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Old 10-26-2010, 08:22 AM
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... that your girlfriend get rid of her dog

There was a pit bull thread on here and it got me thinking about it

My girlfriend has one of these pieces of $hit. Before you go thinking I'm dating trailer trash, I'm not. She graduated college with honors and works for an oil company making more than I do. She acquired the dog because a neighbor in college was letting their 3 month old puppy starve to death in the back yard. She couldn't take it anymore and took the dog, neighbors didn't care a bit that their dog got "stolen". The dog was raised by her and is about as timid as can be, actually moreso than my lab. I'm not nervous that the dog would ever attack anything, i'm pretty sure the previous owners beat it as it gets scared when you stand up too quick, or point at it, or use a broom...etc.

The dog is currently an inside dog in her appartment. This thing really is a reject. It's allergic to grass and a bunch of other stuff. When it goes outside to piss it comes back in broken out with rashes on its feet and scratching and licking everything. Needless to say it gets a bath twice a week and still smells like ass. The furniture smells like ass; and I can't take it. She won't get rid of the dog because she loves it and is afraid someone would try to use him for fighting.

Last week we had a little talk and I basically said that if we are to ever move in together that the dog will not EVER set foot inside the house. We would have a dog run and a house outside. Being in Oklahoma and having a short haired dog in sub 10 degree weather I understand it may have to spend some nights in the garage, but that is the extent of it.
I may be a little extreme here, but i HATE this (3 year old) dog and refuse to deal with it for the next 7-10 years. I'm just afraid the situation sounds okay now, but in a couple years it could be a problem once the system is actually implemented.

Anybody have any thoughts/experience? Am I over reacting? Any good way to go about this? Think it could cause relationship problems?
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If your girlfriend is a mature adult and is serious about your relationship, she'll give up the dog. Some animals are just not meant to be pets and should be removed from the house.

Personally, I feel the dog would be better off put to sleep, it's going to be miserable no matter what you do for it. This is not something I advocate or would do lightly, I have had several pets that I agonized over the decision to put them down. At some point, one has to put aside their own selfish feelings and do what's best for the animal.

I used to live in an area that would go down to zero or lower on occasion. Somehow, we had become the drop off spot for unwanted cats. I'm allergic, so most had to stay outside. I ended up building a heated cat house and not the "happy ending" kind.
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Sounds like you should: a) don't move in with her or b) find a new GF

You are not over reacting, but why do you say only 7-10 years? Do you have to return her?
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Tough call there, buddy. All depends on how much the girlfriend means to you. Pets are often like kids. In other words - "Love me, love my kids/pets." You could actually man up and see if the vet can give the dog some injections or something to help with the allergic reactions. That would solve part of the problem.

If you insist "It's me or the dog!" don't be surprised when it turns out to be the dog. And if does turn out to be you, don't be surprised if your callousness towards the dog comes back to haunt you later in the relationship. Just sayin'...
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why do you say only 7-10 years
I'm talking about how much longer the dog is going to be alive

Personally, I feel the dog would be better off put to sleep
I'm right there with ya. you're right though, it's the bringing it up thats the hard part

Pets are often like kids. In other words - "Love me, love my kids/pets."
She already knows i hate the thing. It works for now, but we don't live together....
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Two options:

1. Shoot the dog.

2. Shoot the girlfriend, then the dog.

Either way, you win.


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When I hear Cat House, that's definitely not what comes to mind.
This is a very sensitive subject for many people. To some, the pet is as important as their kids. Others, not so much. Which is she? Ideally she'll sense your issues with the critter and resolve it without issue. I doubt it though. At this point, she has her own place and it really isn't your position to say anything IMO.... HOWEVER, Al has a couple good ideas....

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If your girlfriend is a mature adult and is serious about your relationship, she'll give up the dog. Some animals are just not meant to be pets and should be removed from the house.

Personally, I feel the dog would be better off put to sleep, it's going to be miserable no matter what you do for it. This is not something I advocate or would do lightly, I have had several pets that I agonized over the decision to put them down. At some point, one has to put aside their own selfish feelings and do what's best for the animal.

I used to live in an area that would go down to zero or lower on occasion. Somehow, we had become the drop off spot for unwanted cats. I'm allergic, so most had to stay outside. I ended up building a heated cat house and not the "happy ending" kind.
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the pet is as important as their kids. Others, not so much. Which is she
Not real sure. Early on in our relationship (now a couple years ago) she offered to get rid of the dog because I am allergic to it. I said no, I'd figure it out. That was back when I didn't know how much I hated the damned thing.

At this point, she has her own place and it really isn't your position to say anything
Absolutely. I have never once asked her to get the dog off of HER furniture. She knows the thing is not welcome at MY house. This is why I'm so concerned with the though of HER & MY house being OUR house.

