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Old 10-24-2010, 07:00 AM
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I know many folks have been through what we are going through now but my 82 yr old Dad is at Hospice for his final days due to bacterial infection in his blood system and congestive heart failure.

I know and understand it is the circle of life we go through and we have been very fortunate in that My Pop has never had any health issues other than a couple heart attacks and 18 yrs ago bypass surgery which never even slowed him down. In the last couple of years he has really gone down to the point where he does not drive anymore.

Pop is a retired Public school teacher, Baptist Minister(he has for most of my life been a bi-vocational minister working in smaller churches and most of his church members from his last church called him Preacher Pop). He is the Greatest man I have ever know and has always been a born leader and genuine man, VERY OPINIONATED and VERY STRONG WILLED but everyone and anyone that knows him says the same thing, Mr Price is the SWEETEST MAN I HAVE EVER KNOWN.

He has touch so many lives over the years through his work in the public school system(guidance counselor and later Drivers Education Instructor) and also naturally through his Minister duties and he has also worked in our family business (Income Tax and Bookkeeping which was established in 1941 by his Mother and my Grandmother)

We moved him from the local hospital to Hospice last Tuesday afternoon and he is getting very weak and his voice is very hard to hear, we are told that he has a few days left at best but he is in no pain and the folks at Hospice have told us they have never seen so many people come to pay respects to one man.

Admiral and I sat with him last night and he grinned when I told him our Clemson Tigers won on Saturday.

I have heard people for years talk about how hard it is to go through this and while I realize he has a much better place ready for him it is still harder to let him go than I thought

I appreciate any prayers and thoughts, by way my Dad was never much of an outdoorsman(I hunt, fish, golf and etc) but the one thing he LOVED to do was offshore fish and we always went 4-5 times a year, He loved being out in the ocean and in fact last few times we went he enjoyed just sitting there and watching us fish

When the time comes he will be missed but I will always treasure the times he spent with me despite his very busy schedule, in fact I NEVER played in a high school sport where I could not hear his "loud mouth" in the stands, he never missed any event I was in and taught me to do the same for my son and daughter and more than anything taught me how to be a Family Man, a leader, to volunteer my time, and more than anything how to be a Christian
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Very sorry to hear it. God bless.

Don't forget to take care of yourself. I've been dealing with my Mom's Alzheimers and this stuff really breaks you down. Wife "reminds" me all the time but I just trudge on.
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Hang in there and I'll say a prayer for your dad!
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Sounds like he is a great man and a great Father.

My prayers go out to both him and your family.
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That's a very difficult time indeed. Focus on the positive.

Stay strong - you'd be amazed what we can get through.

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My Dad had a stoke and never knew what hit him. He was just gone. No one had any last words or a chance to get ready for the loss.

The small comfort I can offer is that you have had the chance to talk with him about whatever you and he wanted these past weeks. Spend your time with him.
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it's tough and no way around it. God love your dad. Hang in there. Be strong don't make him feel worse for leaving you behind, be up lifting for him.
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I went through that 2 years ago. You will be in our prayers.
We had a wake after Dad passed away that lasted for 2 days. The process is to tell favorite stories about him. Remember the great times and replace the bad memories of his final days.
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My Dad had a stoke and never knew what hit him. He was just gone. No one had any last words or a chance to get ready for the loss.

The small comfort I can offer is that you have had the chance to talk with him about whatever you and he wanted these past weeks. Spend your time with him.
Thanks, had a talk with one of my employees yesterday and he told me he had a similar situation with his Dad, his Dad was killed in a car wreck on way home from work and then never got to say goodbyes.

We all know where Pop's next breath will be when he takes his last on earth and I have really treasured the last week or so just being with him and talking to him.

In fact I stopped in to see him yesterday about 7 am on way to my office and his muffled voice uttered the words " I love you and I am proud of you", my response to him was YOU made me the man I am Pop and will always love you.

Just talked with my sister and nurse said they are having hard time waking him up this am, we are headed up after church unless something changes suddenly.

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers
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Sometimes death is better then the circumstances that lead up to it, for you know and I know. That we would rather see them pass then to suffer. Death right now just leads us to a better place in the future. All aside I feel and wish you and your family the best tprice
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Sometimes death is better then the circumstances that lead up to it, for you know and I know. That we would rather see them pass then to suffer. Death right now just leads us to a better place in the future. All aside I feel and wish you and your family the best tprice
I agree. I had to watch my father go through a slow death and while we all got to be there with him, it rips your heart out to see them go slow. Prayer to you and your family.. May God lift your burdens...
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He truly sounds like a man we all would have been blessed to know. Prayers to you and your family.
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thoughts and prayers sent,,,hang in there be strong
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Your posting here is a great way to honor your father. He did a good job.


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Sorry to hear this.

Just remember he lives on within you and your children. Youall have lots of time left to make him proud.
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Sounds like you have a great Dad tprice. That's a tough thing to have to go thru. Prayers are with you and your family
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Lost my dad a little over a year ago. I miss him.

It's good that you can be there with him.
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I'll tell you something I was told when I lost my Mother.

You will think about your lost parent every day. With time, remembering becomes less painful and more enjoyable.

12 years later- I have found it to be true in my case.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am dealing with a serious health issue with my wife now so I understand your stress.
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Like father, like son. He will go to his Father and will continue here on earth through you and all those whose lives he touched.

Your post is very similar to what I went through with my mother, a story I'll share someday if it would help you cope.

God bless you and yours.

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