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Mail carrier, paper carrier, leaving envelope for Christmas tip. Is this poor taste?

Old 12-24-2010, 11:59 AM
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I'm not a baahumbug kind of Christmas person. We donate a sizeable amount of money to our church every year. My wife, daughter, and me do volunteer work at the hospital all year long, donate money and gifts for poor families through our church, etc.

I rarely get the mail out of the mail box, or the newspaper out of the box because I get home every day from work later than my wife and daughter so I didn't know this was going on. I had a couple of days vacation and I got the mail and the newspaper when I was off. Our mail carrier left an envelope with the mail that said "Share good tidings w/ your mail carrier". I asked my wife what it was because I had never heard of this. My wife said she leaves $20 for the mail carrier and for the newspaper guy because he leaves an envelope too!

Ok call me stupid if you want, but I had never heard of this. No one tips me for doing my job every day. Hell the mail carrier probably makes more than me and for sure has WAYYYY better benefits. The newspaper guy I think is retired and only does it for something to do. He sure drives a nice truck to deliver the newspaper.

Is this normal where you live? I told my wife I think it's in very poor taste to leave a freaking envelope for money, but she has been doing it for years. I told her to forget it and I think it's BS, but she said our mail is never laying on the ground nor is our newspaper. Is that what is going to happen if they don't get their tip? They are going to throw our mail and newspaper on the ground??

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Old 12-24-2010, 12:07 PM
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That is in poor taste! I would put a note in the envelope addressing the mailpersons presumption of being owed something.

With that being said, we have established a very nice relationship with our mail carrier. The kids run out and talk to her when she drops off mail. The kids put drinks in the mailbox for her in the summer time when it is hot. Sodas and lemonade and things and some candy too. She has never asked for anything. I just came home today and the kids were excited that the mail lady gave each of them a $20 gift card! That is $80 in total! I felt kind of guilty because with all the holiday stuff I didn't think about the mail lady. We will put something in the mail box for her next week.

However, putting an envelope expecting something in the mailbox would set me off.
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Old 12-24-2010, 12:17 PM
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I'd put a note in one envelope that said "work hard and save your money". In the other envelope it would say "don't take any wooden nickels".
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I would make a donation to a local charity ( Boy's Club, Orphan's Home etc.) in the postpersons name and leave a note in his/her envelope stating thats what you did. Same $20, better cause and it better not affect your service.
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If either envelope showed up inside the mailbox without canceled postage on it, either person that placed them inside the mailbox is guilty of a federal offense.
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Old 12-24-2010, 12:51 PM
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I bet the mail man makes more $$$ than most of us and way better benefits as well, its in very bad taste.
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Old 12-24-2010, 01:16 PM
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Poor taste. Much better for them to leave a holiday card - says the same thing it's just not so "hands out".

Think of it as tips, not gifts. Tips are earned. I am rural so when these folks go out of their way it saves me trouble. I tip our trash guys cause they take stuff they're not supposed to, leave our cans secured in the driveway instead of blowing across the cornfield, hop in and move the truck when we are trying to pass, wave and are polite, etc. I tip the newspaper guy because the paper is always dry and not crushed (and they make squat). I don't tip the mailperson, she puts the stuff in the box like she gets paid well to do but if the item is too big she sets it on the ground by the post, I often get other people's mail and they get mine, etc. so no soup for her.

Obviously also depends on the relationship like previous poster said.

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Old 12-24-2010, 01:22 PM
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Give em a donation card to 'the human fund'.
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Tickets for a meal at the homeless shelter.....
Thats what I would leave
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Old 12-24-2010, 02:13 PM
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Never heard of that before. Unless they state that they are collecting for a charity, that is in incredibly bad taste.
I would put some leaves or pine straw in it.
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They could probably get fired for doing that too.
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Old 12-24-2010, 02:41 PM
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It's not about the money. It's just a nice way to say that I know you are out there every day and I appreciate what you do. That is all.

When you control the mail, you control.....information

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Poor taste on the carriers part to ask

We get holiday cards from our carrier and other service people but nobody ever asked for a gift outright. . We always respond with a card with a gift.
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Originally Posted by baypro21 View Post
I'd put a note in one envelope that said "work hard and save your money". In the other envelope it would say "don't take any wooden nickels".
How about "Don't stand up in canoes".

The one that drives me crazy is the tip jar at the coffee shop.
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I've given our mail carrier a "gift" at christmas time on several occaisions. Then 1 year I discovered that our usual carrier was on vacation, and some shmuck I didn't know got the "gift"(just a card and $10 or 20 bucks). that was the last time I did it. I don't think I'm alone in doing this, I believe it's common ,If you like the mailman, Why not? NOW as to the OP question: Yes, I think asking or even suggesting A christmas present is in order is absolutely in bad taste, And I would let them know It.
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Originally Posted by rparkssos View Post
How about "Don't stand up in canoes".

The one that drives me crazy is the tip jar at the coffee shop.
Don't get me started! there's a G'damn tip jar everywhere you go these days I ignore ALL of them.
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I think it is in VERY bad taste for them to have left an envelope, expecting, and obligating you to put money in it. If they had left a Christmas card, that's different.

Our mail carries AND our weekly refuse collection driver (who taped his to the top of the trash can!!!), left "Holiday Greeting" cards, and they both were given $20.
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Old 12-24-2010, 03:47 PM
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Quotes: "I'd put a note in one envelope that said "work hard and save your money". In the other envelope it would say "don't take any wooden nickels".

"How about "Don't stand up in canoes". End Quotes.

Those are good. I also like "Don't smoke in bed." Always like to help them out.

This is pretty common around here and I hate it also.
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I think my mom used to give the mailman $10 at christmas. I live on a rural route, and have to drive to the mailbox; never see the mailman. The only thing he delovers is junk. But I'm thinking, if they got $20 from HALF the people on the route.......

Holy Crap tht would be a lot of money
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Old 12-24-2010, 04:02 PM
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The last I checked we all have donated to the " Post Office Workers Charity"...their wages, and benefits hardly all comes from stamps sales.
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