Al, I would love to take option 1.... or the ole "i had to top off my antifreeze so I used the dog bowl as a drip pan and accidentally spilled.... I had no idea it would be bad for him..." I just don't think I could live with myself. I'm really hoping it just gets hit by a car or runs away.
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Sounds like you are in a real bind. She isn't going to like giving up the dog. If you force her to she will most likely hold it against you for a real long time. That dog seems like it has temperament and health problems that are only going to cause you more problems down the road. A dog that has been abused and is scared will attack out of instinct. Especially a pitt bull because they are agressive by nature. As the dog gets older and can't hear or see as well it will be even more prone to self defensively attacking. The dog is already sickly at that. With age the dog will become very expensive.

A buddy of mine is stuck with a "her dog" situation. She had the dog before they got married. She loves her dog more than anyhting in the world. He likes dogs and has one of his own that he brought to the marriage. Her dog has Lymphoma that is treatable but not curable and another cancerous tumor in one of its legs. They can't treat both at the same time. The Lymphoma treatments alone are going to cost him $20,000. He can't say chit about being realistic about the situation. She would probably leave him and use her divorce settlement to treat the dog if he mentioned putting it to sleep. She is spending all of their (mostly his) money on her dog while he sits at the house and eats romin noodles all week. All I could tell him was he could have a $20,000 basset hound or for $500 I would help make the dog dissapear or have an accident and get hit in the street. They still have a basset hound and his life sucks. The moral of this story is you either need an "accident" or deep pockets and lots of Clearatin D.
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Maybe its because we do not have animals but EVERY house we go to where there is a dog or cat smells like sh*t to me (I just shower and wash clothes when we get home).

So I am thinking maybe if you got use to your dogs smell maybe you can get use to hers.
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Originally Posted by LI Sound Grunt View Post
So I am thinking maybe if you got use to your dogs smell maybe you can get use to hers.
So now the problem is her smell?
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So I am thinking maybe if you got use to your dogs smell maybe you can get use to hers.
My dog does not smell. He literally gets a bath every day. He gets cod liver oil to keep his coat rich and gets a chlorine bath in the pool. He's actually how we keep ice from covering the pool in the winter when it gets real cold.

I think half of the reason her dog smells is because it's got dander from allergies and scratching. Then it sits on carpet/cloth furniture and bites and licks itself.

I've heard getting their nuts chopped can cut down on odor. I'm not real sure if this is true or not.

I still just don't even like the dog and don't want to be around it even if it smells like a bed of roses
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Find someone who will take your girlfriend's dog. She can give up the dog if it has a new home.

Unless the dog bites someone you do not have a reason to put it down (for years) and I don't any vet would do so. If you ask her to just give up the dog it sounds as if no one would adopt it from the SPCA and in 30 days they would put it down. Not good.
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I'm with you LI Sound Grunt. I like dogs but don't have one. Went to my nephew's new house the other day for the first time and as soon as I walked in I was assaulted with stinky dog smell. I smelled it for the rest of the day, even after I left. My wife has a cat that spends more time outside than in, no litter box inside, the cat never makes a mess, no smell.

As for the dog problem, take him for a loooooong walk, come back alone and swear something scared him and he ran off.
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Another "take" on the problem from my own prospective. When my wife and I got married, I had 3 dogs and 2 cats. She had a couple of cats, but didn't care for dogs. Neither of us were opposed to the merger of the animals, but I didn't realize until after we were married, it was going to be under her terms. I was busy with my business and never really "stood up" for "my rights". In retrospect, I think if I had worked at compromise rather than just giving in to avoid problems, we would have had a better marriage.

I don't think making her pick between you and the dog is wise. I would simply let her know there's no way you can live with the dog. If she wants to discuss it, explain why you're so adamant. If she's unyielding, maybe she's not the one. Believe me, if she's going to put that dog ahead of you now, you're going to end up so far down the totem pole, you won't be able to see the Indian from where you'll be sitting.
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No disrespect to the OP but I am cracking up. This is the funniest thread on THT in a while. Keep it up.
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You messed up buddy by letting her know you disliked it. If it "disappears" you'd be the first suspect. Maybe you could coax a friend into "assisting" to give your conscience a break.
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Maybe you could coax a friend into "assisting" to give your conscience a break
Oh it's been thougth of. I've got a buddy that said it'd only cost me 50 bucks to put a hit on the damn thing. I still don't think I could do it. It would wreck her world
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Tell her how you feel.

It's a rescued mutt with allergies and it stinks.

Suggest that she start over with a puppy of a breed that you both can enjoy.

If that fails, slip the mutt an ExLax 'cookie' treat now and then.

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