or her. Its totally up to the judge that don't know anything about the two of you the day you stand in front of him/her in court. Lawyers present your case to a judge, then he makes the choice in what your life will be like the rest of it if you have kids. If not, its all a matter of cost to you from that point on.
If by chance you two can work the divorce out yourself that would be your best move. If lawyers are involved and you are late on CYA, it can be a rocky ride on that down hill slide so make sure you have charmin.. The softer the better...
Do not argue with her about anything from here on out. You'll only cause your own stress level to rise and arguments never solved anything. People never understand that.
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Be careful on the bank account, her att. can get your balance and find where your money is going.

Been there twice, thankfully no kids involved
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I heard it's important to be the one that files for divorce. Then her attorneys fight your wishes/lawyers.

Good luck!
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"Cheaper to keep her"
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TUNASKUNKED,

1st step is personal mailbox at postnet or UPS store etc that you pay for with cash. All your account info goes there. Next step is storage unit where you put all your toys. Also pay for this with cash. Remember, anything you pay for with a credit card is traceable.

Generally speaking if you're this close to divorce its too late to hide major financial assets, otherwise I'd suggest setting up a Nevis or Cook Islands LLC that owns a Panamanian or Swiss bank account. If you're at least a year away from a divorce that's your best option. When setting this up you must not tell your lawyer what your actual intent is. I would just say you want to diversify your investments outside the US dollar or want to buy foreign real estate which you can legally do even with an IRA (must report to IRS, don't try to hide from them). Any assets on US soil can be siezed by a judge. Like someone else said post nothing else on the web. It's very easy to search out anything you've ever posted.

You didn't say where you lived but PM me and I can give you the name of a lawyer in Ft. Lauderdale who can set all that up for you. The beauty of an offshore LLC is that most of these places don't recognize civil law suits and your opponent (wife) would have to hire an attorney in Nevis (or wherever) and they don't work on contingencies. In otherwords, just to get started they have to pony up $25,000. If they do crack the LLC you've long since moved your portfolio somewhere else so they have to start all over again. You simply make your wealth to hard to pursue. Many in the medical profession use this tactic to protect assets from malpractice law suits (and wives). Good luck. Wish I had known all this when I divorced my first wife many years ago.

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1st step is personal mailbox at postnet or UPS store etc that you pay for with cash. All your account info goes there. Next step is storage unit where you put all your toys. Also pay for this with cash. Remember, anything you pay for with a credit card is traceable.

Generally speaking if you're this close to divorce its too late to hide major financial assets, otherwise I'd suggest setting up a Nevis or Cook Islands LLC that owns a Panamanian or Swiss bank account. If you're at least a year away from a divorce that's your best option. When setting this up you must not tell your lawyer what your actual intent is. I would just say you want to diversify your investments outside the US dollar or want to buy foreign real estate which you can legally do even with an IRA. Any assets on US soil can be siezed by a judge. Like someone else said post nothing else on the web. It's very esay to saech out anything you've ever posted.

Not that is some serious chit! Lol
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Old 09-05-2011, 05:45 AM
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Big question for you divorced guys. How the heck do you avoid alimony? A guy in my office got divorced after his last kid left the house. The judge slapped 4,000 dollars per month alimony on the guy and is payable till his ex turns 65. That just aint right!
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Old 09-05-2011, 06:06 AM
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How you avoid alimony is to give up the cash, all of it
I got the house and my car and nothing else and i agreed to pay for school for my daughter thru college
Had i gotten greedy i would still be writing checks

As it turns out i made a fortune selling the house after katrina but even if i hadnt i still had a place to call mine while i ate mac and cheese and rebuilt my life
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and when all said and done...don't be dumb enuff to get married again..
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and when all said and done...don't be dumb enuff to get married again..
Naw, for the right woman its definitely worth it. I hit the jackpot second time around
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we had a prenup done when we got married .dont plan on getting divorced .that way no problems with a good attorney .get all your ducks in a row .
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